did your parents spank you when you were a kid?

[Jeff7]

Yes, not terribly often - I came to learn the warning signs too such as when my mom was generally in a lousy mood, and when it was time to <King Arthur>Run awaaay!</King Arthur> and stay the hell in my room for awhile.

Eventually, we got a PC (a glorious 33MHz 386), and that became the locus of punishment - deprivation of access to it.


I don't have much problem with it, when it is used properly. Very young kids don't always respond, or even understand, diplomacy. Sometimes a more direct approach is required. If they're smart, they'll make the connection fairly quickly.

 

[fulltilt39]

Yes, I was spanked as a child - never in anger, and always with an explanation.

I did the same when my child was younger and she's a very well-behaved, respectful child.

 

[Cogman]

Once. And yes, it was well deserved. The anxiety before the spanking was much worse then the spanking (my sister was spanked first).

The neighbors planted new grass, we found the fresh dirt made amazing rivers for ships to float down using their water. We were supposed to be going to play a baseball game, and we missed the game.

 

[Azraele]

No. I was sent to my room.

 

[compbuilder00]

no but they should have. My sister and brother are obnoxious assholes who need to be taken down a notch.

 

[TheVrolok]

I was spanked a good number of times, slapped a few times, and grounded more times than I can remember (and not to my bedroom with all my toys .. to our guest room). I deserve each and every punishment, every time (or damned near). And yes, I will have no problem spanking my kids.

 

[danzigrules]

yes. when i was growing up... parents weren't pussies...
junior didnt get a timeout.... junior went and got dad's strap.... or junior went outside and got a switch off the tree in the backyard....

kids today are pussies! they wont have any stories when they grow up to tell their kids.

One day i was outside riding my bike. i had on my kneepads, and my elbow pads, and my helmet and my crash vest. i hit a bump in the pavement.. i fell down.. i was ok!

this times 1000

 

[PhoKingGuy]

I had asian parents, meaning I had the living fuck beaten out of me. Seemed to work out pretty well

 

[ahenkel]

I did get wooden spoon awards (that's what my mom called them) and my mouth washed out with soap.

I never minded the spankings. It was the timeouts I feared. I think having ADHD + being forced to sit facing the fridge for 10 minutes was worse than a few whacks with a wooden spoon.

 

[daw123]

Exactly... spanking is a fear motivator... your kid grows up knowing that if they misbehave they'll have a sore ass for a few hours and this will make them think twice about what they're about to be doing.

I agree with this. In the UK, they are looking at making slapping / spanking, whatever you want to call it illegal as a way if disciplining your kids.

Nowadays, there has certainly been a shift in the culture of how kids are disciplined, be it at home or at school. I realise that slapping / spanking wasn't as prevalent when I grew up as it was for the older generations. However, I did get slapped on the bum a few times when I was a kid. Whilst it was more the threat that it was going to happen than it actually happening that was the deterrent for bad behaviour, my parents did actually see it through a couple of times to reinforce the fact that it wasn't an empty threat. Over all, I believe it worked and I certainly didn't grow up as a delinquent like some of the kids nowadays.

I believe a reason why there are many more delinquent kids, and acts of physical violence by and amongst the younger generations is because the kids aren't disciplined the way that they used to be. In schools, the teachers can't even raise their voice to discipline a kid because it is seen by the Powers That Be or rule makers that this could be a detrimental influence to the kid. Hence, the schools are reliant on the parents teaching the kids what is right and wrong, although again, the disciplinary powers that parents have are much less than they used to be.

Also, the world is a much smaller place than it was. I grew up during the advancement of computers and the internet. For example, I remember when BBC Micros and Acorn Computers were the best you could get at school. At home, we had a 386. The internet did not exist at the time.

People grew up in communities where the only external influences you had was on the TV or read from newspapers. Now, kids can read / watch all kinds of weird sh*t on the Internet.

I'm not trying to slag off the internet or computers; I'm just saying that it can be influential to a young impressionable and undisciplined mind.

Ultimately, I think the government has to recognise that something needs to change, otherwise we are going to have even more youngsters falling off the rails.

I now don my flame suit

Edit: Christ, it makes me feel old (I'm 29) making this post, although I do think it has gotten worse in the last 10-20 years.

