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[Meractik]

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[Dudd]

I would recommend first learning how the use of punctuation works. After that, it's all cake.

 

[skim milk]

I think i do

good discussion board for social anxiety people

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[SWScorch]

I used to be like that. Now I'm one of the most sociable people you could meet. Not sure what made me change; joinging the xc and nordic ski team helped a lot, especially when all the cute girls decided I was cool and hung out with me all the time B)

 

[funggorgor]

yet another forum
http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/

 

[dullard]

I know I do, but I'm slowly overcoming it bit by bit. Here are some snapshots of what I used to be:
[*]Until the age 16, I had my mom order food at the fast food restaurant for me since I was too terrified. Why 16? Since then I had to drive on my own and do it myself. That was quite difficult. I can now order food in person, but I have a very difficult time using the drive-through (for similar reasons I can only bank inside).
[*]I hate the phone. I even did an essay in highschool about how phones were evil. It is quite funny if I remember correctly. Ordering pizza by phone has always been nearly impossible. I would take about 30 minutes of preparation and even writing down everything word for word that I will say to order that pizza. I often hung up halfway through as the stress was unbearable, sweat pooring down my face. Answering the phone is quite bad too if I'm not expecting a call.
[*]I refuse to wear clothing with words as I kept being stopped and asked what the shirt said. The attention was unbearable.
[*]I used to walk around with a small comb in my pocket and comb my hair every ~15 minutes since one hair out of place would mean people stare at me. I tried using moose/hairspray but that attracted more attention.
[*]I have an odd sense of humor. When I was little I tried out some of my jokes in a school carpool and got repeatedly insulted since they didn't find it funny. That made me realize that I had to think before speaking. Bad move. It made me go through ~15 years of thinking/rethinking every word to make certain I wouldn't be insulted before I spoke it. By the time I'm done, I have a very great thing to say but the conversation has moved on 3 minutes ago to a different subject. Thus in groups of 4 or more I'm useless and never say a word. This is my biggest issue remaining, the others I listed above I'm almost recovered from.

What helped me the most? Taking group ballroom dance lessons. I and everyone else notices a dramatic change from what I used to be.

 

[meltdown75]

OP I would suggest it's just a phase you're going through. 19 can be a tough time, lots going on... trying to figure out where you're going in life etc. and taking in where you've been... you'll get through it buddy.

 

[Zanix]

This is ATOT. All of us do to some extent.


Why else would we be "lifers" and "diamonds" and so on..

 

[pulse8]

I think I suffer slightly from this kind of stuff or maybe I'm just functional with it.

 

[Meractik]

Originally posted by: Dudd
I would recommend first learning how the use of punctuation works. After that, it's all cake.

how about you search for my post and next time you see a post or a reply from me keep your opinion to yourself if its anything negative

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: Meractik
i believe i do while conversing in this thread about a fear and then visiting this url

http://www.socialphobia.org/whatis.html#whatis1

where ever individual inside that url describes me perfectly, although all i really have a problem with is eating in public and alot about going out and meeting new people and i kinda have to play the roll of an actor when doing interviews and play myself off as the person i want to be but behind closed doors i believe i am a mess. but ive been like this for 2-3 years and im only 19 but its not coinsidential that that url can describe the problems i have in such detail if that wasn't what was wrong with me, i choose to fight the war internally with myself and its not going to good i wonder if theres anything else i can do to solve this from my sandpoint where im a student and work full time at a job where it interfere's which i won't have perminently but i feel within the burden of the anxiety and disorder that i would be way better off and more successful in life.

Well, I tried to read that but without punctuation, my eyes just kind of glaze over and my mind goes blank. I started at the beginning several time but I can't seem to make it through the first run-on sentence. Sorry, wish I could be more helpful.

 

[CptObvious]

I'm not socially phobic to the point where I don't leave the house, but I get extremely nervous and self-conscious around people I don't know well. I prefer hanging around other people who are the same way

 

[Modeps]

Does everyone have to fit into some sort of category if they just dont like going out? I dont think so.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: Modeps
Does everyone have to fit into some sort of category if they just dont like going out? I dont think so.

