What does everyone think about dating someone from work? There's this great chick at work who just turned 21 about the same time I did, and she asked me to go have a drink with her this weekend, but strictly in a friend way. (She owed me for a favor I did so she's buying a couple rounds for me) Should I go ahead and ask her to go out on a date date as opposed to a friend date? We're kind of opposites in terms of personality (I'm shy and she's, well, outgoing, which doesn't quite describe her) but she's like the perfect woman. My main concern is if she says no or it doesn't work out - just having to see each other everyday with that kind of awkward silence/feeling. Is it worth taking the risk or should I just hang back and let it be?
Dating someone from work?
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don't do it. 
i'm daily reminded that i'm surrounded by females in my office.
80% of my department is female.
i'm daily reminded that i'm surrounded by females in my office.
80% of my department is female.
It's pretty much a rule of thumb not to date coworkers for exactly the reasons you mentioned....you still have to see them every day if it all goes bad. Proceed with caution.
Fausto
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Damnit Well ok just a little fyi: it's not an office environment or anything - just crappy retail (Staples) and I only see her on the weekends mostly. Does that make a diff. or no?
Well ok just a little fyi: it's not an office environment or anything - just crappy retail (Staples) and I only see her on the weekends mostly. Does that make a diff. or no?
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Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Damnit
bah, crappy retail you can just quit if it gets bad.
Makes a big difference. Crap job --> nothing to lose --> go for it!Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Damnit
That's just my opinion.
Originally posted by: RagingBITCH
Damnit
Actually, yes for two reasons.
1) Not an office environment where you'll be seeing her constantly (my frame of reference).
2) I'm guessing this isn't your end-all, be-all job so even if it does go bad you won't be there forever anyway, right?
Keep things friendly for while and you should be OK. If the more-than-friends thing evolves of its own accord, then so be it.
Fausto
As long as you have some space between you to at your working environment it should be ok. I dated one girl at my last job that worked in the same area of the restaurant (i.e. VERY close quarters). Well she turned out to be a psycho and it got very uncomfortable.
I started dating someone else from work right before I quit, and we'll be 6 months soon.
I started dating someone else from work right before I quit, and we'll be 6 months soon.
Hehe....I have the opposite problem. Women used to studiously ignore me and now that I'm (happily mind you) married, I have several hot coworkers who flirt with me constantly. Life's stupid that way for some reason.Originally posted by: pyonir
i dated a chick i worked with, but i quit before we broke up. so oh well.
i work with a lot of hot women now, and would date one if they gave me the time of day.
RossMAN - that's very good advice. Guess you ferengis are pretty smart folk
Fausto, amnes, pyonir, Fenix, Def - good advice too. I never thought about just going out as "friends" first and then seeing if that leads anywhere.
Ok one more woman question: is it smart to go for a chick if she hasn't given any interest in you, granted I don't talk to her all that much but every now and then we have a nice lil convo?
Fausto, amnes, pyonir, Fenix, Def - good advice too. I never thought about just going out as "friends" first and then seeing if that leads anywhere.
Ok one more woman question: is it smart to go for a chick if she hasn't given any interest in you, granted I don't talk to her all that much but every now and then we have a nice lil convo?
Pliablemoose
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Go out for drinks & then let her have her way with you, just play it cool. If things heat up, just explain your concerns, but tell her you're very interested. Worked for me.
I asked out my current wife over work email, & met 1st wife @ work too. Big no-no's, but what the heck, life goes on.
I asked out my current wife over work email, & met 1st wife @ work too. Big no-no's, but what the heck, life goes on.
pyonir
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Originally posted by: Fausto1
Hehe....I have the opposite problem. Women used to studiously ignore me and now that I'm (happily mind you) married, I have several hot coworkers who flirt with me constantly. Life's stupid that way for some reason.Originally posted by: pyonir
i dated a chick i worked with, but i quit before we broke up. so oh well.
i work with a lot of hot women now, and would date one if they gave me the time of day.
/me runs out and gets married to some random chick in vegas
Woo Hoo! now i should have chicks all over me!
I would say it depends on the personality. Is she ultra-hot and can never find a guy that just wants to be friends? Or is she more down-to-earth, and could potentially be flattered by your interest, even if she doesn't share your feelings? In the second case, I think you could pull it off if you say whatever you have to say politely and respectfully. I think most girls appreciate attention from decent guys. My advice remains: go for it!
Oh, and I forgot to say last time... PICS???
I work with two guys who married women they worked with in an office environment. If it's meant to be, it'll be. What do you have to lose by going for it?
Ziptar
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DATE HER !!! GO OUT WITH HER!!! Then once your dating have sex all over the workplace. Stockrooms, conference rooms, you bosses desk, you name it.. Have sex at work when ever and as often as you can!!! There is nothing better then having sex and getting paid at the same time....
Except maybe getting paid for sex!!
Except maybe getting paid for sex!!
Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence
I would say it depends on the personality. Is she ultra-hot and can never find a guy that just wants to be friends? Or is she more down-to-earth, and could potentially be flattered by your interest, even if she doesn't share your feelings? In the second case, I think you could pull it off if you say whatever you have to say politely and respectfully. I think most girls appreciate attention from decent guys. My advice remains: go for it!
Oh, and I forgot to say last time... PICS???
Well, she's hot in her own way. She's this tomboy type chick who is into sports, beer, and lots of guy like stuff. She's also built too - with the exception of myself and 3 others she's stronger than anyone else who works there. She's pretty down to earth and probably would be flattered - although I guess I'm afraid of rejection. (She's the type of person who would let me down in my face but gently) I actually have a very very small pic of her but it's a bad pic though, and a year or two old
Moose - play it cool, got it
Wait so if she starts something I should stop it or let her trample me?Originally posted by: pyonir
i dated a chick i worked with, but i quit before we broke up. so oh well.
i work with a lot of hot women now, and would date one if they gave me the time of day.
3:10PM
pyonir
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Originally posted by: thawolfman
Originally posted by: pyonir
i dated a chick i worked with, but i quit before we broke up. so oh well.
i work with a lot of hot women now, and would date one if they gave me the time of day.
3:10PM
ummm it's only 12.17pm here, but thanks d|ck.
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