Divorced ATOT members advice.

[KingPhil]

Dated for just over 5 years. Married for nearly 6. We were dirt poor students for most of the time. But for the last year, I've had a good job. She has a college education, but wants to have fun with her own business instead of working for a salary. Thus, when the judge sees the income (high for me vs negative for her business) I'm worried about the alimony.

Someone explain to me.......... because this guy has worked hard and found a good paying job, why should he be responsible for his wife's low income because she wants to play around being an entrepenuer?

If she asks for Allimony, I'd tell her to quite the business and get a normal job working for someone else so that way she can 1-live on her own and 2- pay her bills by receiving a weekly / bi-weekly paycheck like everyone else.

No reason for you to support her because her business sucks.......

 

[PG]

Originally posted by: KingPhil

Dated for just over 5 years. Married for nearly 6. We were dirt poor students for most of the time. But for the last year, I've had a good job. She has a college education, but wants to have fun with her own business instead of working for a salary. Thus, when the judge sees the income (high for me vs negative for her business) I'm worried about the alimony.

Someone explain to me.......... because this guy has worked hard and found a good paying job, why should he be responsible for his wife's low income because she wants to play around being an entrepenuer?

If she asks for Allimony, I'd tell her to quite the business and get a normal job working for someone else so that way she can 1-live on her own and 2- pay her bills by receiving a weekly / bi-weekly paycheck like everyone else.

No reason for you to support her because her business sucks.......

Common sense, laws, divorce, and laywers don't go together very well. I fully agree with you, but things won't turn out that way unless he protects himself now.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: KingPhil

Dated for just over 5 years. Married for nearly 6. We were dirt poor students for most of the time. But for the last year, I've had a good job. She has a college education, but wants to have fun with her own business instead of working for a salary. Thus, when the judge sees the income (high for me vs negative for her business) I'm worried about the alimony.

Someone explain to me.......... because this guy has worked hard and found a good paying job, why should he be responsible for his wife's low income because she wants to play around being an entrepenuer?

If she asks for Allimony, I'd tell her to quite the business and get a normal job working for someone else so that way she can 1-live on her own and 2- pay her bills by receiving a weekly / bi-weekly paycheck like everyone else.

No reason for you to support her because her business sucks.......

Because she was dependent on him regardless, and the courts won't leave her hanging high and drigh. That's just the way it is, has been, and probably will be for a long time.

 

[Nitemare]

Depends entirely on how psychotic, irrational and money hungry she is.

 

[Armitage]

Longevity of the marriage is a factor with respect to alimony. My lawyer told me it starts becoming a factor around 7 years, so at 6 you're in the ballpark. Whether it's bullsh|t or not, is irrelevent. The income differential sounds pretty big as well.

How much equity do you have in the house? Can you pay her half of it?

I would at least consult with some lawyers - an initial consultation ranges from free to the normal hourly rate (~ $200+). They can at least give you a better picture of the issues involved and your potential risks/liabilities.

Think about it this way - How long would it take you to blow that $3000 legal cost if she gets any significant alimony award? If she really doesn't make an issue of anything, it should come in significantly under $3K. If she does, you'll be glad you have a lawyer.

 

[isasir]

OK, I talked to my g/f. She said that basically, if you and your wife agree to all terms, you can do an uncontested divorce w/o a lawyer, if you want. However, if she disagrees to even one thing, you should get a lawyer. If you do decide to not get a lawyer, make sure that all signed agreements are properly executed and notarized.

 

[Armitage]

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Depends entirely on how psychotic, irrational and money hungry she is.

Precisely

 

Originally posted by: Nitemare
Depends entirely on how psychotic, irrational and money hungry she is.

:thumbsup:

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: jjsole
Sorry to hear about it.

How long have you been married? That's probably going to be very relevant for alimony if its been a while, and will cause her to get one if she gets advice from friend that she's entitled to it. It can be done without lawyers tho.

I recommend you find a good divorce forum as well.

One for NC, I'm sure you have one in your state as well

Originally posted by: isasir
My girlfriend is a divorce attorney, I'll try and remember to ask her when I talk to her later.

Talk about playing with fire...good luck, man.