(1) There are people who don't go out and are just fine and happy. These people aren't in the social anxiety category. But they are in another category.

(2) There are others who want to go out and have fun but can't (can't go out, can't have fun while out, or both). These people are in the social anxiety category.

To me, the way I can tell the difference is this: In a crowded room, are you lonely? If you know what I'm talking about I think that is the worst feeling in the world.

 

[johnjbruin]

Originally posted by: SWScorch
I used to be like that. Now I'm one of the most sociable people you could meet.

same here - for me i think its just been a progression of life realizing that to be successful you have to be social. you simply arent going to move up the ladder if you are not social.

not saying its the only thing needed to move up - but it plays a huge role

i still have moments where I will shy away from something right when i hear about it - but then after 2 mins of 'self-talking' - i am up for it

 

[Meractik]

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[Triumph]

Originally posted by: Modeps
Does everyone have to fit into some sort of category if they just dont like going out? I dont think so.

i think that's just your basic introvert (like me). i mean, i do like to go out, but i don't need to go out and interact like others. social anxiety like dullard and the OP are such extreme cases that it has to be classified as its own disorder.

 

[Triumph]

Originally posted by: dullard
I know I do, but I'm slowly overcoming it bit by bit. Here are some snapshots of what I used to be:
[*]Until the age 16, I had my mom order food at the fast food restaurant for me since I was too terrified. Why 16? Since then I had to drive on my own and do it myself. That was quite difficult. I can now order food in person, but I have a very difficult time using the drive-through (for similar reasons I can only bank inside).
[*]I hate the phone. I even did an essay in highschool about how phones were evil. It is quite funny if I remember correctly. Ordering pizza by phone has always been nearly impossible. I would take about 30 minutes of preparation and even writing down everything word for word that I will say to order that pizza. I often hung up halfway through as the stress was unbearable, sweat pooring down my face. Answering the phone is quite bad too if I'm not expecting a call.
[*]I refuse to wear clothing with words as I kept being stopped and asked what the shirt said. The attention was unbearable.
[*]I used to walk around with a small comb in my pocket and comb my hair every ~15 minutes since one hair out of place would mean people stare at me. I tried using moose/hairspray but that attracted more attention.
[*]I have an odd sense of humor. When I was little I tried out some of my jokes in a school carpool and got repeatedly insulted since they didn't find it funny. That made me realize that I had to think before speaking. Bad move. It made me go through ~15 years of thinking/rethinking every word to make certain I wouldn't be insulted before I spoke it. By the time I'm done, I have a very great thing to say but the conversation has moved on 3 minutes ago to a different subject. Thus in groups of 4 or more I'm useless and never say a word. This is my biggest issue remaining, the others I listed above I'm almost recovered from.

What helped me the most? Taking group ballroom dance lessons. I and everyone else notices a dramatic change from what I used to be.

wow.

 

[Meractik]

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[SWScorch]

Originally posted by: johnjbruin

Originally posted by: SWScorch
I used to be like that. Now I'm one of the most sociable people you could meet.

same here - for me i think its just been a progression of life realizing that to be successful you have to be social. you simply arent going to move up the ladder if you are not social.

not saying its the only thing needed to move up - but it plays a huge role

i still have moments where I will shy away from something right when i hear about it - but then after 2 mins of 'self-talking' - i am up for it

I realized that I am the kind of person, by nature, who wants to live a very fulfilling and energetic life. When I was a kid, I was very outgoing and loud and basically, just like every other kid. I can remember, one day I decided that I was going to try to be more mature, less obnoxious, and so I tried to be quieter and not as annoying. That lead to me staying inside a shell, and not really talking to anyone. I was like that for a few years, and then joining sports teams reawakened the desire to be my own person, and to be who I was again. I'm the kind of person who likes to live life to the fullest, seizing every day, and not having any regrets. So now I'm back to who I really am; I am outgoing, goofy, always making people laugh, and willing to try almost anything. I was just hiding my nature from myself for a while to try to be a different person. So for me, it wasn't so much that I realized you have to be sociable to be successful; I just realized that I was sociable by nature and couldn't hold it back.

