Do you have a bad relationship with your father?

[Jikininki]

I don't have much of a relationship with my dad.....anymore.

I dunno..I remember when I was little he used to take me on trips and he'd let me ride on his back or shoulders. But as I got older he kinda just became a money dispenser. He kinda became a hermit (to the outside world mostly) and we hardly spoke. We went from a photo albums full of pictures of me and dad to none of dad at all.

Now he's this total backwards old-er man who thinks that the minute his daughter steps out of the house she'll get raped or killed. He actually believes that his "fear" for my "safety" is valid and warranted. I don't know what his deal is..maybe he's starting to regret that he was never more than an ATM machine to me and now wants to be the responsibe "caring" dad. (btw..i've NEVER asked him for money...he always gave willingly). And i'm willing to bet he knows just how much I resent him for being this way too...but he is showing no signs of getting the hint that his little girl is no longer a little girl anymore.

or maybe he just thinks i "owe" him now for all the money he's given/spent on me. But i refuse to believe my dad is a selfish jerk like that....cause otherwise i'd hate him too much. Funny thing also tho..he's the ONLY person in my entire family I fear disappointing and hurting...which is probably why I can't stand up to him and tell him to let me be 22 and not 12. Oh wells...lol.

 

[engineereeyore]

Don't have the best relationship with my father either. My parents are divorced because he was unable to keep his penis in his pants. Almost completely ruined our family all because he couldn't learn a little freakin control. Treated women like objects and thought their only purpose was to serve him. It's a big reason why I hate pornography, prostitution, strip clubs, and everything else that makes people think sexual desires are not meant to be controlled. Absolutely hate what it does to families and how it affects people who did nothing wrong.

 

[walrus]

Mine was a psychopath and a con man. He was also was an alcoholic. He supported himself by borrowing money from friends and acquaintances and a few lame scams. When I was six I stoped calling him Dad and always called him by his first name. We had no relationship at all. He was a gifted sweet talker and could talk himself into or out of anything, but he never had two words to say to me. He was vicious, violent, cruel and abusive to me, my Mom and my sister. Good riddance to him!

 

[mordantmonkey]

I haven't seen my dad since i was 3. don't really care to either. I figure if he wants to find me he can, but i'm not gonna waste my time worring about it. As far as I'm concerned, my father (step-dad) died when i was 17.

 

[krunchykrome]

We dont have a good relationship. We never talk, we argue at least once a week. He doesnt know anything about me. The only conversation he knows how to engage in is if it belittles me, puts me down, or insults me in some way. Among other things which I'm not gonna get into, he's not an admirable person in my eyes. He deserves some repect considering what he has accomplished considering he came here with nothing, but he's not admirable to me.

 

[Vegitto]

Well, my dad and me have a varying relationship. Sometimes we hate each other and fight (physically). Sometimes I win, sometimes he wins. Depends on how much he's drunk. Other times (now, for example) we like each other.

 

[pnad]

Originally posted by: her209
I used to have a good relationship with him. That was until he walked out on my mom and my brothers/sisters to be with his whore.

Am I the only one that was hoping whore was a link?

 

[ngvepforever2]

I differn in many ideas that my parents have (especially my dad), but I try to understand them. Nonetheless, they are the best parents in the whole universe.

Regards

ng

 

[NTB]

I would say that I just really don't have a relationship with my father, period. It's not bad, it's not great, it's just not much. I don't know if it's because we're so much different from eachother or what, but for the most part he is a mystery to me. And, judging by the way he acts around me sometimes, I'd say the opposite is true, also.

Nate

 

[iRONic]

As a child I worshipped my father.

As an adolescent he was my friend.

As a teenager he was my nemesis.

I left his house at 20 to make my way in the world. I am successful because of his wisdom and the way I was raised.

The older I get the smarter he becomes.

My father is my hero.

 

[Accipiter22]

how to answer how to answer...how to answer

 

[n yusef]

My parents separated when I was two years old. Even though my step-father has been in my life since I was four, my real father figure was my grandfather, who died when I was fifteen.

My bio-father has never been a presence in my life, but for some reason he sent me $20 for my 18th birthday. I promtly sent it back, because that's the nice thing to do when a stanger mistakenly lost his money and you found it.

EDIT: Oops, IDK why I quoted that.

 

[phantom309]

I love my dad. I'm 45 years old and I still brag about him. But we didn't get along too well in my teenage years and 20s. I know it's a cliche, but you don't really appreciate your parents until you've got a family of your own.

 

[TitanDiddly]

Yes. Both parents, to a degree.

 

[NTB]

Originally posted by: iRONic

The older I get the smarter he becomes.

lol That's usually the way it goes.

Nate

 

[imthebadguy]

nah not at all

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: dartworth
fvck him if he can't take a joke...

:laugh:

i dont have a bad relationship with my father. we dont get along from time to time, but its rarely anything serious. were both dicks now and again, but for the most part we have a really good relationship.

 

[Koing]

No. Me and my father get along great.

We compete in press ups, jumping etc.

Koing

 

[j00fek]

used to but when i moved out it got better every yr, now its great

 

[Dissipate]

I get along with my dad but I have finally come to fully realize his faults. For the life of him the man can't handle money. He has big debt, has had horrible tax problems, and owns a house that is essentially falling apart. Not too long ago I found out he was paying out hundreds and hundreds of dollars in cell phone bills for cell phones that no one even used! I repeatedly told him to cancel the cell phones but he just 'never got around to it.' Finally, I had to call up the operator myself and do it for him. Frankly, the man hasn't a single clue as to how much money he has coming in vs. how much he as going out at any given moment. He has bill collectors calling him all the time and once told me that he lives in fear of them.

While growing up we have had the water shut off, the electricity shut off, the Internet shut off, the house go into forclosure(which they were able to get out of by borrowing from my uncle), and their bank accounts raided by the IRS (at different times). The bizarre aspect of all this is that he and my mom are both lawyers who both make six figures plus.

Now that I am in college things haven't gotten any better. I practically have to call them up every 3 days just to get food to eat. I'm definately getting a job this summer.

 

[gonzaga1751]

I love my real dad but don't really even like my step dad

 

[iRONic]

Originally posted by: Dissipate
The bizarre aspect of all this is that he and my mom are both lawyers who both make six figures plus.

Whoa...

 

[poopaskoopa]

I had a bad relationship with my father. He was an alcoholic and I pushed him away. When I last saw him he was drunk and he said that I hate him. I didn't hate him, but I was admittedly pissed at him for having been drunk for all but 2 days that I was there(I was visiting him in Hong Kong). Anyway, our soured relationship was a well-known fact on his side of the family and they didn't tell me anything when he passed away. They only contacted me when the lawyers figured out that they need me to sign some papers to decide what to do with the house. It's difficult to describe all the emotions associated with the whole thing. It's a strange mix of sorrow, disappointment, and a sense of detachment along with a bunch of other stuff.

 

[Gravity]

You are called to honor him, regardless of how you feel. Even if he's a tard.

That can be a challenge but I've seen it done and it inspired me to do the same.

 

[Fraggable]

my dad rules. He's more than I deserve.