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Do you hate making eye contact with people?

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Originally posted by: jlbenedict
Originally posted by: Kristi2k
Wow, look at how the "internet" has changed people today... nobody can perform a good handshake, have good eye contact or give proper salutations. Get over your insecurities, if you don't look them in the eye than they will think something of you.
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Sounds like you have a stick up your @$$ to me. You know people just don't have the time for a handshake these days.

</sarcasm>


On a serious note; :thumbsup:
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:beer:😀

- M4H
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Here's a question for all you "alpha male" and "intimidating" macho men out there.

What the FSCK is the use of making someone "squirm or back off" or getting the "advantage" in a conversation?

WTF? 😕 :laugh:

:shocked: YTMND!
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It's not so much to incite fear as to demand respect.

- M4H
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All these e-psychos and their X-ray vision creep me out, man.

*ATOT macho guy enters room*

me: "Hey, how you doin'?"
macho: *stares hard, brow furrows, breaking a sweat*
me: "uh, you ok? what are you trying to do?"
macho: "I'M TRYING TO PWN YOU!!!!111!1 ARGHHHH"
me: "rrright..." /backs away slowly
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Here's a question for all you "alpha male" and "intimidating" macho men out there.

What the FSCK is the use of making someone "squirm or back off" or getting the "advantage" in a conversation?

WTF? 😕 :laugh:

:shocked: YTMND!
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It's not so much to incite fear as to demand respect.

- M4H
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All these e-psychos and their X-ray vision creep me out, man.

*ATOT macho guy enters room*

me: "Hey, how you doin'?"
macho: *stares hard, brow furrows, breaking a sweat*
me: "uh, you ok? what are you trying to do?"
macho: "I'M TRYING TO PWN YOU!!!!111!1 ARGHHHH"
me: "rrright..." /backs away slowly
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:laugh:

Sure, if they did that constantly, that's :wtfzors; ... but I assume they mean in one-to-one, more formal conversations; ie, when at work.

Besides, compare it to:

*ATOT emo guy enters room*

melty: "Hey, how you doin'?"
emo: *looks away, hides face, mumbles*
melty: "Do0d, you OK?"
emo: *covers face, whimpers*
melty: "Do you need an adult?"
emo: *cries*
melty: *backs away slowly*

😛

Also, limp handshakes FTMFL.

- M4H
 
No problems with it. I am blessed with the type of brow that can be piercing or totally open looking. It helps to steer situations my direction... or away... depending on what I want.
 
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
*ATOT emo guy enters room*

melty: "Hey, how you doin'?"
emo: *looks away, hides face, mumbles "I'll kill you in your sleep"*
melty: "Do0d, you OK?"
emo: *covers face, whimpers "crawwwling in my skiiiiin"*
melty: "Do you need an adult?"
emo: *cries*
melty: *backs away slowly*

😛

Also, limp handshakes FTMFL.

- M4H
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Fixed, and internet X-ray vision guy & emo kid would make a great team. One guy is the brains and the other is the muscle! 😀

emo: "pwn him with the X-ray vision while I blacken his soul with thoughts of disparity!"
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
*ATOT emo guy enters room*

melty: "Hey, how you doin'?"
emo: *looks away, hides face, mumbles "I'll kill you in your sleep"*
melty: "Do0d, you OK?"
emo: *covers face, whimpers "crawwwling in my skiiiiin"*
melty: "Do you need an adult?"
emo: *cries*
melty: *backs away slowly*

😛

Also, limp handshakes FTMFL.

- M4H
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Fixed, and internet X-ray vision guy & emo kid would make a great team. One guy is the brains and the other is the muscle! 😀

emo: "pwn him with the X-ray vision while I blacken his soul with thoughts of disparity!"
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Roflicious! :laugh:

- M4H
 
I almost never look at people in the eye. For the longest time I wasn't even conscious that I don't make eye contact. I just can't do it, it's "creepy". I have to look at the wall, the table, my hands, something else.

Of course I know I am somewhere on the autistic spectrum and not making eye contact is just a behavioral trait of mine.
 
Originally posted by: mithrandir2001
I almost never look at people in the eye. For the longest time I wasn't even conscious that I don't make eye contact. I just can't do it, it's "creepy". I have to look at the wall, the table, my hands, something else.

Of course I know I am somewhere on the autistic spectrum and not making eye contact is just a behavioral trait of mine.
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Mine too.

