did your parents spank you when you were a kid?

[irishScott]

3 or 4 times, last one was in third grade IIRC. It was basically used as the maximum punishment I could possibly earn, and IMO that's how it should be used.

 

[Leros]

No. Yelling at me was enough to make me feel bad about what I did. Making me feel bad about what I did was enough to make me not do it again.

 

[weirdichi]

The question was what did he use to beat me with. Metal clothes hanger, rubber bands, and belts were the most common items used.

 

[LittleNemoNES]

Pfft

I got:

But one day my dad started crying after he did and never hit me again...
Got it till I was like 12
That was enough to make me grow up and stop doing stupid shit.

 

[pcgeek11]

Looking back, I can see that none of the punishments were justified.

Oh you were a perfect child. None? Really?

 

[Ronstang]

My mom used to hit me with a wooden spoon. The last time she did this I must have been around 14. I was a smart mouth about something and she chased me up the stairs into my room and started hitting me with the spoon. I was laughing because it did not hurt, so she kept hitting me harder until the spoon broke. I was still laughing so she started hitting me with her hand. I continued laughing because that did not hurt either. She stopped when she hurt herself. That was the last time she ever attempted to "spank" me.

 

[TurtleCrusher]

Yes, and I'll spank my own kids someday.

Absolutely agreed.

 

[Herr Kutz]

Only once, but I started laughing so I think they realized it didn't work.

 

[BarkingGhostar]

This thread proves that spanking doesn't work. Just look how most of you turned out.

 

[Mani]

Never was spanked, my parents used different tactics. My dad was just so intense he scared the shit out of us just by being pissed off. My mom would just guilt trip us. It worked, cuz we were all well-behaved.

 

[bobeedee]

I got beaten from my father and mother with the hand, belt, and sometimes fist. I never raised a hand to my son, and he turned out to be the man I wish I was.

 

[Praetor]

My parents had a big ass, decorated wooden spoon (and a matching fork, but who cares) that they hung on the wall. When I was out of line, my dad would take it down and hit my ass with that wooden spoon hard. It hurt and I learned my lesson. I only got it 3-4 times IIRC. My sister... she never learned with that. She was a rebel.

My son is 7.5 yrs. I spanked him hard two weeks ago because he was accused of and admitted to biting a girl at school and was suspended. Found out later that the girl made it up and my son was too scared with all of the teachers and myself that he just shut down and agreed he did it. I'm still working on that, but I felt lower than shit for punishing him and apologized immediately. With him though, the mere threat of a spanking brings him in line because he knows we follow through. Thankfully, it rarely comes to even the threat as most other punishments work.

 

[iGas]

My parents had a big ass, decorated wooden spoon (and a matching fork, but who cares) that they hung on the wall. When I was out of line, my dad would take it down and hit my ass with that wooden spoon hard. It hurt and I learned my lesson. I only got it 3-4 times IIRC. My sister... she never learned with that. She was a rebel.

My son is 7.5 yrs. I spanked him hard two weeks ago because he was accused of and admitted to biting a girl at school and was suspended. Found out later that the girl made it up and my son was too scared with all of the teachers and myself that he just shut down and agreed he did it. I'm still working on that, but I felt lower than shit for punishing him and apologized immediately. With him though, the mere threat of a spanking brings him in line because he knows we follow through. Thankfully, it rarely comes to even the threat as most other punishments work.

IMHO, spanking/hitting your child is absolutely wrong because it is proven over and over again that positive reinforcement works much better than physical punishment or negative reinforcement.

Apologizing is not going to be enough because you have taught your child that it is okay to abuse others when they are in a position of authority/physically stronger.

 

[OogyWaWa]

yes. probably stopped when i was around 15-16

 

[BW86]

hell yeah they did

 

[Lumathix]

Yes, i was spanked.
And yes imo the reason we have some of our fucked up problems today is because kids are not getting the PARENTING they need today. Spanking is one of these things.
Parents today suck for the most part.

 

[moshquerade]

I got beaten from my father and mother with the hand, belt, and sometimes fist. I never raised a hand to my son, and he turned out to be the man I wish I was.

what makes you think he's a better man than you?

 

[EMPshockwave82]

Yep, and I deserved it every time I got it.