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Yeah this is very OT even for AOT. I will ask other places, but perhaps you have gone through this.
I have a very good friend since childhood and he is Bipolar. Things have gone downhill for him in the last few years. Alcoholism, lost job, homelessness and emerging mental illness. He finally got his own place through public assistance. He is relatively young (35). He has recently been dealing with childhood trauma (but I am very skeptical of this) and in the process alienated much of his family. I love the guy, but he is ready to break me. I am his only (AFAIK) local friend and support system. He is very isolated. He was on medication that he can no longer afford (or simply won't take even if so) and his mental decline has been noticeable the last year. He is now paranoid (not schizophrenia) and he always wants to meet up. More just to get outside which I am all for. However it has now become very draining and I feel put out. Not only put out but horrible for his situation (and also I feel being put out) and consider it now a chore to deal with him. I love the guy, but he talks about the same thing every time: anger, resentment, etc. Some of what he talks about his family (which I am very close with), I just don't believe much of it it but don't say anything and DO want to be supportive but it's hard for me to process everything he says and accept it. He seems to of given up on life. I have tried to do a few things to help him out, but its very difficult and seems like all avenues of help are not available. He doesn't have any money, limited to no health insurance, and just doesn't care about any of that anyway.
What did you do? I want to 'disengage' without making the situation worse that he may commit suicide at worst. But I'm so worn out and trying to keep my own mess of a life manageable.
Thanks guys!
I have a very good friend since childhood and he is Bipolar. Things have gone downhill for him in the last few years. Alcoholism, lost job, homelessness and emerging mental illness. He finally got his own place through public assistance. He is relatively young (35). He has recently been dealing with childhood trauma (but I am very skeptical of this) and in the process alienated much of his family. I love the guy, but he is ready to break me. I am his only (AFAIK) local friend and support system. He is very isolated. He was on medication that he can no longer afford (or simply won't take even if so) and his mental decline has been noticeable the last year. He is now paranoid (not schizophrenia) and he always wants to meet up. More just to get outside which I am all for. However it has now become very draining and I feel put out. Not only put out but horrible for his situation (and also I feel being put out) and consider it now a chore to deal with him. I love the guy, but he talks about the same thing every time: anger, resentment, etc. Some of what he talks about his family (which I am very close with), I just don't believe much of it it but don't say anything and DO want to be supportive but it's hard for me to process everything he says and accept it. He seems to of given up on life. I have tried to do a few things to help him out, but its very difficult and seems like all avenues of help are not available. He doesn't have any money, limited to no health insurance, and just doesn't care about any of that anyway.
What did you do? I want to 'disengage' without making the situation worse that he may commit suicide at worst. But I'm so worn out and trying to keep my own mess of a life manageable.
Thanks guys!
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