 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I know you're supposed to make eye contact in conversations, but I HATE it...I feel like people are going to laugh at me, or like they're looking right through me. I figured no one would get what I mean, but quite a few people that I've spoken with agree with me. What do you guys think?
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I get exactly what you mean. I used to feel that way, always thought people were thinking to themselves that they hate me or that they don't take me seriously. I've been like that for as long as I can remember, and always hated people saying I'm shy. I think now it's that I can sense when people are being phony or insincere, and I hate that and don't like to be like that either. As a result, I usually didn't (and still don't, to some degree) don't like to start conversations with certain strangers. With people I know and trust, it's a different story. But now I'm at a point were I don't care what other people think of me that much, and I'll stare someone straight in the eyes and talk to them and not feel weird.

I see now that everyone pretty much has insecurities and wears "masks", and that's just the way it is in a world filled with distrust and sin. All I can do is stay true not only to myself, but to everyone else as well.
 
I used to mind, but not so much anymore. I used to think intense eye-contact was reserved for people you were in love with, and I always felt awkward looking people in the eye. It's mostly mental, you're just thinking about the eye-contact when it happens instead of just doing it because it's natural and focusing on the conversation.
 
I am fairly nonconfrontational most of the time and have never been able to make prolonged eye contact with strangers, but I read an article that someone posted a link to on here recently and decided to see what happens when I do, an experiment. The guy in the article said he would talk to himself in his head, "Are her eyes hazel or green? Hmm, maybe green." and stuff like that. That works for me, it is easier to look at people's eyes more than a flash if you depersonalize the whole thing a little bit. One thing I've noticed that 1) sometimes guys react to me like I'm flirting (one guy raised his eyebrows in a flirty way, just someone passing by in the store), 2) people waiting on you (bank tellers, store clerks, etc) give you their UNDIVIDED attention, 3) a few people act like I'm being really aggressive or intimidating (mostly women) and 4) generally people respond as if I'm completely trustworthy and more or less roll over and do what I'm asking them to do. It's been enlightening and interesting.
 
Originally posted by: savoyboy
btw, the best way to make eye contact without making eye contact is to focus on the person's left or right ear
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That really doesn't work as eye contact. People can tell you're not looking at their eyes and start to wonder if there's something weird about their ear (or forehead or nose or eyebrow) when you do that.
 
Originally posted by: getbush
I will stare someone down until they submit to my staring superiority and I have no qualms about it haha

Oh that's another good point. If you're talking to a hot chick you've got to lock on to the eyes because if you lose that control, they are going straight to the boobs no ifs ands or butts.
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Sometimes my gaze goes straight to the butt, but only because I'm checking to see if there's a stick there.
 
no, why would you not want to make eye contact with ppl especiall while talking to them? what are you trying to hide?!?!!?!? either you have somethign to hide or you are trying to hide the fact that you are inferior
 
Originally posted by: DLeRium
Guys.. I have trouble making eye contact.

Girls, no issues...

Then again I'm going through a phase where I talk to more girls than guys... A lot more girls than guys. Opposite of high school.. interesting though...
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same here..

no problems approaching a random girl.

but i cringe at meeting a fellow co-worker's husband at a party because i know he's going to think i'm aloof because of lack of eye contact.

male co-workers are different. in a work environment, it's like i'm 'trained' to look everyone in the eye.
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
This AGAIN?! :roll:

Of course I make eye contact when I'm talking to someone! Otherwise, I'd be a weirdo freak that acts like Rainman.

WTF do you look at when people are talking to you?

This thread is sad.
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meltdown75
Lifer
Posts: 19254
Joined: 11/17/2004

from a guy that has 25 posts/day :Q

kettle, meet pot
 
Originally posted by: JEDI
Originally posted by: meltdown75
This AGAIN?! :roll:

Of course I make eye contact when I'm talking to someone! Otherwise, I'd be a weirdo freak that acts like Rainman.

WTF do you look at when people are talking to you?

This thread is sad.
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meltdown75
Lifer
Posts: 19254
Joined: 11/17/2004

from a guy that has 25 posts/day :Q

kettle, meet pot
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What the hell does neffing at work have to do with eye contact? 😕

Besides, 17,000 of those posts were from pre-2006.

/flip
 

" The moment you even look at a person you have formed a magnetic exchange of vibrations.

If you look at a sensual person, a magnet of lower or grosser vibration will be formed; and if

you mix with spiritual people the exchange of magnetism will be on a higher vibratory plane.

You are constantly exchanging magnetism, often unknowingly, by thinking of ,

by shaking hands with, or just by looking into the eyes of another person. "
 
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