Dating someone from work?

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Pliablemoose

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Just wait for an opening & be honest, sounds like she'll jump you if the mood is right. I blew a lot of opportunities because I was too shy.

The old honest approach works the best

:)
 

bmacd

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I dated a girl from work at a couple jobs. It's the best thing when you're together, but lets face it, nobody stays together forever. The breakups are nasty....and you have to see that person everyday (usually). From personal experience as a 19 year old, don't do it.

-=bmacd=-
 

Ernieb

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Originally posted by: ElFenix
as long as shes not in your department and theres several 100 employees it should be alright.

Agree, experienced of it before...
Fine.. now just fine.. diff department.. with about 70 people in this company..
we still do say hi when we happen to see eachother at work.. ok with me :)
 

ElFenix

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you could do her in each of the chairs that are on display :D
 

dirtboy

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I've had drinks with people I worked with and even kissed some of them after having too much to drink (hehe), all with no strings or bad feelings attached afterwards. I don't see much harm in having a drink with her, maybe you'll become friends? I say go for drinks, but nothing more.
 

DeafeningSilence

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Originally posted by: bmacd
It's the best thing when you're together, but lets face it, nobody stays together forever.
Uh, I suspect that your perspective is slightly obscured by your current disillusionment with females.

Don't be silly. . . MILLIONS of people have stayed together forever. The inability of most people to honor their vows doesn't change that fact.
 

bmacd

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Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence
Originally posted by: bmacd
It's the best thing when you're together, but lets face it, nobody stays together forever.
Uh, I suspect that your perspective is slightly obscured by your current disillusionment with females.

Don't be silly. . . MILLIONS of people have stayed together forever. The inability of most people to honor their vows doesn't change that fact.

i'm just saying from personal experience...working @ best buy...i dated a girl from Customer Service. Occasionaly, she'd need a guy from computers to verify the integrity of a return and when there was only one or two of us scheduled, and i had to go, things were difficult.

Next scenario: I dated three of the girls from Staples. Had a blast seeing as two were best friends. Probably the most memorable dating experiences were from those two. I had no regrets dating in the workplace and would have certainly encouraged it after those two. I was electronics/furniture lead and next was a girl that i took out to lunch, being the nice guy that i am. She was a copy center girl who also did customer service. I opened the doors, pulled the whole Don Juan bit (which comes natural) and she fell in love with me. I really didn't even like the girl...the only reason i took her out was b/c her homecoming date cancelled on her. Then things got difficult after she realized that i wasn't paying any attention to her after telling her i wasn't looking for anything more than a friendship. She'd go out of her way to see me...which was nice, but i didn't want to see her. She brought her mother into the store to purchase electronic items and would then return the items to a nearby store. She used her mother as a customer and mediator, knowing i wouldn't sacrifice a sale or step up to her mother. Long story short: she filed harassment against me b/c i shut her out and ignored her. It was later thrown away by the GM/DM at the time.

Lastly: @ kmart. I got attached to a girl who i thought i fell in love with. She was/still is drop-dead gorgeous. Everything about her was perfect. She worked customer service, i was/am the pantry manager. I'd see her every chance i could. Things were great...despite our lack of "true" communication, but that's beside the point. Whenever something bad happened, the entire store knew about it...which created some tension between mutual friends/associates who seemed to get in the way when they tried to intervene and mediate. Then we'd stop talking for long periods of time...first time was 2 months...then things were great again. Then the whole process started over again...things went great, we fought, people intervened, i was PMSing @ work, we stopped talking.

Moral of the story: you can have a great time with the right girl, but the odds are not on your side. Do what makes you happy!!!

-=bmacd=-
 

Synoptic

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Originally posted by: Fausto1


Keep things friendly for while and you should be OK. If the more-than-friends thing evolves of its own accord, then so be it.

