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Do you hate making eye contact with people?

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Originally posted by: Dacalo
In our company, I noticed that most people who are grunts tend to avoid eye contacts while the management do not. Confidence FTW.
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You'd be surprised just how much body language plays in business. It's probably the best skill to develop. You can completely dominate and control any situation just by your body language, especially eye contact.
 
I never did like making eye contact. It feels like just staring blankly, and it doesn't really seem to accomplish a whole lot. Makes me feel a bit jittery and nervous too.


Originally posted by: Troll4Hire
I cant even begin to tell you how many girls have stared right back at me then given me their phone numbers. All because I gave them eye contact. Just imagine what happened next....
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The phone number turned out to be for a Pizza Hut?



Originally posted by: The Pentium Guy
Eye language says a lot. Your eyes can convey a variety of guestures. If you're trying to intimidate - stare directly into the person's pupil and fixate your gaze, but don't give it a bored look. This really makes the other person squirm or back off, because they know you're confident in yourself. Think about it, if you look down on the floor it shows that you're unsure of yourself, and you lose your advantage. Look away once in a while - or look at the other eye.

Give it a try you'll be suprised at how one simple guesture changes the other person's reaction.
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I guess mine don't lie then. If I'm looking away, and that's supposed to indicate that I feel nervous or not at ease, it's accurate.



Originally posted by: CraigRT
no, i hate people who don't make eye contact, they are just plain weird.
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Hey! That's....I.....ooooh. If I had a good rebuttal, I'd so use it right now. But you're right. 🙂



Originally posted by: spidey07
You'd be surprised just how much body language plays in business. It's probably the best skill to develop. You can completely dominate and control any situation just by your body language, especially eye contact.
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Which kind of sucks, too. You're judged on how you move and act, not based on your merits and how well you can accomplish a job, or the merits of the product you're trying to sell.
 
Originally posted by: Jeff7
Which kind of sucks, too. You're judged on how you move and act, not based on your merits and how well you can accomplish a job, or the merits of the product you're trying to sell.
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That's the way the world works. Use it to your advantage.

Perception is reality.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Originally posted by: Jeff7
Which kind of sucks, too. You're judged on how you move and act, not based on your merits and how well you can accomplish a job, or the merits of the product you're trying to sell.
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That's the way the world works. Use it to your advantage.

Perception is reality.
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QFT

It is not what you are it is what others think you are.

When I talk I hmake 100% eye contact, then the other person always looks away so i usualyl beging to tae thas as a cue to loosen up and look away once in a while.
 
I don't think it's a question of dominance or assuming an air of confidence.
Sometimes I avoid eye contact simply because the other person is boring or taking up too much of my time. Disinterest will cause you to do this, not fear of other person. So all this talk of "making them squirm" is quite lame.
 
I went to the hospital last night for a sleep study. They hooked all kinds of electrodes up to my head to monitor my brain waves while sleeping. I also had to take a nap every 2 hours today. In between naps, I could watch TV, roam around, whatever.

So, I walk do to the cafeteria to get some lunch. It was amazing to see peoples reaction to a guy walking around with wires coming out of his head. NO ONE would look me in the eye. I assume it was pity, as they probably thought I had some terrible brain tumor or something.
 
Unless you're a serial killer I don't know why you would feel uncomfortable making eye contact. Looks like there are many serial killers on ATOT.

Rogo
 
About 7 or 8 years ago I was really shy and had trouble making eye contact with people, but now it's just natural. I'm a very outgoing, friendly kind of guy and so of course I make eye contact.
 
I will stare someone down until they submit to my staring superiority and I have no qualms about it haha

Oh that's another good point. If you're talking to a hot chick you've got to lock on to the eyes because if you lose that control, they are going straight to the boobs no ifs ands or butts.
 
Originally posted by: getbush
I will stare someone down until they submit to my staring superiority and I have no qualms about it haha

Oh that's another good point. If you're talking to a hot chick you've got to lock on to the eyes because if you lose that control, they are going straight to the boobs no ifs ands or butts.
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Yeah, at least hot chicks get to look at their own hot boobs when they avert their gaze.😀
But with guys, if you're into looking down there at your own thing...well...:laugh:
 
Nope, don't mind at all. Than again I live here in "the south" where it's a form of courtesy to make eye contact and say hello to people.
 
Originally posted by: The Pentium Guy
Eye language says a lot. Your eyes can convey a variety of guestures. If you're trying to intimidate - stare directly into the person's pupil and fixate your gaze, but don't give it a bored look. This really makes the other person squirm or back off, becuase they know you're confident in yourself. Think about it, if you look down on the floor it shows that you're unsure of yourself, and you lose your advantage. Look away once in a while - or look at the other eye.

Give it a try you'll be suprised at how one simple guesture changes the other person's reaction.
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I'd just think you were some kind of freak....or drunk. 🙂

 
it seems kinda ghey when two guys just stare at each other for a long time so I tend to look away when i'm thinking and make eye contact when i'm speaking. When it comes to girls, eye contact is no problem.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I know you're supposed to make eye contact in conversations, but I HATE it...I feel like people are going to laugh at me, or like they're looking right through me. I figured no one would get what I mean, but quite a few people that I've spoken with agree with me. What do you guys think?
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That's weird. If you don't make eye contact with someone it seems to me that you have something to hide or are ashamed of something you've done.

Eye contact shows that undivided attention is being paid to the conversation.
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
I know you're supposed to make eye contact in conversations, but I HATE it...I feel like people are going to laugh at me, or like they're looking right through me. I figured no one would get what I mean, but quite a few people that I've spoken with agree with me. What do you guys think?
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INSECURE!!!
 
Don't even think about it. It usually comes naturally, but the added effort to ensure that you make eye contact (e.g in an interview) shows that you're really focusing on that person and the conversation.
 
Here's a question for all you "alpha male" and "intimidating" macho men out there.

What the FSCK is the use of making someone "squirm or back off" or getting the "advantage" in a conversation?

WTF? 😕 :laugh:

:shocked: YTMND!
 
Wow, look at how the "internet" has changed people today... nobody can perform a good handshake, have good eye contact or give proper salutations. Get over your insecurities, if you don't look them in the eye than they will think something of you.
 
Originally posted by: Kristi2k
Wow, look at how the "internet" has changed people today... nobody can perform a good handshake, have good eye contact or give proper salutations. Get over your insecurities, if you don't look them in the eye than they will think something of you.
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<sarcasm type="smartass" mode="on">

Sounds like you have a stick up your @$$ to me. You know people just don't have the time for a handshake these days.

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On a serious note; :thumbsup:

 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
Here's a question for all you "alpha male" and "intimidating" macho men out there.

What the FSCK is the use of making someone "squirm or back off" or getting the "advantage" in a conversation?

WTF? 😕 :laugh:

:shocked: YTMND!
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It's not so much to incite fear as to demand respect.

- M4H
 
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