Do you enjoy being disliked?

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KarenMarie

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I think that some go out of their way to be confrontational. Whether it is a deliberate attempt to pull someone's chain and do it in fun, or are just total di*k heads... you can see the same ppl over and over joining a discussion and launching verbal personal attacks on ppl they disagree with.

It's sad really.

I tell everyone I know from the onset that I am not a nice person, do not try to be a nice person and that I am to be taken as I am. I don't go out of my way to bother ppl but I don't take any sh*t. Ppl always know where they stand with me, and if ppl don't like me, then they do a great job of faking it cause most of them would do anything for me.

:)
 

thomsbrain

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Dec 4, 2001
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as long as i don't get banned, i don't care too much. i don't really think anyone recognizes me anyway. but i don't try to tick people off, either.
 

Kadarin

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Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Look up Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs; esteem is second from the top just under self-actualization. According to Maslow, it is indeed normal for people to crave being liked. We all want acceptance on some level.
Just because it's a popular theory doesn't make it correct. I'm not saying that Maslow is wrong, just that it's not correct to claim his hypotheses as laws.

ZV

That's why I had qualified my statement with "according to Maslow"... ;)
 

Zenmervolt

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Oct 22, 2000
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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Look up Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs; esteem is second from the top just under self-actualization. According to Maslow, it is indeed normal for people to crave being liked. We all want acceptance on some level.
Just because it's a popular theory doesn't make it correct. I'm not saying that Maslow is wrong, just that it's not correct to claim his hypotheses as laws.

ZV
That's why I had qualified my statement with "according to Maslow"... ;)
Call me anal, but you should have also prefaced your final sentence with "According to Maslow" also. :p ;) (I.e. "According to Maslow, we all want acceptance on some level.")

ZV
 

Alchemist99

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Oct 15, 2002
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How does one know how well they're liked on the internet, besides the worst offenders.
I have no idea how I am perceived, or more likely that I'm even noticed, But also since there is the anonymity of the
intarweb I don't care and might tend be more rude than I am in real life.

In addition some people get a real thrill out of getting someone all worked up into a real lather, Its passive aggressive behavior, IMO
 

Zenmervolt

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Oct 22, 2000
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Originally posted by: Alchemist99
How does one know how well they're liked on the internet, besides the worst offenders.
I have no idea how I am perceived, or more likely that I'm even noticed, But also since there is the anonymity of the
intarweb I don't care and might tend be more rude than I am in real life.

In addition some people get a real thrill out of getting someone all worked up into a real lather, Its passive aggressive behavior, IMO
Passive aggressive is just that, passive. Most of the people who get others worked up are just plain aggressive.

Passive aggressive: "That dress looks nice on you. It'd look even better if you'd lose ten pounds though."

Aggressive: "You're fat."

On AT we see a lot more of the second than the first.

ZV
 

ndee

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Jul 18, 2000
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Originally posted by: thomsbrain
and what's up with your post saying it was edited by the mods? what did they change?

yu0 = teh stupid





















:p

take a real close look.
 

waylman

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Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

why dont you tell us?
 

dmcowen674

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Oct 13, 1999
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www.alienbabeltech.com
Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

Guess you haven't been over in P&N to feel the Luv Hotty ;) :heart:
 

PlatinumGold

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Aug 11, 2000
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Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

interesting question.

i think there are many people who find some of the things i post offensive. in another thread today, Alkemyst claimed
I don't think I have seen PG post one non-flaming/miserable thread.
.

i don't think that's true.

but i do know that i respond without really thinking about how the other person would feel. i also don't post with the intention of hurting anyone or with the intention of making things personal. well, usually not. but i probably don't take the time to differentiate between attacking what's POSTED vs attacking the POSTER. not the same thing. i usually attack the POST but not the poster.

i probably should take the time to make that clear, but as others have said, i just don't care enough to.

 

Siddhartha

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Oct 17, 1999
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Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

Are you asking why doesn't everyone fit in?

 

Zenmervolt

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Oct 22, 2000
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Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?
Are you asking why doesn't everyone fit in?
*laughs*

Best. Joke. Ever. At least I hope it was a joke.

It's quite possible not to fit in and to be liked as well. It's only been recently that people have gotten the crazy idea that you have to hate everyone/be hated by everyone if you don't fit in.

ZV
 

djheater

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Mar 19, 2001
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In that I believe that any action represent's in miniature the entirety of our self, I make a concerted effort to act no differently on-line or off.

IRL people seem to have hot or cold reactions to me. Some people like me a great deal, many don't like me at all. Personally I do not allow what I believe to be a person's perception of me is to affect my behavior. I try and act correctly, that is all.
 

Miramonti

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Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

Who has inspired you to inquire about this? You say "Some"...so you must have certain people in mind that you see repeatedly and conclude this...
 

Siddhartha

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Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?
Are you asking why doesn't everyone fit in?
*laughs*

Best. Joke. Ever. At least I hope it was a joke.

It's quite possible not to fit in and to be liked as well. It's only been recently that people have gotten the crazy idea that you have to hate everyone/be hated by everyone if you don't fit in.

ZV

What?



 

StormRider

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Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

Hmmmm, edited by Anandtech Moderator and yet I see no change from the original post? Is this proof that you are, in fact, an AnandTech Moderator!!!!!
 

minendo

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Aug 31, 2001
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Originally posted by: StormRider
Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?

Hmmmm, edited by Anandtech Moderator and yet I see no change from the original post? Is this proof that you are, in fact, an AnandTech Moderator!!!!!
That or it is in her sig.

 

Zenmervolt

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Oct 22, 2000
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Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
Originally posted by: Dr Smooth
Originally posted by: HotChic
At least online. Some of you here cultivate it, very obviously. You say you don't care, and that is an inarguable truth, but beyond caring you must enjoy it since you go out of your way to breed dislike in people. What is it that you enjoy about being disliked on the net?
Are you asking why doesn't everyone fit in?
*laughs*

Best. Joke. Ever. At least I hope it was a joke.

It's quite possible not to fit in and to be liked as well. It's only been recently that people have gotten the crazy idea that you have to hate everyone/be hated by everyone if you don't fit in.

ZV
What?
Just an incongruity between HC's personality and a desire to have people fit in. She's definitely not a "fitting in" sort.

ZV