Fausto

Good advice, if you have fun, invite her out for drinks again, just see where things go from there. Don't jump into anything right away though.
 

amnesiac

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Originally posted by: bmacd<brMoral of the story: you can have a great time with the right girl, but the odds are not on your side. Do what makes you happy!!!
It seems to me the odds aren't on YOUR side. You seem to have rather poor luck with females, that doesn't make it true for everyone.

 

bmacd

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not bad luck with girls...just girls @ work. They're a dime a dozen...no need to complicate things at work if you don't need to.

-=bmacd=-
 

her209

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I'm in a similar situation like you except I have two women after me. Help! :(
 

TeenHeartthrob

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i have seen one good piece of advice, all the rest could have been wiped away with single quilted toilet paper.

she has already asked you to do something with her, why would you want to go and f(_)*k it up by trying to ask her on a "date"? if she told you repeatadly "just as friends" or something along those lines, then you are already in trouble.

like ross said, just go have fun with her, (try to) charm her, maybe after doing something with you she will begin to see ou as more then a friend.

if you ask her on a stupid "date" now i will pimp slap you


thank you
 

Salvador

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Depends if this "crappy" retail job is your career choice or just a job to get you by until you finish school.

When I was working crappy retail jobs, I always ended up dating my boss and that was always a bad idea because I lost my job in just about every instance.

Just think about if you could work with her if something went wrong with the relationship.

Sal
 

db

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"Should I go ahead and ask her to go out on a date date as opposed to a friend date? We're kind of opposites in terms of personality (I'm shy and she's, well, outgoing, which doesn't quite describe her) but she's like the perfect woman."

1. Dating anybody at work becomes everybodies' business
2. Don't jump the gun--she asked as a 'friend'. You should go on that basis only. To skip that would be inappropriate, and also a bad move.
IF things go good on that 'friend' event, then LATER ask her out. Do NOT ask her out that same night.
3. Your personalities do not sound like a good mix. She will be dominating you and you will permit it, and eventually you will resent it and it will be a huge blow-up. Not good--nobody happy.
 
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Err ok lemme say something real fast: when she asked she didnt say "but only as friends" - she said it in a "ill buy you a round this weekend" type way. I just assumed by that conotation she meant as friends because she previously hasn't really shown any interest.

Anyway I stopped by work today and dropped off the favor - she got all excited and made plans for Thursday night, Friday if we can't make it Thursday. She "playfully" jabbed me in the arm a couple times and I did it back, etc etc. I didn't ask if she had a bf or anything but I'll find out Thursday and if things go right then I guess I'll ask her out on a "real" date. Anyway thanks to everyone for the advice and such
 

TNTrulez

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Originally posted by: Fausto1
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Damnit :( Well ok just a little fyi: it's not an office environment or anything - just crappy retail (Staples) and I only see her on the weekends mostly. Does that make a diff. or no?

Actually, yes for two reasons.

1) Not an office environment where you'll be seeing her constantly (my frame of reference).
2) I'm guessing this isn't your end-all, be-all job so even if it does go bad you won't be there forever anyway, right?

Keep things friendly for while and you should be OK. If the more-than-friends thing evolves of its own accord, then so be it.

Fausto

yep
 

Geekbabe

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Originally posted by: RossMAN
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
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:D

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Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: RossMAN
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
RossMAN - that's very good advice. Guess you ferengis are pretty smart folk :D

/me slaps RagingBITCH around with an endangered trout, but of course would you expect any less of us Ferengi's?

:D

listen coupon code Ho, you owe me large for that trout !!!! hrummp ! you feregengi think you can steal everything that isn't nailed down ! ;)

lol, that quote is a keeper :D

 

RossMAN

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Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Originally posted by: baffled2
Originally posted by: RossMAN
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
RossMAN - that's very good advice. Guess you ferengis are pretty smart folk :D

/me slaps RagingBITCH around with an endangered trout, but of course would you expect any less of us Ferengi's?

:D

listen coupon code Ho, you owe me large for that trout !!!! hrummp ! you feregengi think you can steal everything that isn't nailed down ! ;)

lol, that quote is a keeper :D

Ah so that's where you got your sig from, I likey :D