Crazy relative - Future Dexter or "boys will be boys?"

[Juddog]

Sounds like the parents are just letting the child do whatever he wants like a wild animal. Better instill Harry's code before he turns into a serial killer.

 

[shortylickens]

Sounds like the parents are just letting the child do whatever he wants like a wild animal. Better instill Harry's code before he turns into a serial killer.

Dexter watched his mother get chopped up, I doubt this kid had similar experiences. Remember, Dexter didnt want to kill, he HAD to. And he hated himself a little each time.

 

[waggy]

I have a 5 yr old boy. he loves to wrestle and is pretty rough. he played with my dad (68) but even he understood that my dad is not as strong or able to take the rough stuff. Also no jumping on people when asleep..

Yes i do find what OP mentioned troubling. sounds like the boy needs a stern hand. not spanking (maybe though) but having someone sit him down when he starts to get out of control.

I would keep a eye on him when around the baby. sounds like the child does not have any boundaries so does not care what happens.

 

[AMDZen]

Let me guess, they are the type of parents that think hitting their child isn't necessary.

Kid just needs a belt to his ass every now and then.

 

[torpid]

A similar thing happened to some friends of mine with a neighbor's kid. The neighbor's kid started violently squeezing my friend's pet until it squealed in pain. He also had killed a rabbit and buried it. Interestingly, my friend, who is a licensed psychoterapist, indicated that the rabbit thing might not be a concern, but once they start delighting in inflicting pain on pets, that is a barrier that warrants concern. That kid is also about 6. They stopped permitting the neighbor's kid to be in their house unsupervised or to play with their own kids unsupervised.

 

[lxskllr]

Some people are defective, and just "bad". That kid is one of them. He wouldn't be allowed anywhere near me, or my property. He'll be in jail, or shot before he hits 20.

 

[zinfamous]

I would agree with this, except that I think a lot of it comes from parental reinforcement. My 4 year old son chases our cat and would try to do things like pull her tail when he was younger, but we stepped in and corrected that behavior. If we hadn't, I don't see how he would know what was appropriate or inappropriate.

Based on what you've described, I'm leaning towards lack of parenting as well. Hopefully if your family makes a united attempt to enforce some sort of consequence on the parents (excluding them, confronting them, etc.), they'll get the message and try to remedy the situation.

well, that's what I'm saying. There is no reason that a 6 year-old should be behave that way, because it is a parent's responsibility to quash those tendencies. If left unsupervised and neglected, the 6 year-old would very much tend towards that more violent behavior.

It is not "normal" for a 6 year-old to behave that way, because it is expected that parents are involved in the life of a child.

 

[GotIssues]

Hmmmm.. I actually considered it but rarely like to get involved with other people's issues.

Oh yeah, he has a 3 year old sister and sprayed her face down with Lysol for shits and giggles. Typing all of this makes it absurdly clear that he has issues with women, though I never made that connection before...Though my cat's a boy.. There goes my theory!

The kid is delighting in inflicting pain on others. Something needs to be done immediately - bad parenting or otherwise, it doesn't matter. His 3 year old sister has probably gotten more poor treatment than just the Lysol to the face, which is why she's so quiet and reserved. That girl is going to end up with life-long injuries and/or traumas if something isn't done immediately, and passive-aggressive "We aren't going to Mom and Dad's for Christmas if they are coming" is doing nothing.

Grow a pair and lay it out for the bad parents. There is more at stake than theft and animal abuse. It's not your place to question parenting, but it is your place to protect an innocent little girl from a shithole brother whose parents refuse to parent.

 

[lyssword]

You people must be pretty misinformed about dexter. Dexter is not really a psychopath, he's a fictional superhero. No, your batshit crazy relative is not noble, he's just batshit crazy.

 

[Krazy4Real]

Can cliffnotes still be called cliffnotes when they're longer and more detailed than what they're referring?

This... cliffs for the cliffs please.

 

[shortylickens]

You people must be pretty misinformed about dexter. Dexter is not really a psychopath, he's a fictional superhero. No, your batshit crazy relative is not noble, he's just batshit crazy.

Its a common element. We all know Dexter. We can all understand. Just like when people reference Romeo & Juliet instead of talking about couples we know.

 

[torpid]

You people must be pretty misinformed about dexter. Dexter is not really a psychopath, he's a fictional superhero. No, your batshit crazy relative is not noble, he's just batshit crazy.

Dexter is not a superhero and his character is definitely psychotic. I would never classify him as noble. He is fictional, though... you got that part right!

 

[dave_the_nerd]

I quietly wonder if, a couple hundred years ago, people like this weren't quietly killed by their parents.

 

[MotionMan]

I quietly wonder if, a couple hundred years ago, people like this weren't quietly killed by their parents.

Nah, they died from what use to be called "mischief".

MotionMan

 

[sourceninja]

There is nothing wrong with cutting out the bad parts of your family.

There are sections of my extended family that are banned from my presence. They are not allowed at my house and everyone else knows that I should not be invited if they are present.

An example, my sister-in-law and her husband. He is a wife beater and a horrible douche bag. I've made it clear that if put in the same room with him I will do nothing but verbally abuse him. I don't care if it's christmas dinner. His wife is just as bad because she lives for the drama of the abuse and abandoned her 2 kids (with another douche bag) to live with him (after he was charged with beating her daughter and was not allowed to be in the same house with her).

