Damnit! I hate f*ing up 1st dates!

[BigToque]

We went and played some pool, and I just had absolutly nothing to say to this girl!

I think I said 4 complete sentences, Hello, Goodnight and smiled a couple of times..

What a waste... she was hot

 

[ltk007]

Amature. You have to have them talk about themselves. They love that.

 

[BigToque]

Damn right I'm an amature... I'm 18 (in 3 days) and have only been on 3 dates!

Everyone!!!

Gimme some tips for the next girl!

 

[drboogie]

18 ... and only 3 dates?

 

[JoeKing]

practice talking about nothing. Prepare a repertoire of things to talk about. How she is, what she likes ect ect. Just be really candid and say what's on your mind. Compliment her ask her what she want's to do.

 

[Shorty28]

I don't think I've ever been on official "date," but that's not the way our school's social system is organized- much more like you meet someone at a party, mess around a few times, maybe start a relationship, but usually not. Definitely not the "typical" system. My advice? Don't call too much

 

[GL]

I'd suggest forgetting about practicing what you're gonna say. Ad lib the entire date. Who cares if you say something stupid...make fun of yourself after saying it...then she'll think you're funny and humble 2 years into the relationship you'll be asking why you can't just say nothing instead of worrying about something to say.

-GL

 

[BigToque]

<< Don't call too much >>



I met her on the net over Icq like 3 weeks ago. I talked to her for the first time over the phone at like 4pm today. At 7:30 we were out...

With nothing to say... I doubt there will be many more conversations on the phone.

 

[Monel Funkawitz]

Monel's Last Date
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8:20PM

Me &quot;Hi. You must be Anna.&quot;

Her *nods* &quot;I like your shirt.&quot; *smiles*

Me &quot;Thanks. This is the one I wear during my midget tossing. I am a professional midget tosser. What do you do for a living?&quot;

Her *laughs* &quot;Midget tosser, eh?&quot;

Me &quot;Yup. Grab one arm, one leg, and heave like hell. I usually hit the target most of the time. Last week one bit me though. (Shows scratch on arm)&quot;

Her &quot;Uh...&quot;

Me &quot;Wanna shave each other's eyebrows and pretend we are invisible?&quot;

Her &quot;I gotta go. I think my uh.. house is burning or something.&quot;

Me &quot;Did you see Louie the midget? I tossed his ass in the weeds, and I can't find him (Looks around)&quot;

Her (Says nothing. Runs like hell to her car with &quot;Deer in headlight eyes&quot

Don't take advice from me.

 

[Pepsi90919]

This line did it for me:



<< I think my uh.. house is burning or something >>

 

[WombatWoman]

Stefan, I suspect that your problem is that you asked this girl out because, as you say, &quot;she was hot,&quot; rather than because you liked her or enjoyed her company.

 

[Michael]

WW - I don't think that I ever asked a girl out unless I thought she was &quot;hot&quot;. If I didn't find her attractive, then why would I ask her out?

Now I dated quite a few women who started out looking hot and quickly grew ugly once I got to know them and I also dated women who I didn't find all that attractive when I first met them but who grew more attractive once I got to know them, but I would say they were &quot;hot&quot; to me once I decided to date them.

Stefan - Almost all 1st dates are messed up in one way or another. I bet that telling her that she was so nice that it made you nervous as hell would be a good start and then make another date. If she says yes, make sure you get to know her this time.

Michael

 

[Lalakai]

some good pointers already covered. Probably understand why you're dating her in the first place. At 18 hormones are expected so......

on a first date or recovering from an awkward date where you had lots of silence, go somewhere that has lots of distractions: the mall, a circus, a good zoo or museum, ect.. Somewhere that has lots of opportunities for quick easy conversation topics. If you get comfortable and find some common ground then you can get someplace a bit more quiet and build on it. Nothing wrong with double dating either; gives you some moral support

makes it alot easier if you have something in common: sports, hobbies, movies. A gf that i nearly married loved the beach, motor cycles, watching the stars, loved Tolkien, and was probably the most kissable wench I've ever met very hard to let her go.

