My uncle ruined his live with drugs, he was very successful (6 figure salary in the 80s), but the more money he got, the more drugs he could buy. It's a horrible cycle. Eventually he was broke, living in a dump, with no job. He's been in for therapy and rehap numerous times. Well, right now he seems to be clean and he's getting his life back, I doubt he will never be nearly as successful, but at least he has a job and a place to live and seems to be clean.
I kinda missed out on having two uncles. There is that uncle who was never there or anything and my other uncle is an overworked, stressed out exec that doesn't seem to be much of a family man.
It sucks dude. Stick with her, don't give up on her, maybe she'll come around. You can't lose hope, she's only 15, there is still time. Get her into rehab, she might hate you and your parents for it, but maybe someday she'll realize that you guys did it for her own good and you'll have a sister again.
I kinda missed out on having two uncles. There is that uncle who was never there or anything and my other uncle is an overworked, stressed out exec that doesn't seem to be much of a family man.
It sucks dude. Stick with her, don't give up on her, maybe she'll come around. You can't lose hope, she's only 15, there is still time. Get her into rehab, she might hate you and your parents for it, but maybe someday she'll realize that you guys did it for her own good and you'll have a sister again.
Amazon,
i'm really sorry to hear that - some similar stuff has happened to me. i want you to know that it may take a few years of pain however things will likely get better.
one of the things taht both your parents and you have to realize is that you have no control over drugs and drug addiction. then you'll likely have to figure out how bad things are but it is likely that your sister will need to go to some sort of rehab however before anything can be solved she has to first admit to having some sort of problem which may never happen.i dont know the details of your situation or the differences of her being a girl but you should know this isnt your fault and there may be nothing that you can do.
i won't go to far into this but i want to offer you my support even though i dont knnow you. If there is ever a time that you need someone to talk to or advice from someone who has been in your poisition feel freee to talk to me.
edit - be glad if things arent as bad as i make them out to be
i'm really sorry to hear that - some similar stuff has happened to me. i want you to know that it may take a few years of pain however things will likely get better.
one of the things taht both your parents and you have to realize is that you have no control over drugs and drug addiction. then you'll likely have to figure out how bad things are but it is likely that your sister will need to go to some sort of rehab however before anything can be solved she has to first admit to having some sort of problem which may never happen.i dont know the details of your situation or the differences of her being a girl but you should know this isnt your fault and there may be nothing that you can do.
i won't go to far into this but i want to offer you my support even though i dont knnow you. If there is ever a time that you need someone to talk to or advice from someone who has been in your poisition feel freee to talk to me.
edit - be glad if things arent as bad as i make them out to be
Sorry to hear about your family's woes. I personally never went through this in my family (I was the rebellious one, and a lame one at that) but my cousin had a lot of problems with her parents and the law. Best way IMO is to get the family together and really try to open up the communication with open minds. There's a chance she'll outgrow it if the problem is left alone, but the risks are that the problems will just get worse. My cousin is almost 30 and is still battling drug abuse and mental illness, partly because her family is quick to judge and doesn't listen to each other. Hope you have better luck with your sister.
Why not give up on your sister? I mean, she obviously thinks that she is responsible enough to do what she wants with herself, let her learn the hard way. I say you kick her out of the house, kill the guy (which you can do legally in America as "self-defense" and you'll be done with her.
-- mrcodedude
and you'll be done with her.-- mrcodedude
Hmmmm did they get the guy out of the house??? Come on. The girl im in love with(been like that for almost 4 years now, sigh) lost her virginity to a 19 year old guy the week before her 15th birth day. Ive been depressive ever since LOL Her sister also did it when she was 13. What im trying to say is that your syster might have been doing it for a while before that. She could get pregnant or something(I doubt she has money to buy protection). You should realy do something about it NOW
sit down and have a talk.
don't do an intervention. don't try to exert any authority. don't try and talk like you know what you're talking about and she doesn't because she's so young (this is hard since it IS what you're thinking). treat her like a human being first and then try to build some trust.
if she won't get counseling or talk to anyone then there are other options.
but those are harder than just talking and not judging.