Maybe it did happen when I was younger, but you didn't get to hear about as much as you do now, becuase the media coverage is much better now than it used to be.

Edit 2: Spelling and grammar.

 

[Sumguy]

Yes, they spanked me and my siblings (and by "they" I mean "dad"). My dad was really fond of this belt that had some sort of engravings in it. After we were done crying, we'd point out the engraving imprints and laugh. Then we played Nintendo.

Only two things would result in an ass-whooping.
1) Doing something astoundingly stupid.
2) Bad grades.

We were generally well-behaved kids so it didn't happen often. I remember when my brother and I broke the family computer by opening it up and poking at the components with a screwdriver because we wanted to know how they worked. Parents response: "Whatever, just don't do it again unless you know what you're doing." (my presence on this forum lets you know how that worked out).

Now, the time we decided to play circus by throwing metal kebabs at each other, imitating a knife-throwing act...Dad's response: "My belt is hanging on the door handle of my office, go get it."

 

[TehMac]

I agree this. In the UK, the looking at making slapping / spanking, whatever you want to call it illegal as a way if disciplining your kids.

Nowadays, there has certainly been a shift in the culture of how kids are disciplined, be it at home or at school. I realise that slapping / spanking wasn't as prevalent when I grew up as it was for the older generations. However, I did get slapped on the bum a few times when I was a kid. Whilst it was more the threat that it was going to happen than it actually happening that was the deterrent for bad behaviour, my parents did actually see it through a couple of times to reinforce the fact that it wasn't an empty threat. Over all, I believe it worked and I certainly didn't grow up as a delinquent like some of the kids nowadays.

I believe a reason why there are many more delinquent kids, and acts of physical violence by and amongst the younger generations is because the kids aren't disciplined the way that they used to be. In schools, the teachers can't even raise their voice to discipline a kid because it is seen by the Powers That Be or rule makers that this could be a detrimental influence to the kid. Hence, the schools are reliant on the parents teaching the kids what is right and wrong, although again, the disciplinary powers that parents have are much less than they used to be.

Also, the world is a much bigger a place than it was. I grew up during the advancement of computers and the internet. For example, I remember when BBC Micros and Acorn Computers were the best you could get at school. At home, we had a 386. The internet did not exist at the time.

People grew up in communities where the only external influences you had was on the TV or read from newspapers. Now, kids can read / watch all kinds of weird sh*t on the Internet.

I'm not trying to slag off the internet or computers; I'm just saying that it can be influential to a young impressionable and undisciplined mind.

Ultimately, I think the government has to recognise that something needs to change, otherwise we are going to have even more youngsters falling off the rails.

I think you're exactly right: the leftist do-gooders that have been dominating the country either in government or via the bureaucracy that acts as a welfare system in the UK has stepped not only on teachers trying to...uh teach, but also on the toes of the parents whose responsibility it is to discipline their children.

It also explains in part the decrease of European birth rates across the board in Europe. Big government nations tend to have a radical decrease in birth rates, although the Muslims in these countries are rapidly fixing that. Soon, sharia law will become just as prevalent as Western law, and may even supersede it.

Of course Islam is just a religion of peace and they don't mean bad. They only exercise merciless sharia law on women, feature the excision of female genitals, bomb civilians who disagree with their practices, bitch and moan when freedom of speech is expressed and generally behave like a pack of barbarians.

But overall, I see no harm in them becoming the dominant population demographic in Europe...none at all.

 

[Cheesetogo]

A little bit. I don't think we got spanked after age 8 or so though... seems kinda silly to do it to an older kid.

 

[Ruptga]

Mine did, but I can only remember back to when it was really rare because it was getting less and less effective. Dad had his belt and mom had her shoe, but I think the point was more to bring shame than to cause discomfort. I think once I got past the shame/acceptance part of my childhood it stopped working in a hurry.

 

[child of wonder]

uh how do you know that? Far be it from me to tell you how to raise your kids, but I'm kinda wondering how you can make definitive statements like that.


Besides, some kids are naturally curious/rascalish/at odds with society. As a parent, I hope I can accept this--to a certain extent obviously there are limits.

What isn't acceptable to me is a kid being rude, interrupting an adult, and especially, being troublesome in public, i.e. kicking/screaming, making a fuss.

