wait wait wait how'd he get your new phone #? just have the thing changed and listed as private....sounds like ther'es more to this than you're saying....
Cliffnotes:
1. Dated nutjob at the age of 18.
2. Broke up with nutjob after a couple months.
3. Nutjob went through my dorm, banging on the doors of friends and begging them to convince me to take him back.
4. I told him to please stop contacting me via phone and e-mail, he didn't listen.
5. I transferred colleges, nutjob drove around the new college campus every week looking for me.
6. I moved home to Dallas, he told me he'd found a job in Dallas and would be relocating there soon.
7. I moved to California, he keeps e-mailing saying he loves me/wants to take care of me/will always be there for me, despite my pleas for him to please leave me alone.
8. I ignore him and hear nothing from him for about a year.
9. Yesterday, I received an e-mail from him telling me that he's moved to California and is currently living 40 minutes away fro me.
10. HELP!!! Has anyone been through this before, and if so what did you do??
unless this guy is driving all the way from MI to MA every week to look for her, I'd think he moved to MA too, no?
Originally posted by: munky
DAmn you, you just made me burst out laughing at my work place
I think I"m falling in love with Tomato.
Why dont you just tell him you hate jews. And then start making fun of him. That might turn him away.
Be nice, bake him some brownies.
Special brownies.
Send them along with his favorite video.
Edit at the right point with message of choice.
Well, it probably won't solve anything,but, at least it'll bring some credibility to that urban legend.
Special brownies.
Send them along with his favorite video.
Edit at the right point with message of choice.
Well, it probably won't solve anything,but, at least it'll bring some credibility to that urban legend.
me thinks it's more the girl, and less the guys that 'stalk' her.....posts on forum so that she can get e-cyber-web-intra-inter-net thugs to protect her.....and boost her confidence
Where the HELL is Doctor Phill when you need him.......
Call the governement and sign up for one of those Witness Protection people....things.
OR
STALK HIM!!!
You should definatly try to stalk him, that would be so great. He'll never know what hit him.
Call the governement and sign up for one of those Witness Protection people....things.
OR
STALK HIM!!!
You should definatly try to stalk him, that would be so great. He'll never know what hit him.
HeroOfPellinor
Lifer
- Dec 27, 2001
- 11,272
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A couple points:
1. Stop responding to him. Every time that you send a response (even if it is to "stop calling, leave me alone") you are giving him the attention that he wants. Rewarding him for his behavior only encourages him. If he isn't rewarded for his behavior it might stop, or it might not. But stalking is usally about feeling power and control over a person. If you don't do things that make him feel empowered (like not letting him elicit reactions from you) then the stalking becomes less satisfying for him.
2. You've moved several times, changed email addresses, transferred schools, etc, yet he still calls you and sends you emails? How is he getting that information? If you take even modest steps to protect your contact information and DON'T GIVE IT TO HIM then he won't have it. Are you listed in alumni directories? Get unlisted. Listed in the phonebook? Change the name that you're listed under or get unlisted.
3. Document everything.
4. File a police report today. Maybe it's only for harassment, but if you at least get something in writing then you begin to have a legal history of his behavior. Restraining orders aren't normally granted because of a one-off incident. But if you have a documented pattern of behavior you will have a stronger case.
5. Get legal advice about filing a restraining order from ACTUAL LEGAL PROFESSIONALS, not a bunch of hacks on a web forum.
1. Stop responding to him. Every time that you send a response (even if it is to "stop calling, leave me alone") you are giving him the attention that he wants. Rewarding him for his behavior only encourages him. If he isn't rewarded for his behavior it might stop, or it might not. But stalking is usally about feeling power and control over a person. If you don't do things that make him feel empowered (like not letting him elicit reactions from you) then the stalking becomes less satisfying for him.
2. You've moved several times, changed email addresses, transferred schools, etc, yet he still calls you and sends you emails? How is he getting that information? If you take even modest steps to protect your contact information and DON'T GIVE IT TO HIM then he won't have it. Are you listed in alumni directories? Get unlisted. Listed in the phonebook? Change the name that you're listed under or get unlisted.
3. Document everything.
4. File a police report today. Maybe it's only for harassment, but if you at least get something in writing then you begin to have a legal history of his behavior. Restraining orders aren't normally granted because of a one-off incident. But if you have a documented pattern of behavior you will have a stronger case.
