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dinner with a girl, much nervousness

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canadageek

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alright, i have a problem....i'm 17, and i'm not the most popular kid around (I'm the foreign kid) so i never really got to learn the whole dating thing. my dad died when i was 11, so he can't help either.

Theres this girl, I'm really into her, and for some unknown reason, she wants to go on a date with me. I have a date set up for saturday, at a restaurant we both like.
now, the problem is, I have never actually been on a date before🙁
what am I dupposed to do? what shouldn't I do? what Is expected of me?

help me ATOT!
 
be nice, be yourself.
remember, she agreed to a date when she could have said no, so its not your job to make her like you anymore

(straight from hitch, but i think it's good advice)
 
you are asking ATOT this? Oh dear....

Relax, buy her a rose (keep it simple)
have fun and don't try to "be" a certain way.
Opening doors for her is always a plus, and letting her
order first is a must.

Good luck...let us know how it goes! 🙂
 
oh and dress nice, wear some nice cologne, take a flower or something when you pick her up

edit: lavagirl got to the flowers before me 🙂

well, good luck on your date, i'm sure it'll go well
 
Keep the conversation light, no heavy stuff on the first date, i.e. don't start discussions about religion, abortion, politics, etc. You're out to have a good time, not get into a debate. Open doors for her. Pay for dinner. And then ask her to put out her hand...
 
Originally posted by: DingDingDao
Keep the conversation light, no heavy stuff on the first date, e.g. don't start discussions about religion, abortion, politics, etc. You're out to have a good time, not get into a debate. Open doors for her. Pay for dinner. And then ask her to put out her hand...
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noooooo
 
Wow this is the first thread of this nature I have EVER seen with serious answers.

(so far)


EDIT: nvm, vshah beat me
 
Originally posted by: vshah
Originally posted by: DingDingDao
Keep the conversation light, no heavy stuff on the first date, e.g. don't start discussions about religion, abortion, politics, etc. You're out to have a good time, not get into a debate. Open doors for her. Pay for dinner. And then ask her to put out her hand...
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noooooo
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:laugh: I figured someone would remember that thread...
 
Originally posted by: JToxic
Wow this is the first thread of this nature I have EVER seen with serious answers.

(so far)
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in the future, we can direct all would be nervous guys to this thread, and save ourselves the effort 😛
 
Originally posted by: Alkesh
Don't act all goofy like you're in love. Play a little hard to get. 😉
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sad, but its true. don't be 100% into her, or she'll think you're wierd
 
Originally posted by: vshah
be nice, be yourself.
remember, she agreed to a date when she could have said no, so its not your job to make her like you anymore

(straight from hitch, but i think it's good advice)
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Solid.

I'd add to that, ask her about herself, what she cares about. What makes her happy, what does she do in her free time, hobbies, music, etc.. (Please keep it light and casual; it's not an interrogation or interview.) It shows you want to know what she's all about and it will give you a chance to see how you match up.
 
i'm 17...
thanks guys (and gals) for the advice....i have a week till zero hour and i'm already wringing my hands🙁
what are safe conversation topics?

 
Originally posted by: Rike


Solid.

I'd add to that, ask her about herself, what she cares about. What makes her happy, what does she do in her free time, hobbies, music, etc.. (Please keep it light and casual; it's not an interrogation or interview.) It shows you want to know what she's all about and it will give you a chance to see how you match up.
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I agree. No offense, but females love to have any opportunity to run their mouths about their day.



 
aww how cute first date......i actually DONT remember my first date but take it easy, DONT OVER DRESS but dress nice, one single rose, MAKE SURE YOU TELL HER SHE LOOKS BEAUTIFUL or at least pretty, put something on so u won't smell bad, try to make her laugh a little, open doors
And if she unlocks the door for you when you let her in the car first, it's golden😉
 
Originally posted by: zerocool84
aww how cute first date......i actually DONT remember my first date but take it easy, DONT OVER DRESS but dress nice, one single rose, MAKE SURE YOU TELL HER SHE LOOKS BEAUTIFUL or at least pretty, put something on so u won't smell bad, try to make her laugh a little, open doors
And if she unlocks the door for you when you let her in the car first, it's golden😉
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Really? I thought everyone did that...
 
Be positive. Don't ask why. She said yes, be happy. She likes you. If she didn't, she wouldn't be there. Don't question yourself. Be confident. Don't worry. The women you tend to put on pedestals usually turn out to be.. well.. people. Just like you.

She's probably asking herself the same questions you are asking yourself. So relax. Just go, smile, talk and enjoy. Don't put any signifigance on a first date. If you have a good time, great. If not, no biggie. You're young and there are lots of other girls. You'll see.....
 
Have an arsenal of questions ready so you can learn all about her. Hopefully it'll give you a glimpse of whether she's crazy or not.
 
Once she's in her own seat, she reaches across the car to unlock your door for you. Could mean she's thinking about you too, but don't read too much into it.
 
I'm amazed that nobody, yet, has mentioned "I'm gonna try something different. Give your hand" joke. Oh well, it's been a long and I even forgot about the actual line.
 
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