Do you like to make eye contact?

[UglyCasanova]

I find it uncomfortable in many cases and I have no idea why. Sometimes (especially with someone I am comfortable with) it's fine, other times it bothers me and I try to avert my eyes for some reason.

 

[Pardus]

I find it uncomfortable in many cases and I have no idea why. Sometimes (especially with someone I am comfortable with) it's fine, other times it bothers me and I try to avert my eyes for some reason.

Making greater eye contact with others can increase the quality of all of your face-to-face interactions; there’s no area of your life where being seen as more attractive, confident, and trustworthy wouldn’t be a boon.

Being able to look people in the eye and hold their gaze can help you better network with others, land a job, pitch an idea, make a moving speech, woo the ladies, and intimidate your enemies.

 

[Jeff7]

Nope, not a fan of it.

 

[ch33zw1z]

Yes. I don't always do it, but I try to make it a point to. I also teach my kids to the do the same. If you want to know what people are really thinking, it's often found in the eyes.

 

[John Connor]

My supervisor at a job I had never could look into my eyes when she talked. It was really weird!

 

[MongGrel]

I always do, makes me wonder why some people seem skittish around me.

 

[shortylickens]

I dont.

People always seem to take it as a sign of confrontation. And I'm too old to be fist-fighting random assholes.

 

[pete6032]

Yep I get on the subway and stare at people until they look back, then I just continue staring at them. Feels so good.

 

[bononos]

My supervisor at a job I had never could look into my eyes when she talked. It was really weird!

Was she really good looking?

 

[BoomerD]

you betcha. I always look people in the eyes. Deferring your eyes is a sign of weakness.

 

[John Connor]

Was she really good looking?

LOL! She was blonde and at the time I was working with my dad and my mom suspected him cheating on her with this bitch. I didn't care for her. Had a druggie fucked up husband and was a church freak.

I really don't want to say no more, but my parents are still together after that madness. Freaking miracle!

 

[Chocu1a]

Always.
Especially when I slow jerk

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Even though I'm a total omega-male manlet in most situations, eye contact with people I know and am talking to isn't an issue for me. If you mean looking random people down the hall in the eye, however, then yeah I usually don't do that.

 

[GrumpyMan]

My eyes drill a hole through the skull of the person I'm talking to. I don't trust people who can't look me in eye, at least occasionally. And if you are checking your phone while talking to me (women especially), you are immediately dismissed as a talking to option.

 

[PlanetJosh]

A downside to looking someone in the eye is the risk of falling in love with that person when you already have a significant other. But not much choice, you generally need eye contact to promote business and keep your job. Maybe not every time as shown earlier but generally.

 

[shortylickens]

My eyes drill a hole through the skull of the person I'm talking to. I don't trust people who can't look me in eye, at least occasionally. And if you are checking your phone while talking to me (women especially), you are immediately dismissed as a talking to option.

 

[ThatsABigOne]

My eyes drill a hole through the skull of the person I'm talking to. I don't trust people who can't look me in eye, at least occasionally. And if you are checking your phone while talking to me (women especially), you are immediately dismissed as a talking to option.

That is usually what I do, but I excuse them when they have to use the phone.

 

[Jaskalas]

Not generally, no.

Probably due to the confrontational nature of it, and the best way to win a confrontation is not to start one. Second best way is after they dismiss you and lower their guard. :ninja:

 

[SketchMaster]

As much as possible.

 

[blankslate]

It depends on the situation...

With strangers, you don't know if the person is maladjusted and would see that as a sign of confrontation.

With co-workers and especially supervisors when you're speaking about work subject do make eye-contact. If you're uncomfortable with eye contact look at their eyebrows or something.

Being able to look at someone's face while your relaying information is basic body language indicating trustworthiness. Yeah it's dumb reptile brain reality but if you tend to look avoid while eye contact talking to people it's not always good.

Just personal observation and experience.


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[Udgnim]

I'm introverted and not social at all, but have no problem making eye contact with people when talking with them unless they themselves look to be purposefully avoiding it then I look to the side so it feels less awkward

 

[Capt.OBViOUS]

Looking in the eyes is not hard for me,but the duration and frequency bothers me.

 

[UglyCasanova]

Looking in the eyes is not hard for me,but the duration and frequency bothers me.

I guess that's my problem. It's easy enough, but for how long? As time goes on it's more and more uncomfortable.

 

[Capt.OBViOUS]

I guess that's my problem. It's easy enough, but for how long? As time goes on it's more and more uncomfortable.

I have read somewhere that if you focus on the area between the eyebrows of the other person,during an eyecontact,you can present a false impression that you are looking at his eyes.Dont know how you can fake it long enough.

 

[blankslate]

I have read somewhere that if you focus on the area between the eyebrows of the other person,during an eyecontact,you can present a false impression that you are looking at his eyes.Dont know how you can fake it long enough.

It probably works better than one would think because the other person may be doing the same thing and as long as you're looking at the vicinity of their eyes it's good enough.

Better than looking at something to the side or behind them.

imo.