If one of my kids does that, I hope I will have the strength to drag him out of the store, drive home, and so help me, I will give that brat a spanking.

But if my kid is rude, I plan on pinching his ear, you know, small shit at first just to get the kid in line. Most kids that grow up in decent families don't mean bad, they just fall off the beaten path (no pun intended) and if the parents don't put em in line, it may screw them the rest of their life.

How do I know that? Umm... tried spanking them?

Both of my kids are impulsive and stubborn. We went through a period where they got a good paddling if they did something very naughty. Their behavior didn't improve no matter how much we spanked them.

After a while we decided to try other methods and have had more success.

Different things work for different kids.

 

[69Mach1]

My Dad spanked me 2-3 times daily, it got so I had enough callouses on my butt that it didn't hurt, then I would laugh, which made it worse. My Mom only spanked my sister and I twice that I remember, but when she did she lost it, you weren't sure you were going to live through it. You did not screw around with Mom! I only spanked my son once, because I foolishly threatened to do it. I told him if he did a certain thing I'd beat his butt. He didn't believe I would, so he just laughed and did it several times. Once you make the threat, you must maintain credibility, so I spanked him. He was 4, if I remember right. He got my old attitude immediately, and I'm sure once you piss him off you'd probably have to beat him to death to get cooperation. Thankfully he and I get along really well, and I haven't painted myself into any more corners. If I just remember what I was like when I was his age, I've been about 2 steps ahead of him since. I should mention that I've been really lucky, considering his parents he's been a dream to watch grow up.

 

[lokiju]

My Mom was the only that always did the punishment I guess because my Dad was always afraid of his temper getting away from him.

My Mom would spank my brother and I with a wooden spoon.

One time when I was I think 12 we were out of state visiting extended family but we were staying in a Motorhome my parents had and I did something (don't even recall what) that pissed my Mom off real bad and since she didn't have her trusty wooden spoon on hand (was back at home) she grabbed a brush of hers and started spanking me with it and the handle broke off. I don't know but I found it really funny and started laughing uncontrollably at her because of it and it got her really pissed off but she just stormed off. That was the last time they ever even tried punishing me.

 

[69Mach1]

DING! DING! DING! Winner!

 

[iGas]

No.

They smacks, punches, used electrical cables/bamboo sticks/rattan whips/brooms handles/2x4 lumbers, and threaten me with 8" kitchen knives & meat cleavers, but they never once spanked me with a paddle or uses their hands.

I hated my ahole dad and still does even those he died from lung cancer 20 years ago. I'm & my sisters are now angry/screwed up individuals, and we don't think much of my mom, the God fearing Roman Catholic cult member.

[add] and kicks [/add]

 

[saratoga172]

I got spankings by bare hand and eventually with a wooden spatula. Shit hurt. I learned not to do things. They stopped around 13-14. I didn't get them often because I didn't like to have a hurt behind for any length of time.

After spankings it turned into taking stuff away or giving me timeouts in my room. Only form of entertainment I had in there were books, radio and a bed. A few random toys too. TV's in kids' rooms is another big problem in today's society. Everything is too enabled for people.

BTW I believe the spankings worked for me. It taught me not to do things to disrespect authority. I'd say the timeouts and losing activities worked less simply because I'd make up games and entertain myself. I was also getting older so I'm sure that played a part in it.

My sister on the other hand never got spankings. She was a problem child. I liken that more to the fact that she gets pretty much what she wants. I do sometimes wonder though if spankings might have made a difference.

I will most likely enable some sort of spanking system...evaluate what works...I won't be having kids anytime soon though.

 

[ChaoZ]

Spank? You got off lucky.

 

[Mike Gayner]

Judging by this thread, ATOT attracted poorly adjusted people who were physically abused as children. This explains a lot.

 

[ahenkel]

I got water boarded as a kid, and they just did just to show me who was boss.

 

[Sho'Nuff]

if so, when did they stop and would you spank your own kids?

My Dad spanked me. With a belt. And I would spank my son if he needed it.

Parents never washed my mouth out with soap. They were to . . . . to . . . . afraid of . . . . SOAP . . . . . Poisunnning!.

 

[Soundmanred]

I was spanked as a child - never in anger, and always with an explanation.

I did the same when my child was younger and she's a very well-behaved, respectful child.