 

[Antisocial Virge]

My two favorite lines I said on the phone with my past girlfriend/present wife.

&quot; I have to go now...have to go pick up a cow &quot;

and

&quot; I have to run for a sec..the garage is on fire...I'll call you back&quot;

and they were both true

 

[Mday]

20, never been on a date. so i call myself a loser, and most agree.

 

[Farbio]

and up until reading monel's and antisocial's dating habits, i thought my dating life was unusual. i just seem to find the ones that already have boyfriends but neglect to mention that for a few dates....

 

[Crysla]

Yeah, Farbio...I'm really sorry I didn't mention that husband thing, earlier. He's always getting in the way of my fun.

Princess

 

[Farbio]

damn crysla, how could you fail to mention that? and here i was waiting for that 4th date.....once again....

 

[rickn]

who wants to go out with women that have faces like tree trunks. If she was hot, she was hot. He is a young'un, he will learn

 

[spec411]

STefan...your aiight, 18 and three dates aint nuthin unusual, ive had friends who started dating at 9 and some at 21, we're all different...soem good suggestions have been given: ask her about herself, find out what she likes, have her talk about herslef,,(unless shes really shy at first this will get things started)

if she truly is hot give it another shot..talk somemore b4 u go out again and do something she likes, not a &quot;safe&quot; thing like movie, pool, etc..maybe she like horseback riding =) no really though, then you have something to talk about all day: how the ride was, how many times shes been riding, etc... well maybe im thinking other things but hey all that talk about riding cant be bad....

or get the Free Nissan picnick backpack in Hot Deals forum and take her out on to a lunch in the park...

 

[WombatWoman]

I guess I must have one of those faces like a tree trunk. I didn't get asked out on a date until I was a sophomore in college. Must not have been hot enough, I guess.

 

[PCAddict]

Don't sweat screwing up a first date too much. I've only had one first date not go my way. I consider it a mixed blessing. Yea, she was an nice girl I could take home to Mom. In fact my mother and aunt set me up with her. She was a friend of my cousins' who I actually kinda knew when I was younger. Anyhow, she started pestering my aunt to give me her number after she saw me at a family wedding. My aunt passed the message to my mother who passed it to me. I really wasn't interested, but I caved due to the pressure from my mother and aunt.

Anyhow, I called her up and we set up a date. It was your typical movie/dinner date. I was really laid back. I consciously tried to be less agressive than usual. I had a nice time. I didn't even try to get a kiss out of her or anything. That was my mistake. Apparently she really was interested in me and interpreted my lack of agression as a lack of interest. She was a college student and was going back to school, and she kinda blew me off when I called her the next day. She said she had all kinds of things to do and would call me. I never heard a word.

All I was doing was covering my own rear. Considering she came from a strict Catholic upbringing like I did, and the fact that I had like 5 years on her (I was 25 and she was 20), I wanted to take it easy. Little did I know, because my cousin told me, I could have &quot;closed the deal&quot; pretty quickly.

But, considering I heard less than a year later that this girl was engaged to be married, I am glad it didn't work out. Apparently she was looking to get married and whatnot. It looks like she found someone pretty quickly. Glad it wasn't me.

 

[Batch]

I think that these comments are good...but I also think that they are overlooking his comment that he met her online, and that they had only talked on the phone briefly a few hours before the date. That is a lot of pressure i would imagine for someone who is 17 and only had 3 dates. I would suggest having a good phone conversation with this girl, and then take her out again.

 

[HardTech]

I'm 16 and have only been on one date

our second date, we went back to her place. At about 1 in the morning, she was dead tired but I refused to leave. Then I turned the TV on to a porno. That's when she kicked me out. Needless to say, she never talked to me again

oh, and she wasn't all that either... I just didn't feel like dumping her, so I let her dump me

 

[randomlinh]

refusing to leave, flipping to porno's.. hrmm.. remind me not to take advice from you