That's the crux, it all just perspective. To some(Catholics for eg, mainly the Higher Ups anyway), a Condom is the same as Abortion. Who is to say that Life begins at Fertilization perhaps, in the God Universe, Life begins at the point when a Man has a twinkle in his eye.
Calling Abortion "Murder" is just as Nonsensical. It's very sad you can't see the difference.
The Catholic church doesn't believe condoms are murder, oppose contraceptives because they circumvent God's will or whatever. There's no logical basis for sperm dying being the same as a fetus dying, because sperm are constantly dying. If it's not ejaculated into a condom, it would die in your testicles anyway.
The only legitimate debate is whether human life begins at conception, when an actual new human being with its own DNA is formed, or at the point that the fetus gains the ability to think, or feel pain, or whatever you use to gauge mental development. Those are biological stages in development, not religious ones. The second one could even apply after birth. The ancient Greeks didn't consider a baby to have personhood until well after birth, so they could perform post-birth abortions by leaving newborns in the wilderness to die of exposure.
The very idea of human life being defined as beginning to exist at birth is ridiculous and has no basis in science.