I've seen families go through this and have helped them in the past so if you need some help dealing with this or if you need advice, PM me.
the best thing you can do as a brother is ask her what's going on in her head.
don't do an intervention. don't try to exert any authority. don't try and talk like you know what you're talking about and she doesn't because she's so young (this is hard since it IS what you're thinking). treat her like a human being first and then try to build some trust.
if she won't get counseling or talk to anyone then there are other options.
but those are harder than just talking and not judging.
I've seen families go through this and have helped them in the past so if you need some help dealing with this or if you need advice, PM me.
the best thing you can do as a brother is ask her what's going on in her head.
I am really really sorry for u.
What you can do... is to (try) talking with your sister and try to make her understand WHAT is the meaning of life.... try to make her realise that she has only ONE life and when it is passed... it never comes back.
Usually, people don't realise this. Try to make her see how precious she is to you and your family... try to give her some strong life objectives.
What you can do... is to (try) talking with your sister and try to make her understand WHAT is the meaning of life.... try to make her realise that she has only ONE life and when it is passed... it never comes back.
Usually, people don't realise this. Try to make her see how precious she is to you and your family... try to give her some strong life objectives.
Even if she missed one year of school, tell her that is NOTHING. Some people must take more time and some other are faster.
The reason she might be acting like she is... maybe because she is lost. Maybe she doesn't know who she is. Try to make her remember the good times and that it could continue like that if she wants.
Good luck.
Sincerly,
Thor
The reason she might be acting like she is... maybe because she is lost. Maybe she doesn't know who she is. Try to make her remember the good times and that it could continue like that if she wants.
Good luck.
Sincerly,
Thor
..sounds like your sister's a crack head. Very few crack addicts actually recover and move on with life. They become commited to using, acquiring, and associating with other crack heads. Theft is a way of life with crack heads. They keep using crack untill a health crisis interupts their routine. Nothing else matters to them. Good luck. :disgust:
<< nothing exceeds like excess >>
<< nothing exceeds like excess >>
I hope she gets some help from someone. It is a tough situation but a little resoning with her is the way to go. Provide some hope for her, she is probably very insecure and needs reasurance. If you help her out you'll feel very proud of yourself. It is a continual proccess and there isn't an easy way.
First off, your parents should say that they are sorry for getting mad with her for smoking etc and explain that they are trying to help her. Restore some trust and freindship. You wont get through to her if she thinks that you guys are her enemies. Ask her what she thinks would be useful for her. Then raise some ideas on what they think would be a good idea. Maybe school isn't for her. Maybe try and line up a job for her etc to try and give her some independence she is wanting.
Don't force any ideas on her. She will back away into her shell. Reason with her and state your ideas and arguments objectively. You musn't create arguments. Continually work on ideas and encourage her to figure out problems herself. In the end, she will be the only one to be able resolve the situation, but you can help her achieve it. People in these situations need a lot of help and guidance, and family is the best help, given the right approach.
And jail isn't help. It is a waste of your lifetime, nothing more. If you really run out of options and are in dispair, I'm sure there are many groups out there that help people like your sister.
This also applies to your sisters boyfriend. Everyone is human, you just need the right key to unlock the safe of reason and understanding.
Please tell yourself and your parents not to give up on her. If you give up on her, what hope does she have? Life is full of ups and downs and that's what makes it wonderful to be alive. You will learn more from the downs than the ups.
I hope that helps. Good luck.
First off, your parents should say that they are sorry for getting mad with her for smoking etc and explain that they are trying to help her. Restore some trust and freindship. You wont get through to her if she thinks that you guys are her enemies. Ask her what she thinks would be useful for her. Then raise some ideas on what they think would be a good idea. Maybe school isn't for her. Maybe try and line up a job for her etc to try and give her some independence she is wanting.
