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Crazy sh!t happening with my sister... *Update*

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AmazonRasta

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All started when my parents caught my sister smoking cigarettes. They got mad, and grounded her so in retaliation she decided to move out (since my parents are divorced, she left to go live with my mother). Then, she started getting into drugs. My mother found her stoned one day, and then she started stealing money from my mother's bank account by depositing empty envelopes and withdrawing the fake amount. She stole money from me, approximately $75 altogether. Time went by, and my sister continued to come home stoned. On what, nobody is too sure of. One time she admitted to valium, but I think she's gotten into worse things than that. Last semester she missed 109 classes and most recently she started selling her things for money; drug money I presume. Today my mom came home and found my sister in bed with a guy (my sister is only 15 by the way). My mother and her husband tried to kick the guy out of their house, and the boy attacked my mother's husband. He is currently in the hospital getting stitches. I'm not sure whether they called the cops or not. My sister has been kicked out of my mother's home. My father refuses to let her in our home if she comes calling. I don't disagree with them.

My parents were always great parents. A little strict at times, but what can you expect? They always tried to steer her the right way regarding drugs, school, sex and all of the other rebellious stuff that teenagers will do. My parents tried to get a drug counciller to speak with her, but she won't admit to having a problem. Her life is fvcked up, and I can honestly say that in this case, it's nobody's fault but her own. My parents were always there for her, always.

Oh well. Truthfully, I only hope she gets what's coming to her - jail, rehab, whatever it may be. I just hope she smartens up sooner or later.
 
How old was the guy? Might be able to get him on statuatory or something. Chances are her he took advantage of her while she was on drugs.

Sad story. Hope your sister cleans up.
 
Oh damn! Dude I wouldn't want to have to deal with that! Your sister's only 15? Wouldn't you want to beat the crap out of that guy too? I'm now sure where you're from or how they think of things where you're from but in my books, that's just wrong.

You hope your sister gets what's coming to her? No wonder she's so rebellious. If you guys don't give a rats ass about her then why should she about you guys? And that's just wrong to be so vengeful towards her. Yes she does need help but nothing's gonna help if you guys don't support her. Kicking her to the streets is jsut gonna lead to worse things like prostitution or worse she might end up dead from an overdose. Geez man. Your family's a little f-ed up IMO.

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If they were always there for her why are you guys giving up now?
 
Legally they cannot bar her from coming home. Whichever parent has legal custody must let her return (though they don't have to let anybody else in; I'm not sure what the law says about grounding, but they obviously have little ability to enforce groundings these days).


This is pretty much the situation my mother was in with my younger brother from about 8th grade until she remarried and he turned 18 and moved out.

If they can prove she's using drugs, I'm pretty sure a judge can remand her to a rehab program's custody, or they can have her put into a "boot camp" type thing possibly.
 


<< Legally they cannot bar her from coming home. Whichever parent has legal custody must let her return (though they don't have to let anybody else in; I'm not sure what the law says about grounding, but they obviously have little ability to enforce groundings these days).


This is pretty much the situation my mother was in with my younger brother from about 8th grade until she remarried and he turned 18 and moved out.

If they can prove she's using drugs, I'm pretty sure a judge can remand her to a rehab program's custody, or they can have her put into a &quot;boot camp&quot; type thing possibly. >>


They're up in Canada. The laws might be different up there. Anyone want to clarify?
 
dude that SUCKS. my parents would've kicked her out of the house too...and pressed charges. they dont take any crap from my brothers or I. Hope things get better, she's your sister after all....:Q
 
First of all, the guy was 16, maybe 17. In Canada, the age of consent is 14 so it was not rape or any form of it. Most likely, my sister agreed to it.

They were so &quot;lax&quot; with her because they figure, like most parents probably do, that if you yell at your children and ground them, then they are only going to rebel and do things that they shouldn't be more often then they already are. My parents sat down with her and explained the effects that drugs will have on her life and her body in the long run. What else can they do? They can't keep a watch on her 24/7.

And like I said, whenever my sister need something, anything, she got it (within reason of course). My parents were always there for her, and tried their absolute best to keep her in line. My father doesn't smoke or drink, and my mom smokes so she can't use the excuse of that doing drinking and drugs was a result of our parents doing them. Smoking though, is a different story. They've come to terms with the fact that she smokes and they can't stop her from doing that.

