Did you wait til marriage?

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: Naustica
waiting is for suckers

It's funny, you kind of expect the people who wait to be the ones who are snobbish about it. So far, it seems kinda the other way around.

Yeah, it is the other way around most often. I don't understand why, though. I don't see why it's a big deal. If someone wants to wait and they find a partner that agrees, good for them. If someone doesn't want to wait and they find a partner that agrees, good for them.

Funny... it's not 'OK' to say having sex with the same sex is wrong but it's 'OK' to tell people that waiting or not waiting is wrong...

 

[Eli]

No, but I did wait for someone that I really loved, which is the same thing in my book.

 

[Manuwell]

Originally posted by: Eli
No, but I did wait for someone that I really loved, which is the same thing in my book.

Huh... Game over ?

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: Manuwell

Originally posted by: HotChic
I wanted to do this in two polls to compare the percentages, since that interests me more than the numbers. Which category do you fall into?

Married for 2 1/2 years ans still waiting... :roll:

Why are you still waiting?

 

[Manuwell]

Omg... was I so convincing ?

 

[jjones]

Where's the option for "I fvcked anything with a pulse"?

 

[Kadarin]

Personally, I think the idea of waiting until marriage is idiotic.

 

[Buck Armstrong]

I was raised by religious folks, so I understand why people wait. But it makes me sad when I see people who are 30+ and still waiting. Almost every potential mate, religious or not, already has kids and ex-spouses! And not many men over 30 will stick around for long if sex is out of the question.

I understand not wanting to lose your "flower" to a stripper in the parking lot, but waiting for some childish fantasy soulmate thing can cost you. I'm sorry, but that sh*t just doesn't exist. So sure, wait for marriage if you want, but be realistic about it; there is no "pre-ordained" extra-special girl/guy meant just for you, and if you're looking for perfection, I guarantee that you WILL NOT find it.

 

[Manuwell]

I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/lease a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

Edit: Kewl, I hit 150 posts

 

[jlee]

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

 

[Manuwell]

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

I didn't say that. Referring back to the car-metaphor... you can like a car, find it great and interesting with a lot of power and safety-stuff or whatever, but as you know that sooner or later you'll have to drive it... it's better to know if it will meet your expectations before being in a pretty awkward situation. And would you agree or not, sex in a relationship is important.. at least IMO. It's just about making one more step to happiness.

 

[jlee]

Originally posted by: Manuwell

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

I didn't say that. Referring back to the car-metaphor... you can like a car, find it great and interesting with a lot of power and safety-stuff or whatever, but as you know that sooner or later you'll have to drive it... it's better to know if it will meet your expectations before being in a pretty awkward situation. And would you agree or not, sex in a relationship is important.. at least IMO

Important, yes.

Take a look from my point of view, though - if I haven't had sex with anyone but my wife, it'd be the best sex I've ever had. Some (myself included) think that sex is much more than just a physical act..another reason that I prefer to wait for marriage.

 

[StormRider]

I only had two cars in my life. They were both new. I never test drove them. I was happy with both of them. I am still with my 2nd car and we're very happy together.

 

[Manuwell]

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

I didn't say that. Referring back to the car-metaphor... you can like a car, find it great and interesting with a lot of power and safety-stuff or whatever, but as you know that sooner or later you'll have to drive it... it's better to know if it will meet your expectations before being in a pretty awkward situation. And would you agree or not, sex in a relationship is important.. at least IMO

Important, yes.

Take a look from my point of view, though - if I haven't had sex with anyone but my wife, it'd be the best sex I've ever had. Some (myself included) think that sex is much more than just a physical act..another reason that I prefer to wait for marriage.

I totally agree with you ! and this thread was "Did you wait til marriage?" and it was not "Did you have sex with other gurls before getting married". As I have met my wife 2 1/2 years before getting married... not having any sex with her all that long would have been kinda frustrating.

 

[Babbles]

Unless I got married between now and an hour ago, I did not wait.

 

[Manuwell]

Originally posted by: StormRider
I only had two cars in my life. They were both new. I never test drove them. I was happy with both of them. I am still with my 2nd car and we're very happy together.

Great ! Did you buy/lease them ? Did you get them before marriage ?

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: Manuwell

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

I didn't say that. Referring back to the car-metaphor... you can like a car, find it great and interesting with a lot of power and safety-stuff or whatever, but as you know that sooner or later you'll have to drive it... it's better to know if it will meet your expectations before being in a pretty awkward situation. And would you agree or not, sex in a relationship is important.. at least IMO. It's just about making one more step to happiness.

car analogies are brought up way too often and it's not a relevant comparison at all. if we're going to compare it with cars, then i pose the question: why do most people buy homes having not lived in it before? a home is a far bigger deal than a car which you're expected to change after a few years.

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: McGyver
wha... ur bf is a pushie?

LOL

 

[Manuwell]

Originally posted by: puffff

Originally posted by: Manuwell

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

I didn't say that. Referring back to the car-metaphor... you can like a car, find it great and interesting with a lot of power and safety-stuff or whatever, but as you know that sooner or later you'll have to drive it... it's better to know if it will meet your expectations before being in a pretty awkward situation. And would you agree or not, sex in a relationship is important.. at least IMO. It's just about making one more step to happiness.

car analogies are brought up way too often and it's not a relevant comparison at all. if we're going to compare it with cars, then i pose the question: why do most people buy homes having not lived in it before? a home is a far bigger deal than a car which you're expected to change after a few years.

:thumbsup: lmao You're right, but I never bought a house yet. Good point though. It would be pretty nice to have a house-test before buying it.

 

[The Batt?sai]

Originally posted by: puffff

Originally posted by: Manuwell

Originally posted by: CadetLee

Originally posted by: Manuwell
I DIDN'T WAIT.

IMO it's just like a car ! Are you going to buy/rent a car and pay for the next couple of years without having a road-test beforehand ?

So your SO knows that she's at the same level to you as your car is, and sex is apparently all that matters?

Maybe some of us have different priorities, then. To me, a relationship should not be based on sex.

I didn't say that. Referring back to the car-metaphor... you can like a car, find it great and interesting with a lot of power and safety-stuff or whatever, but as you know that sooner or later you'll have to drive it... it's better to know if it will meet your expectations before being in a pretty awkward situation. And would you agree or not, sex in a relationship is important.. at least IMO. It's just about making one more step to happiness.

car analogies are brought up way too often and it's not a relevant comparison at all. if we're going to compare it with cars, then i pose the question: why do most people buy homes having not lived in it before? a home is a far bigger deal than a car which you're expected to change after a few years.

i'd rather design a house of my own

 

[Hammerhead]

Where's the option for:
"Just the tip"

 

[Buck Armstrong]

Originally posted by: Hammerhead
Where's the option for:
"Just the tip"

"Just the tip, just for a minute, just to see how it feels..."

 

[Brutuskend]

I voted "I'm glad I didn't wait"

Other wise I would STILL be a virgin @52 :shocked:

 

[SampSon]

I didn't even get close to waiting until I was legal.

I truly feel sorry for thoes who wait and think that sex has some deep meaning.

 

[Hammerhead]

Originally posted by: SampSon
I didn't even get close to waiting until I was legal.

I truly feel sorry for thoes who wait and think that sex has some deep meaning.

Especially for guys since the first time only lasts about 10...maybe 15 seconds.