As that side of the family seems ok with child abandonment and wife beating, they know better than to invite me to family gatherings and my wife knows better than to suggest we invite them over when we host family gatherings.

 

[SamQuint]

I vote future Dexter.

He should start knowing right from wrong.

 

[ShawnD1]

My son is 7. It amazes me how out-of-control some of his friends are. What is telling is the shocked and confused look they get on their face when I tell them to knock it off. Despite my son's warnings (he knows I do not make idle threats), one kid did not take me seriously and I called his mom and had him picked up. Word must have gotten around because the other kids seem better behaved since then.

What's interesting is that this is not new. My mom originally didn't want to have kids because she thought they were all uncontrollable monsters. Her opinion changed when she met my cousins. They would have been around 4-6 years old at the time. Very well behaved kids. That was 30 years ago.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

he'll fit in great in jail

 

[slackerinabox]

Let me guess, they are the type of parents that think hitting their child isn't necessary.

Kid just needs a belt to his ass every now and then.

Actually, while my cousin was born here his upbringing is very indian - arranged ("arranged meeting") marriage, the combined family lives in one household (grandparents, parents, children), and he treats his wife grossly traditionally - she's basically the maid of the house with my cousin and uncle bossing her around. Households like that usually have *VERY* strict upbringings and an ass whooping was just the norm, at least for me and my traditional indian childhood.

I don't know where the disconnect was. They wreak of giving up. For example, I was bragging slightly that we sleep trained our 3.5 month old and that she sleeps from 6:30 PM to 5:30 AM. His 3 year old isn't sleep trained and wakes up at all hours of the night AND he never heard of sleep training. A weird mix of ignorance, arrogance (defending the kid blindly), and just laziness plus what I think is alcoholism mixed in too.

 

[slackerinabox]

Grow a pair and lay it out for the bad parents. There is more at stake than theft and animal abuse. It's not your place to question parenting, but it is your place to protect an innocent little girl from a shithole brother whose parents refuse to parent.

Oh, I was the only person in my extended family who didn't gossip but spoke to the kid's father face to face. I had a pair but, at this point, I don't want ANY drama in my life and will just cut ties. From always wondering about the kid seeking out revenge for me tattling to not wanting my little one to pick up any terrible habits from him and his sister, I just don't want to get involved. It's easy since they live a few states away and we usually see them once or twice a year regardless.

My sister, older and much more mature than I, has similar reasoning - we are confrontational people by nature but "fixing" the kid is something we can't do from afar but the side effects of meddling are plentiful.

 

[slackerinabox]

There is nothing wrong with cutting out the bad parts of your family.

There are sections of my extended family that are banned from my presence. They are not allowed at my house and everyone else knows that I should not be invited if they are present.

An example, my sister-in-law and her husband. He is a wife beater and a horrible douche bag. I've made it clear that if put in the same room with him I will do nothing but verbally abuse him. I don't care if it's christmas dinner. His wife is just as bad because she lives for the drama of the abuse and abandoned her 2 kids (with another douche bag) to live with him (after he was charged with beating her daughter and was not allowed to be in the same house with her).

As that side of the family seems ok with child abandonment and wife beating, they know better than to invite me to family gatherings and my wife knows better than to suggest we invite them over when we host family gatherings.

Thank you. I think my mom believes that I should be more forgiving in general, but I have no problem cutting out bad influences whether friends or family. It makes life simpler

 

[zinfamous]

You people must be pretty misinformed about dexter. Dexter is not really a psychopath, he's a fictional superhero. No, your batshit crazy relative is not noble, he's just batshit crazy.

I think you forgot about the part where he kills people because he has to--because he very much is a psycopath--it is only through rigid discipline that he kills those that "deserve it." Otherwise, he'd be killing anyone.

Dexter very much understands, and accepts that he is not normal, that he is a psycopath. He accepts his dark passenger.

I don't think you understand this show at all.

a superhero? wtf.

 

[Jeff7]

Retroactive abortion.

Yes, psychopath boys will be psychopath boys.

My god he sounds insane. I don't want to think too much about what might have been done should I have become violent against my mom like that. I imagine that I would have found myself airborne in short order. At a young age, I knew that even saying "shut up" to an adult was a quick path to some unpleasant retribution.


- Attacks people.
- Attacks animals.
- Destroys property.
- Steals property.

If he doesn't get some things straightened out in his mind soon, I'm betting he'll end up becoming well-acquainted with the police long before he turns 18.

 

[ShawnD1]

Actually, while my cousin was born here his upbringing is very indian

Shens. Indian people beat the fuck out of their kids. This is why half the doctors in the country are Chinese or Indian. It's also not very Indian to give up. Ever try to haggle with an Indian? It's god damn ridiculous. I'll straight up say "I'm not selling for less than X" and they keep offering less.

Train that kid Indian style. Choke him with his own turban then beat his ass with your shoe.

 

[GotIssues]

My sister, older and much more mature than I, has similar reasoning - we are confrontational people by nature but "fixing" the kid is something we can't do from afar but the side effects of meddling are plentiful.

I didn't say to try to fix the kid, I said to try to get the lazy, worthless sperm donor to realize what that little monster is going to do to his little girl if he keeps up his "parenting" style. There are a 100 different things he could do to discipline that kid, and 99 of them are non-violent.