She knows what she's doing and what the effects of what she's doing are. Eventually it will all catch up with her and she'll see that she was wrong all along. And that's what I'm afraid of - what she'll do when she finally starts to realize.

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By no means has anybody given up on her. We've called the police and got into touch with a drug councillor and Children's Aid and such other organizations. What can they do though if she's not willing to admit that she has a problem?
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She needs rehab.

BTW I wasn't clear - did your mom's husband get stiches or the kid? I can't picture many adults getting beaten up by a 16-17 year old. The situation sucks and your sister needs a hell of a lot more help than the average parents can give. She really needs some rehab at this point cause she is in a very bad state. It doesn't sound to me like its your parents' fault at all.
 


<< First of all, the guy was 16, maybe 17. In Canada, the age of consent is 14 so it was not rape or any form of it. Most likely, my sister agreed to it.

They were so &quot;lax&quot; with her because they figure, like most parents probably do, that if you yell at your children and ground them, then they are only going to rebel and do things that they shouldn't be more often then they already are. My parents sat down with her and explained the effects that drugs will have on her life and her body in the long run. What else can they do? They can't keep a watch on her 24/7.

And like I said, whenever my sister need something, anything, she got it (within reason of course). My parents were always there for her, and tried their absolute best to keep her in line. My father doesn't smoke or drink, and my mom smokes so she can't use the excuse of that doing drinking and drugs was a result of our parents doing them. Smoking though, is a different story. They've come to terms with the fact that she smokes and they can't stop her from doing that.

She knows what she's doing and what the effects of what she's doing are. Eventually it will all catch up with her and she'll see that she was wrong all along. And that's what I'm afraid of - what she'll do when she finally starts to realize.

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By no means has anybody given up on her. We've called the police and got into touch with a drug councillor and Children's Aid and such other organizations. What can they do though if she's not willing to admit that she has a problem?
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That is messed up, since when is 14 the age of consent, I thought Canada had a better justice system than the U.S. Although usually if someone gets consent while the girl is high or drunk its still rape. I still would have killed the guy especially after he attacked your dad, you have a legal right to do so in the U.S.
 
Dude 14 is age of consent up there? I thought that was a joke when i heard about that years ago. I thought all the pedos would go up there! Sheesh! And is that also the drinkign age? Its amazing that there aren't more f-ed up ppl in Canada.

BLAME CANADA!!! 😉










j/k


But I do hope that you guys use a more active rather than passive approach. Talk is great and all but what I found helpful when my ass was out of line when I was a kid was a nice ass beating. That always gets you to think if it's worth it. And if your parents started in sooner, than I doubt she would be in this situation. Its more of a cry for help. Is she a middle child? Maybe she's just craving attention elsewhere because she feels that she isn't getting it from home. Especially with your parents being divorced. That's difficult for a teen. I mean how long have they been divorced? Before she ran away to you moms, did she want to live there before?
 
My mother's husband needs the stitches. Apparently the boy grabbed a pocket knife or something of that sort and slashed him when he tried to push the boy out of the house.
 
her life is probably pretty much over now, hahaha

It's really not funny at all. Why are you laughing?

Best to you and your family, AmazonRasta. Most likely you all have a long road ahead, but by providing your sister with emotional (not monetary) support, she just may come out of it. It may take a long time, but she will be helped greatly by knowing that if and when she can admit that she has a problem and is willing to get treatment she has a home to go to. There are families who would permanently disown their children in such a situation--rarely if ever does that help matters.

l2c
 
i can relate.......my sister went through that (thought not a severe)

anyway, they did it to themselves, so screw 'em



they did it to be cool and rebel and all that lame crap, wow......look at you now
 
I feel your pain. One of my friends is going through practically the same thing (except its a guy). Cheating on his girlfriend, kicked out of his house, growing pot in his own room ect. Drugs can really ruin your life like that. Its truly sad. I really hope she pulls through man.

Jim
 
When I say, &quot;I hope she gets what's coming to her.&quot; I mean it in the way that I hope she gets the help she needs. If she needs to go to &quot;boot camp&quot; to get her life straightened out, so be it. If it's as simple as seeking professional help and letting an experienced councillor speak with her, then even better! If she has to go to jail (or juvenile because of her age) then, as long as it helps her, so be it.

We've talked, and talked, and talked with her. We've tried grounding her, taking away privelidges and all that such. &quot;Old fashion&quot; discipline doesn't work because she fights back and threatens to call the police with and lay assault charges on my parents.
 
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