Here's the best thing to a great date -- in her eyes; learn to listen.
Make your goal of the date to learn as much about her as possible. People like to listen to themselves and people perceive people who ask questions to be smart. If you are nervous, make a list of things you could ask her about: family, hobbies, goals, future, etc. Once she starts talking, it will take all the pressure off of you.
She might ask the same questions back, so think ahead. Don't have a canned answer, but have an idea of what your answer might be.
I don't believe in buying flowers on the first date. Sometimes it can be taken the wrong way, so don't do it.
Dress nicely and shower beforehand.
Avoid movies.
Don't think you have to spend a ton of money to impress her. Take her to a reasonably priced restraunt that has an atmosphere conducive to talking. Even better -- find out some places she likes and pick one of those.
Be on time, especially if you are picking her up. Compliment her on her clothes, hair, etc. Don't over do it coment on one or two items, but not at the same time.
Look her in the eye when you are talking to her or listening to her.
Don't order her food for her unless she asks you do.
Be confident, even if you're not. More importantly, speak with confidence.
Open doors for her. If it is a fancy restraunt, pull out her chair for her when she sits. If not, don't go out of your way to do it.
Don't go back to her place afterwards. I'm sure there's 100,000 macho guys here on ATOT that will tell you to get whatever you can on the first date because they are experienced with women; don't bother. She will appreciate it if you don't make any "moves" until later in the future.
Don't over plan the night. Plan dinner and let the night evolve after that. If dinner is all you do, don't worry about it. I keep plans limited on the first date in case I'm not having a good time. Besides, if it goes well, you can always have a 2nd, 3rd date.
I don't play the, call me BS. If I like a girl, I will ask by the end of the date to see her again. That way she is going to be forced to answer me to my face. I can tell by her reaction if she is sincere or not. If she says no, then I don't have to call her. If she says yes, but her body language says no, she's being polite and I won't call. If she says yes and her body language says yes, then you'll know when you call in the future that she'll actually answer.
Have fun and if you screw up, there'll be other opportunities in the future. 🙂
Make your goal of the date to learn as much about her as possible. People like to listen to themselves and people perceive people who ask questions to be smart. If you are nervous, make a list of things you could ask her about: family, hobbies, goals, future, etc. Once she starts talking, it will take all the pressure off of you.
She might ask the same questions back, so think ahead. Don't have a canned answer, but have an idea of what your answer might be.
I don't believe in buying flowers on the first date. Sometimes it can be taken the wrong way, so don't do it.
Dress nicely and shower beforehand.
Avoid movies.
Don't think you have to spend a ton of money to impress her. Take her to a reasonably priced restraunt that has an atmosphere conducive to talking. Even better -- find out some places she likes and pick one of those.
Be on time, especially if you are picking her up. Compliment her on her clothes, hair, etc. Don't over do it coment on one or two items, but not at the same time.
Look her in the eye when you are talking to her or listening to her.
Don't order her food for her unless she asks you do.
Be confident, even if you're not. More importantly, speak with confidence.
Open doors for her. If it is a fancy restraunt, pull out her chair for her when she sits. If not, don't go out of your way to do it.
Don't go back to her place afterwards. I'm sure there's 100,000 macho guys here on ATOT that will tell you to get whatever you can on the first date because they are experienced with women; don't bother. She will appreciate it if you don't make any "moves" until later in the future.
Don't over plan the night. Plan dinner and let the night evolve after that. If dinner is all you do, don't worry about it. I keep plans limited on the first date in case I'm not having a good time. Besides, if it goes well, you can always have a 2nd, 3rd date.
I don't play the, call me BS. If I like a girl, I will ask by the end of the date to see her again. That way she is going to be forced to answer me to my face. I can tell by her reaction if she is sincere or not. If she says no, then I don't have to call her. If she says yes, but her body language says no, she's being polite and I won't call. If she says yes and her body language says yes, then you'll know when you call in the future that she'll actually answer.
Have fun and if you screw up, there'll be other opportunities in the future. 🙂
