Cremation incident in restaurant – Over Reacted?

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Raizinman

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You are changing your argument. Is it Applebees allowed to turn customers with an urn away? Sure they are, I don't think anyone in this thread would disagree with that. However, that is not what you originally asked.. YOU asked if YOU AND YOUR WIFE were in the wrong eavesdropping and then contacting the manager. In that regard YOU were wrong, Applebees was not.


You need to go back and re-read what I originally asked. YOU are wrong.

"Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?"
 

HAL9000

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You need to go back and re-read what I originally asked. YOU are wrong.

"Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?"

The answer to that question is:

No, few people have an issue with it.
No, people do not regularly take cremated ashes with them to restaurants.

P.S. You stuck your nose into someone else business and because of an irrational fear of yours they were ejected from the restaurant. MYOB
 

dainthomas

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Dec 7, 2004
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You need to go back and re-read what I originally asked. YOU are wrong.

"Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?"

No because I eat dead human cells all the time (of which none were in the ash). So do you. The human body sheds eight pounds of skin cells every year. How many do you think were in your food and drinks?

You were being a tool. Consider this a learning experience and move on.
 

Ichinisan

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Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn
Only idiots.

or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?
No. It's unusual. There's nothing wrong with it.

Your argument is similar to this one: "Inter-racial relationships are morally wrong because...because...because I just wasn't raised that way."
 

TheVrolok

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Dec 11, 2000
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You need to go back and re-read what I originally asked. YOU are wrong.

"Does anyone else have an issue with eating next to a dead body in an urn or do people regularly take their cremated ashes with them to restaurants?"

Exactly what I said; you were looking for backup for the actions that YOU and YOUR wife took, not the actions of Applebees which is what you later started defending.
 

HumblePie

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Oct 30, 2000
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SlickSnakes defense of "there are still bone bits in the ash" reminds me of this.

Tim_the_Enchanter.jpg


LOOOK AT THE BOONESS!!

Not that there aren't bones in my rack of baby back ribs on the table next to him. Be careful because my baby back ribs might infect your salad!
 
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CLite

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Cremations burn at temperatures of over 1,500ºF, and alter the fundamental chemistry of the remains by way of oxidation. The molecules themselves aren't even the same as the living persons's. The process of sterilization only requires 270ºF.

In summary, the OP is an asshole who seems to have communication issues with his wife causing them both to be more interested in extending their unhappiness to a grieving family rather than keeping it to themselves.
 

Jaepheth

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Sort of rude for them to not bring enough ashes for everyone.

But it was ruder to have them thrown out because of it.
 

JulesMaximus

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Man, you guys get all worked up over the dumbest shit. So the OP got some weird family ejected from a shitty chain restaurant. Big fucking deal.

I'm waiting for the parody thread...:p
 

Macamus Prime

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The more I think about it - yes, this was a pretty fucked up move.

Personally, I would have let it be. And, if I was the person bringing the ashes of someone around with me, I would keep my mouth shut and the urn hidden.

Anyway, the urn was sealed - yes? It's not like they kept the lid off and blew air into it over your food.

Now, is it normal for someone to walk into a restaurant and "have dinner" with a jar full of burnt human remains? Yes, if that is how the person deals with the passing of a loved one; it is pretty resonable.

However, with people such as yourself being skeeved out over this, it would be best for the greaving person to keep their mouth shut. It would be easier for them to just not mention the urn, greave for the loss of their loved one and avoid people who want them removed because they don't like this type of greaving.

You do have the law on your side here. And you clearly exercised it - good job; just don't bitch and moan when Karma cockstabs your asshole.
 

MotionMan

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Jan 11, 2006
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My question was never answered :(

If cremains could ever be considered a biohazard (as opposed to something the health dept. merely does not want in restaurants, which may be true), wouldn't they would be more regulated? Also, if a possible biohazard, they could not possibly be released to a member of the general public (or thousands of them!), even if they are family.

Inquiring minds want to know.

MotionMan