Don't force any ideas on her. She will back away into her shell. Reason with her and state your ideas and arguments objectively. You musn't create arguments. Continually work on ideas and encourage her to figure out problems herself. In the end, she will be the only one to be able resolve the situation, but you can help her achieve it. People in these situations need a lot of help and guidance, and family is the best help, given the right approach.
And jail isn't help. It is a waste of your lifetime, nothing more. If you really run out of options and are in dispair, I'm sure there are many groups out there that help people like your sister.
This also applies to your sisters boyfriend. Everyone is human, you just need the right key to unlock the safe of reason and understanding.
Please tell yourself and your parents not to give up on her. If you give up on her, what hope does she have? Life is full of ups and downs and that's what makes it wonderful to be alive. You will learn more from the downs than the ups.
I hope that helps. Good luck.
dude..do something more pro-active then coming here and telling us about it. If my sister was f*cked up like that I would do anything and everything in my power to help. As for the kid who messed up your mom's husband, file a police report and press charges! easy enough. Seems more like you want to just give up and say the hell with it. That's the easy way out my friend. She's only 15! Man..get off this forum and go help your sister! Life is more important that this crap internet world!
Not to be harsh, but it sounds like your parents should've kept better tabs on who your sister was friends with. I know my parents always knew who I was friends with, and if anyone was questionable, they'd tell me why that person was a bad influence... that kept me steered clear of trouble situations, for the most part.
I hope your family can reel your sister back in... I wish you the best.
I hope your family can reel your sister back in... I wish you the best.
dude, go get her and bring her home. lock her up and just talk to her. does she listen to you? just be with her 24/7
If someone chooses to do drugs theres nothing You can do to change their mind...
She's a minor, send her to some relatives to live with for a year or so, out in the middle of bom f*ck.
She's a minor, send her to some relatives to live with for a year or so, out in the middle of bom f*ck.
She is a minor they can force her to do anything they want to. i live in michigan and have friends and relatives accross the border. my cousin had problems like that and they forced her (parents and court) into a juvinille center for kids like that. she was there for a year and now she is better suited to deal with her problems. You canadians are way to passive and friendly : ) (not intended as an insult)
As the older brother...I think this is a great opportunity to show her the right path. She may respect you more than your parents, as you are nearer to her age and you may better understand some of the problems that she is going through.
remember...this is you sister, you must take care of her now. Be active in her quest to turn her life around-don't just stand around and watch.
good luck
maybe try a counselor.
remember...this is you sister, you must take care of her now. Be active in her quest to turn her life around-don't just stand around and watch.
good luck
maybe try a counselor.
I am very sorry to hear the story. As big brother, I think it's better for you to talk to her rather than your parents. If this happened to me, I would rather talk to my friend or my sis or bro about it. Why don't you find out from her friend that you also know what's going on with your sister. Try to ask her friend as much info as you can why she's doing this. Also you want to make sure that her friend really wants to help you and your sister cause if her friend screw up, she might hate you also. Just giving suggestion. You do what ever you think is the best. Good luck to you.
Darno
Darno
Your parents was wrong for getting mad at her for smoking.
Teenagers will naturally rebel against someone who doesn't approve.
If you make a big deal about something....teenagers will continue doing it.
I smoked 1 cigarette when I was 11 years old which my parents just looked at me and said, "I know it is your life. I just hate to see you die young".
I didn't smoke anymore after that.
Teenagers will naturally rebel against someone who doesn't approve.
If you make a big deal about something....teenagers will continue doing it.
I smoked 1 cigarette when I was 11 years old which my parents just looked at me and said, "I know it is your life. I just hate to see you die young".
I didn't smoke anymore after that.
AmazonRasta, where do you live? I'll come to your house with 2 baseball bats and we will find this punk.
Sorry to hear about that.
Sorry to hear about that.
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