BTW, I was like dullard: I hated ordering food or paying for stuff because I didn't want the interaction, and I hated talking on the phone. I still hate phones, but I am completely over any anxiety about interaction in person.

 

[Meractik]

i need to adopt a way of saying what i want when i want because if i stop and analyse and think about what it is im going to say or the opposite of analysing everything i say after i say it like i do i do nothing but think about how that could be procieved how it came out what the other person thought about it etc. etc. etc.. its really REALLY fvcking bothering me, i don't want to deal with it no more it stems stress and i don't need it b/c its all over nothing, i know i shouldn't care what everyone else thinks, but i do. i know i shouldn't take everything that everyone says to heart but i memorize it all and it sticks in my head and i catagorize it and it will always come up every now and then and it won't go away. and i don't want to be like this no more.

 

[meltdown75]

LOL

Only here can someone post something fairly personal, let alone something regarding a social phobia, and get roasted for punctuation.... too much! ATOT, there's nothing quite like ya.

Lonely desperate user on the side of route 66... begging for anything other than negativity... yearning for acceptance... wait here comes a vehicle.. it's a transport. Is it slowing down? Wait it's speeding up... the grill has a shiny chrome ATOT emblem on it... * HONK HONK *... THUD THUD

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[Meractik]

Originally posted by: SWScorch


I realized that I am the kind of person, by nature, who wants to live a very fulfilling and energetic life. When I was a kid, I was very outgoing and loud and basically, just like every other kid. I can remember, one day I decided that I was going to try to be more mature, less obnoxious, and so I tried to be quieter and not as annoying. That lead to me staying inside a shell, and not really talking to anyone. I was like that for a few years, and then joining sports teams reawakened the desire to be my own person, and to be who I was again. I'm the kind of person who likes to live life to the fullest, seizing every day, and not having any regrets. So now I'm back to who I really am; I am outgoing, goofy, always making people laugh, and willing to try almost anything. I was just hiding my nature from myself for a while to try to be a different person. So for me, it wasn't so much that I realized you have to be sociable to be successful; I just realized that I was sociable by nature and couldn't hold it back.

BTW, I was like dullard: I hated ordering food or paying for stuff because I didn't want the interaction, and I hated talking on the phone. I still hate phones, but I am completely over any anxiety about interaction in person.

i was very outgoing loud and atrouble maker in elementary school but i don't know what happened towards the end of middle school and into highschool i got a computer for the first time (at the time it was a p2 350mhz) and it just all flipped from then my childhood wasn't exactly the best (not dispite anything anyone could of done *i was sexually touched inappropriately at a young age*) but ive accepted that and moved on, i just tell myself it could of been alot worse. i sometimes tell myself that its why i have trust issues with people and i distance myself but i also don't want to hear myself making excuses either so i like force myself to even though i sometimes say or believe that not to believe it<--- that makes very little sense, sorry.. i don't know i just want to get through this be happy find something/someone fulfilling in life that i can open up to and look forward to doing/seeing everyday

 

[Meractik]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
LOL

Only here can someone post something fairly personal, let alone something regarding a social phobia, and get roasted for punctuation.... too much! ATOT, there's nothing quite like ya.

Lonely desperate user on the side of route 66... begging for anything other than negativity... yearning for acceptance... wait here comes a vehicle.. it's a transport. Is it slowing down? Wait it's speeding up... the grill has a shiny chrome ATOT emblem on it... * HONK HONK *... THUD THUD

next

LOL, great now they'll think im crazy at work laughing here when nobodies around!

 

[ArmchairAthlete]

Sometimes I wonder if I'm not too outgoing because I'm different from most, or if I'm different from most because I'm not outgoing.

Chicken and the egg?