did your parents spank you when you were a kid?

[nageov3t]

if so, when did they stop and would you spank your own kids?

my mom never did, but my dad spanked me (and washed my mouth out with soap a couple times). I must've been like 12 or 13 the last time he spanked me (it was sometime in 8th grade... I remember it happened the morning of my high school placement exams and I'll always blame that morning on the fact that I didn't score high enough to get onto the AP/honors track). he was spanking me because I ate a bowl of ice cream of all things that was the time I finally tried fighting back and it resulted in him (probably accidentally) giving me a blood nose. last time my dad ever touched me.

I might feel differently when I actually have kids of my own, but I couldn't imagine spanking them. it might have stopped the specific behaviors in the short term, but long term, all it really did was teach me to hide things better and make me hate my parents a little bit.

 

[zCypher]

It may have happened once or twice but extremely rare, and (of course) I didn't feel it was justified. I never made it to be a big deal though, I was more resentful for the lack of kicking me in the ass (motivation).

I am many years past that though.

 

[PieIsAwesome]

A few times when I was very young, but my mother regretted it and never did it again.

I wouldn't hit anyone for discipline.

 

[Matthiasa]

Not sure, I was grounded a whole lot though.
Sometimes resulted in stuff broken in my room... like the wall.

 

[jme5343]

Yep, and it was fine and most often I deserved it. I learned my lesson quickly. I don't cry and whine about what did and didn't happen in my childhood. I'm very happy with my life and situation, therefore I have no need to complain about the things that made me who I am.

 

[guyver01]

yes. when i was growing up... parents weren't pussies...
junior didnt get a timeout.... junior went and got dad's strap.... or junior went outside and got a switch off the tree in the backyard....

kids today are pussies! they wont have any stories when they grow up to tell their kids.

One day i was outside riding my bike. i had on my kneepads, and my elbow pads, and my helmet and my crash vest. i hit a bump in the pavement.. i fell down.. i was ok!

 

[BassBomb]

not "spanking" as i see the american definition of it (as in you sit there and they hit you for awhile)

i got slapped if i did something really bad, eventually it became something where i would just run or be scared of the anticipated slap...

 

[sdifox]

Spank, no.

Belt, slapping, cane, sure.

 

[40sTheme]

A few times when I was very young, but my mother regretted it and never did it again.

I wouldn't hit anyone for discipline.

And that is why your kid will be a spoiled annoying brat who has no sense of how to behave properly in public.

I was spanked and am better for it.

 

[Scouzer]

Yes, and I'll spank my own kids someday.

 

[NikolaeVarius]

Spanking? What the shit?

More like baseball bats and fists.

 

[guyver01]

And that is why your kid will be a spoiled annoying brat who has no sense of how to behave properly in public.

I was spanked and am better for it.

Exactly... spanking is a fear motivator... your kid grows up knowing that if they misbehave they'll have a sore ass for a few hours and this will make them think twice about what they're about to be doing.

 

[Dominato3r]

Grandma would run around the house trying to hit me with a wooden spoon or rolling pin.

 

[DarkWarrior2]

Belted, smacked in the face, and pounded on. My mom stopped hitting me when I reached age 12 or so.

Looking back, I can see that none of the punishments were justified. It was more about control than teaching right and wrong. (Which I knew quite well already, go figure.)

When I have children, I hope to use corporal punishment as a last resort only.

 

[nageov3t]

Exactly... spanking is a fear motivator... your kid grows up knowing that if they misbehave they'll have a sore ass for a few hours and this will make them think twice about what they're about to be doing.

or continue the behavior but learn to hide it better.

 

[IronWing]

Only when they couldn't get the chain saw started.

Seriously, my mom broke a wooden spoon on my butt. Did nothing to de-escalate the situation.

 

[TehMac]

he was spanking me because I ate a bowl of ice cream of all things that was the time I finally tried fighting back and it resulted in him (probably accidentally) giving me a blood nose. last time my dad ever touched me.

1. Spanking a kid for banal shit like that is retarded. Scolding makes sense, but even still, wtf.

2. Spanking a kid in anger is just bad. Spanking a 12-13 year old in anger makes more sense because the kid can get the anger, but I'd stop spanking a kid around 6-7 years of age--by that time they either get it or they don't.

3. Back in the early 20th century, if even an 18 year old went out pheasant hunting instead of going to class, fathers may have been beaten their kids with fists in order to get them in line. But this is unusual in urban environments.

4. if he was spanking you and gave you a bloody nose, sounds like he wasn't just spanking you...

 

[IronWing]

4. if he was spanking you and gave you a bloody nose, sounds like he wasn't just spanking you...

Or the kid had his head up his ass.

 

[TehMac]

One day i was outside riding my bike. i had on my kneepads, and my elbow pads, and my helmet and my crash vest. i hit a bump in the pavement.. i fell down.. i was ok!

Did you have any condoms on you so the pedophiles the Left will undoubtedly liberate can freely have their way with you without any problems?

 

[guyver01]

Did you have any condoms on you so the pedophiles the Left will undoubtedly liberate can freely have their way with you without any problems?

hell no man.. that wasn't me... that's the stories todays kids will have when they grow up.

me... i got scars and broken bones and holes and scorch marks from when i was a kid.

 

[PieIsAwesome]

And that is why your kid will be a spoiled annoying brat who has no sense of how to behave properly in public.

I was spanked and am better for it.

Yep, exactly how me and my siblings were spoiled annoying brats who didn't behave in public or anywhere because we were not subjected to routine disciplinary violence.

Oh wait, we were the exact opposite of that.

 

[nageov3t]

1. Spanking a kid for banal shit like that is retarded. Scolding makes sense, but even still, wtf.

yeah, I can't help but partially blame my parents for my fucked up relationship with food... the lesson I learned wasn't to eat healthy, it was that I had to hide any unhealthy eating from anyone. it wasn't until the past couple years that I really came to grips with the concept that it's like OK to eat whatever the hell I want as long as it's in moderation.

eating a bowl of ice cream? fine... buying a pint of ice cream and eating the entire thing in one sitting so no one saw the partially-empty container in the freezer and hiding the empty carton? not so much.

4. if he was spanking you and gave you a bloody nose, sounds like he wasn't just spanking you...

it started as a spanking and escalated.

 

[child of wonder]

My kids are 7 and 6. We've tried spanking (nothing brutal, just enough to sting) and it never did any good. We don't do it anymore and don't plan to again.

 

[TehMac]

My kids are 7 and 6. We've tried spanking (nothing brutal, just enough to sting) and it never did any good. We don't do it anymore and don't plan to again.

uh how do you know that? Far be it from me to tell you how to raise your kids, but I'm kinda wondering how you can make definitive statements like that.


Besides, some kids are naturally curious/rascalish/at odds with society. As a parent, I hope I can accept this--to a certain extent obviously there are limits.

What isn't acceptable to me is a kid being rude, interrupting an adult, and especially, being troublesome in public, i.e. kicking/screaming, making a fuss.

If one of my kids does that, I hope I will have the strength to drag him out of the store, drive home, and so help me, I will give that brat a spanking.

But if my kid is rude, I plan on pinching his ear, you know, small shit at first just to get the kid in line. Most kids that grow up in decent families don't mean bad, they just fall off the beaten path (no pun intended) and if the parents don't put em in line, it may screw them the rest of their life.

 

[nonameo]

Yeah, all the time. I don't think it did anything though.