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crawford

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If you seriously just went "lets hang out at another time" just because her friends were with her at the mall........ then I'm not surprised that she never called you back. That, to me at least, seems kind of wierd.

I would NOT call her if I were you, she obviously isnt interested so it wont do you any good.



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Blazin Trav

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I've had that problem before.

Tell her you would like to hangout 1 on 1. But before that try just spending time with her and her friends until she feels comfortable with you. And since you are going out with her, tell her you would like to spend time and I bet she would understand. Are you still going out?

Yes, girls are like this. It's quite, well, irriating at time.
 
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TonyB

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you blew it when you decided not to hang out with here the 1st time, you blew it the 2nd time when she was at the mall with her friends. the friends were there as an "airbag"

you blew it the 3rd time when you said "i'll call you after work" you should of been like, "i'll come over after work, k bye" you gota be more assertive and aggressive.

you blew it the 4th time when you said you wanted to "clear this weirdness between us", by that time shes probably thinking "us??? what us"


cliff nots: you blew it
 
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Stumps

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I hate when chicks bring their friends along, my GF did this on our first date, it back fired on her though cause her friend developed a crush on me as well, bloody funny stuff, lets just say they aren't friends anymore
 
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Wanescotting

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Originally posted by: Stumps
I hate when chicks bring their friends along, my GF did this on our first date, it back fired on her though cause her friend developed a crush on me as well, bloody funny stuff, lets just say they aren't friends anymore
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Huh? Hell the more the merrier, I say. Sure, bring your friends along, doesn't bother me. So what if you don't "hit it off", at least you have made more friends, and networking is always good.
 
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Hyperblaze

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Originally posted by: Stumps
I hate when chicks bring their friends along, my GF did this on our first date, it back fired on her though cause her friend developed a crush on me as well, bloody funny stuff, lets just say they aren't friends anymore
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details....details ;)
 
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Baked

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Originally posted by: PremiumG
I even gave her some free food from where I work at as kind of a xmas gift
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Bwhahahahaha, free food. Why you treating her like a dog?

 
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Stumps

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we went to to movies which was fine, I did the gentleman thing and paid for both of them everything was fine till about 3 quarters the way through when my GF's friend put her arm around me, I was sitting between them, anyway my GF had a fit of rage and stormed out, I promptly followed and managed to smooth things over.
The next day her friend came to visit me at lunch, which was ok except for the clothing she was wearing, I gave subtle little hints that I wasn't interested in her(she was pretty hot though) but she just didn't get the message after work she was waiting for me, I politely told her I was busy and went off to see my GF. I thought everything was fine.
The visits went on for a week or so and I kept quiet about it to my GF as I didn't want to make trouble, but when her friend went and told her she intended on stealing me, well.....CAT FIGHT!!!!!!!
I was quite flattered by all this attention, and it made me look good in front of my work mates.
Now they barely talk to each other and if my GF and I are together and we see her, it still causes issues between us.
I did try to tell them that there was enougth of me to go around but..you know women, they don't listen!
 
IHateMyJob2004

IHateMyJob2004

Lifer
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Originally posted by: PremiumG
Female input needed especially!

Ok, so I asked this chick out about last week of December. She seemed really cool and psyched about it. She even calls me back the same day to hang out, but I told her it was a bad time (really really bad weather), and lets hang out later.

Anyway, so the next day I call her to chill... She says cool, meet me at the mall. When I get there, she had two friends with her! Obviously things are awkward as I thought it'd just be her and I. So I tell her, let's hang out another time... call me later. I think I failed her friends' test as I didn't make a very good impression on them.

Ok, xmas comes by and we chit chat on the phone for a little while. I even gave her some free food from where I work at as kind of a xmas gift (such a desparate move...... sheesh, what was I thinking). So things are going ok, and I say, hey, lets hang out today.. I'll call you after I'm done working. She says cool!

I call her after work and I get her voicemail twice. Obviously she is blowing me off.. I feel very discouraged and didn't talk to her at all for a few days.

New Years comes, I call just to say happy new years. I said I didn't want to have any conflicts w/ people for the new years.... I was like you dont have to explain anything, I just want to clear this weirdness between us.... She was like "awww... happy new years to you too.... yeah, we'll hang out.. we'll talk... I'll call you tomorrow or something".

10 days later, I hear nothing from her...... man.... i need some advice.. I know in my heart she is not interested in me anymore... But I gotta find out why because I thought she was in the beginning...... I know I shouldn't call.... but man.... its hard!

Any dudes been through this??? A girl is feeling you at first and then does a 180 and totally disses you? I been through this twice now.

Why do girls do this???!! At first they into you and then they aint!!
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GIRLS ARE FVCKING PSYCHOS SOMETIMES.

My experience with cliff notes:
1) Get digits at bar
2) Call girl and leave message (tried calling 3 times over 3 days). My "3 rule" is hit and I stop calling.
3) next thing I know. she is calling me stalker.

Very tempted to beat the crap out of her. Anyoways. Leasson learned. Some women are bitches that change there mind for no good reason.
 
IHateMyJob2004

IHateMyJob2004

Lifer
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Originally posted by: TonyB
you blew it when you decided not to hang out with here the 1st time, you blew it the 2nd time when she was at the mall with her friends. the friends were there as an "airbag"

you blew it the 3rd time when you said "i'll call you after work" you should of been like, "i'll come over after work, k bye" you gota be more assertive and aggressive.

you blew it the 4th time when you said you wanted to "clear this weirdness between us", by that time shes probably thinking "us??? what us"


cliff nots: you blew it
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Hahahaha, after seeing it that way, she's probably already telling her firned he is a stalker.
 
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OCNewbie

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Originally posted by: PremiumG

Ok, xmas comes by and we chit chat on the phone for a little while. I even gave her some free food from where I work at as kind of a xmas gift (such a desparate move...... sheesh, what was I thinking). So things are going ok, and I say, hey, lets hang out today.. I'll call you after I'm done working. She says cool!

I call her after work and I get her voicemail twice. Obviously she is blowing me off.. I feel very discouraged and didn't talk to her at all for a few days.
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To me it's not obvious that she's blowing you off. Don't assume the worst. There are countless reasons why she wasn't at her phone at the times you called.


10 days later, I hear nothing from her...... man.... i need some advice.. I know in my heart she is not interested in me anymore... But I gotta find out why because I thought she was in the beginning...... I know I shouldn't call.... but man.... its hard!
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You're not psychic, so don't try to be. Perhaps it's safe to say you're not the only thing on her mind and she's putting everything else in her life on hold to be around you, but that doesn't mean she has zero interest.

Best thing to do with her about the friends @ the mall incident is just to be honest with her. Tell her that you were expecting/hoping it would just be you and her @ the mall, and when her friends were there, you were just a tad bummed, that the situation wasn't what you were expecting, but that it's no big deal. And why did you feel awkward? Was it you were more disappointed and weren't able to just make the most of the situation anyway?

Why do you like her so much anyway? If she's an awesome girl (not merely hot, cuz if she's just hot and you're fretting over losing out on her hotness, don't waste your time), then call her. Let her know you really would like to get to know her better, from your side of things, you feel that things got off on the wrong foot, but perhaps you have no reason to feel that way. She might not have any ill feelings at all directed your way, perhaps she thinks you're not interested in her. Since you sorta ditched her it sounds like the first night you guys were to hang out (the friends @ the mall thing).

Don't play the "signs" game, be up front and communicate, that way there is no guessing involved. Be up front with how you feel, though it may feel a little awkward, or "new", at first, in the end there'll be no guesswork.
 
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