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did you ever have "the talk" with your parent(s)?

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back when my grandfather was dying (I would have been like 9-10), my dad used to make the 7 hour drive from Jersey up to New Hampshire every weekend to see him in the hospital. my mom made my sister and I alternate weekends so that my dad didn't have to drive by himself.

he tried broaching the subject on one of our trips, and I practically curled up into a ball of embarrassment before shutting down the entire line of the conversation.

we had like an anti-talk once when I was 16, though. the summer after I graduated high school, I was hooking up/quasi-dating one of my best friends and I was planning on coming out "officially" to my parents, but one afternoon when my dad and I went out to lunch together (I spent that summer temping as the office where he worked), he worked in a mention of something along the lines of "I'd want my children to be happy no matter what, but if they were gay, I wouldn't want to know about it."
 
There were two instances where it came close to becoming the talk but didn't quite get there. One time my mom was signing the consent form for me to take sex ed in middle school and she was like "so you understand all the stuff they teach you there?" The next time anything like that was brought up was when I was 18 and she found a condom wrapper in my pocket while doing the laundry. She said something along the lines of "I knew this was going to happen one day." and "Don't sleep around." I guess it could have been much worse.
 
"The talk"... no. Them screaming and yelling at me because I'm corrupt, useless, dangerous to the community, harmful to myself, under the control of the only gay man they know, and in need of brainwashing? Why yes, repeatedly.
 
No, I never had the talk with my parents

loki8481 said:
we had like an anti-talk once when I was 16, though. the summer after I graduated high school, I was hooking up/quasi-dating one of my best friends and I was planning on coming out "officially" to my parents, but one afternoon when my dad and I went out to lunch together (I spent that summer temping as the office where he worked), he worked in a mention of something along the lines of "I'd want my children to be happy no matter what, but if they were gay, I wouldn't want to know about it."
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So have you come out to your parents? If so, what did your parents say?
 
Nope. Was just told to "don't knock her up" and "wear a condom" on a couple of occasions. It would've been pointless to have some talk with me anyway, I had learned all that crap in school.
 
Nope. I learned all about that stuff from my friends and the other kids at school. My parents figured as much and were like, "You know about all of that stuff, don't you?" I said, "Yep" and that was the last time I ever talked with them about it.
 
Oil said:
So have you come out to your parents? If so, what did your parents say?
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nope.

I've respected my dad's wishes and I've never been in a serious enough relationship for it to actually matter.

but there's no way that they don't know... I subscribed to a porn mag in college (because my roommate junior year was a hermit so alone time with the computer wasn't ever a possibility). when I was home on summer break, all my college mail got redirected to my house, but mysteriously my nondescript white packaged magazine subscription never made it from the mailbox to the pile of mail in my bedroom unless I happened to get the mail first.

also, when I was in 11th grade, my sister outed me. I was away for the summer doing community service in Appalachia with my church youth group. while I was slaving away making a difference in people's lives, my sister broke into the locked box I had in my closet with my floppy disks in it and showed all the pictures to my parents. they never said anything to me about it, though. also while I was away, my parents got hit with a $500 phone bill because the phone # our ISP gave us was long distance even though it was in the same area code, so that was the big focus of their anger when I came back from the mountains.
 
Nope, which is sort of odd considering my parents pretty liberal views on sex.

I suppose I brought it up by default when I came out though.
 
loki8481 said:
sex.

is there another "the" talk?
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Well, your post addressed all three, so I was just being sure. 🙂



Sex: No, at least not specifically, or rather, not that I can remember.
I suppose my parents didn't really perceive a need for it....the opportunity for me to engage in that sort of thing was pretty much like, never there.D:



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I never really had a "talk." My mom just encouraged us to ask questions. TBH, you have to figure out most of the stuff yourself. The first few times I was hanging around women I thought there was something wrong with me, then I realized I just wasn't used to being naked/hooking up with someone else. Now it's the best thing in the world.
 
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