Do you have a bad relationship with your father?

[raildogg]

I think we can all agree that alcoholism changes a person. Especially, your father.

 

[TripleAAA]

I haven't spoken to my father for close to two years now. It's very complicated though.

 

[IMaN00BieGF]

Yes, I'll probably never have a good relationship with him, but hes insensitive abusive jerk

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: raildogg
This is not your typical "I hate my father" thread.

Me and my father never got along. Even when I was little I didn't speak to him and vice versa. Now that I'm older, the same. We walk by each other. We had a nasty fight about a year ago that totally ruined our relationship.

About a month or so ago, we made up. I was at home just sitting and he hugged me. It was a good night.

I am a bad son, I will admit. But I think there is something between us that can't get along. The odd thing is that we are alike in many ways. What is sad is that my mom is the one usually who has the hardest time with it.

My dad is such a great guy. He is one of the most generous, caring, understanding people I've ever met. But once he consumes alcohol, he becomes a totally different person. Although, even when he is sober, he and I don't speak.

When I was little, he would always complain how I don't do this or don't do that. I don't mind criticism but he constantly repeats himself over and over again. He is a drinker so when he drinks, he repeats it more and more.

Well, tonight, I am home and he started talking BS again. About how I hurt them, my parents, when I was a kid. How bad I was etc.

So I'm assuming the relationship is bad again and no more talking to him. Oh well. So be it. I still love him and he still loves me, but I guess we were not made to be your typical father-son team.

i'll take him if you don't want him.

 

[raildogg]

Confirmed:

He is an @sshole. Fvk him.

 

[pulse8]

No. I have a good relationship with my father.

 

[Imported]

I have a good relationship with my father.. and mother too.

 

[Yongsta]

Pretty good, but it could be better.

 

[IMaN00BieGF]

No, I don't have a very good relatonship with my father. He's always been away busy working and when he came home he would harass me about not being good enough and being fat, so now I'm terribly insecure with an eating disorder. I've always been mad at him and blamed him for certain things, but I found out tonight that he has Emphysema... but they caught it in the early stages. I don't know what to think or do. Part of me feels bad for hating him, but part of me just wishes things were different and that we got along.

 

[raildogg]

You know what, if I ever have a kid, I would never treat him or her the way he has treated me. He has not physically abused me, but the verbal crap is just too much. I despise him and he equally hates me. We really do hate each other. Again, fvck him and I'm going to totally avoid all contact with him.

LOL, why am I writing this? Oh well, time to go to sleep.

 

[6000SUX]

Nope. One of my more vivid memories of him is of him strangling one of our dogs when I was a child, and while he didn't exactly beat me there was other stuff that happened, like choking me until I passed out. I haven't invited him to see my ten-month-old son, either. The last time we talked was about two years ago. We were cordial before that.

My relationship with my mother is bad too, mostly because she constantly seems to be teetering on the edge of sanity. She mostly stuck to non-physical stuff, like telling me (when I was young) that I was going to grow up to be a rapist and killer. (No, I never did anything sick to prompt this; I was very shy and bookish and liked animals.) I know it sounds like a joke, but it happened. I keep my life simple by staying away from both of them.

I feel sorry for you because you're in pain, but I think you might have more to work with than me, not that I'm feeling sorry for myself. I think a good test is this: would you cry at your father's funeral? I wouldn't even be there. I go for months at a time without even remembering that I have blood relatives, until someone asks me about them.

 

[The Batt?sai]

i never knew my father. he got a divorce when i was little.

 

[altonb1]

My dad lives 1200 miles away, but we get along ok

 

[aidanjm]

I'm not close with my father, but that would be because he is from another generation and is apparently not capable of emotiional closeness.