5. Get legal advice about filing a restraining order from ACTUAL LEGAL PROFESSIONALS, not a bunch of hacks on a web forum.
BrokenVisage
Lifer
- Jan 29, 2005
- 24,771
- 14
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Look, Tomato girl, obviously the problem is with you. If you didn't treat this guy nicely, then it's your fault. I suggest you break up with your fiance and start dating this guy. Clearly he has the hots for you and has gone to a lot of trouble to be with you. The least you can do is let him take you to Starbucks. Geez, get a clue. Don't listen to the other idiots on this message board; their advice will only make things worse. Take the easy way out and just submit to him.
ok, chose one:
a. You're being sarcastic
b. You're the stalker
c. You're asking to get flamed.
d. all of the above
Move back to Texas. We know how to deal with weirdos (like stalkers) here!! :laugh:
Now you know why they don't like assault weapons in California. Cuz it was always nut jobs like this that would get thier hands on them. But there are things you can do to ensure your own personal defense. Look into personal defense classes, and check out what other methods (pepper spray, stun gun, etc) you're comfortable with. Fortunately it doesn't seem this guy is violent, but it's always possible that could change for the worst. Be prepared, and be capable and willing to take this guy out if he does decide to escalate the situation.
Unfortunately, it's just about impossible to do concealed carry of a firearm in CA, unless you're a cop. I have, however, heard of friends of mine (when I lived there, years ago) that were volunteer auxiliary officers, and could conceal carry. Trust me, stick a .357 magnum snubnosed pistol in this guy's face, and you'd never hear from him again!!
Now you know why they don't like assault weapons in California. Cuz it was always nut jobs like this that would get thier hands on them. But there are things you can do to ensure your own personal defense. Look into personal defense classes, and check out what other methods (pepper spray, stun gun, etc) you're comfortable with. Fortunately it doesn't seem this guy is violent, but it's always possible that could change for the worst. Be prepared, and be capable and willing to take this guy out if he does decide to escalate the situation.
Unfortunately, it's just about impossible to do concealed carry of a firearm in CA, unless you're a cop. I have, however, heard of friends of mine (when I lived there, years ago) that were volunteer auxiliary officers, and could conceal carry. Trust me, stick a .357 magnum snubnosed pistol in this guy's face, and you'd never hear from him again!!
Originally posted by: marvdmartian
Unfortunately, it's just about impossible to do concealed carry of a firearm in CA, unless you're a cop. I have, however, heard of friends of mine (when I lived there, years ago) that were volunteer auxiliary officers, and could conceal carry. Trust me, stick a .357 magnum snubnosed pistol in this guy's face, and you'd never hear from him again!!
Don't get me wrong, a gun can be good for self defense. But unless you've got the guts to look someone in the eye and kill them (and I don't know a lot of people who do) then you've got no business pulling a gun on someone. Worst-case scenario, you decide you can't kill him and he takes the gun away from you. Now you're doubly screwed.
Originally posted by: goibhniu
Originally posted by: marvdmartian
Unfortunately, it's just about impossible to do concealed carry of a firearm in CA, unless you're a cop. I have, however, heard of friends of mine (when I lived there, years ago) that were volunteer auxiliary officers, and could conceal carry. Trust me, stick a .357 magnum snubnosed pistol in this guy's face, and you'd never hear from him again!!
Don't get me wrong, a gun can be good for self defense. But unless you've got the guts to look someone in the eye and kill them (and I don't know a lot of people who do) then you've got no business pulling a gun on someone. Worst-case scenario, you decide you can't kill him and he takes the gun away from you. Now you're doubly screwed.
Yes, then he have his gun and Ur gun. LOL
Tomato is best serve with sugar and ice. And chopped up the tomato of cause.
I love tomato.Meet up with him... in Seattle. Tell me when and where. Don't wear clothes you wouldn't mind losing. Make it a public place. I'll take care of the rest. Nominal fee of $2k.
meltdown75
Lifer
- Nov 17, 2004
- 37,548
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I bet everyone here eleventy billion bucks that the stalker has posted in this thread at least once. we need Sherlock Holmes on this mother.
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