Could use some opinions: your g/f and her "best friend"

[Ime]

Do to her what she does to you. 🙂 At least that way you're both getting some action on the side...

 

[thomsbrain]

it's been said that guys will be "just friends" with a girl, but they will never be friends with a girl they wouldn't hop into the sack with if the opportunity presented itself, and i find this to be true with all the female friends i have. i don't think i'd want to combine a sack-happy friend and a lonely girl for long periods of time.

 

[Garet Jax]

You know he definitely wants her.

The question is whether or not she wants him even a little bit. If she does, then you are SOL.

 

Punch his lights out, break up with your girlfriend, and fvck as many girls as you can on the rebound. Trust me, you'll feel great! 😉

 

[SP33Demon]

Mario Winans ft P.Diddy:

"I Don't Wanna Know"

[Verse 1 - Mario Winans]
Somebody said they saw you
The person you were kissing wasn't me
And I would never ask you
I just kept it to myself

[Chorus]
I don't wanna know
If you're playin me, keep it on the low
Cause my heart can't take it anymore
And if you're creepin, please don't let it show
Oh baby, I don't wanna know

[Verse 2 - Mario Winans]
Oh baby
I think about it when I hold you
When lookin in your eyes, I can't believe
I don't need to know the truth
Baby keep it to yourself

[Chorus]
I don't wanna know
If you're playin me, keep it on the low
Cause my heart can't take it anymore
And if you're creepin, please don't let it show
Oh baby, I don't wanna know

[Break]
Did he touch you better then me (touch you better then me)
Did he watch you fall asleep (watch you fall asleep)
Did you show him all those things that you used to do to me (do to me baby)
If your better off that way (better off that way)
Baby what I like to say (all that I can say)
Go on and do your thing and don't come back to me
(Stay away from me baby)

[Verse 3 - P. Diddy]
I don't wanna know where your whereabouts or how you movin
I know when you in the house or when you cruisin
It's been proven, my love you abusin
I can't understand, how a man got you choosin (yeah)
Undecided, I came and provided
My undivided, you came and denied it (why?)
Don't even try it, I know when you lyin (I know when you lyin)
Don't even do that, I know why you cryin (stop cryin)
I'm not applyin no pressure, just wanna let you know
That I don't wanna let you go (I don't wanna let you go)
And I don't wanna let you leave
Can't say I didn't let you breathe
Gave you extra cheese (c'mon), put you in the SUV
You wanted ice so I made you freeze
Made you hot like the West Indies (that's right)
Now it's time you invest in me
Cause if not then it's best you leave
Holla, yeah

[Chorus]
I don't wanna know
If you're playin me, keep it on the low
Cause my heart can't take it anymore
And if you're creepin, please don't let it show
Oh baby, I don't wanna know

If you're playin me, keep it on the low
Cause my heart can't take it anymore
And if you're creepin, please don't let it show
Oh baby, I don't wanna know

If you're playin me, keep it on the low
Cause my heart can't take it anymore
And if you're creepin, please don't let it show
Oh baby, I don't wanna know

 

[Abhi]

unless he = gay, you = screwed

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: Abhi
unless he = gay, you = screwed

Actually, if he = gay, he = screwed. If he != gay, she = screwed. 😉

- M4H

 

[Looney]

3) wtf else is happening I don't know about. I just found out last night they've been eating alone for awhile.

The fact that she had to hide it says she's doing somethign she knows is wrong. If it was all innocent, you'd expect she would have told you when you talked to her what she'd done even in casual conversation... especially since you guys are in a LD relationship, i'm sure you guys do a lot of catching up when you get together or get to speak with her. The fact that she hasn't mentioned it is highly suspicious.

Of course you don't know with absolutely certainty, and probably never will, but if i was in your situation, i would definitely think there's more going on.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: se7enty7
My biggest issue is that
1) he likes (liked) her. Feeligs like that don't just "go away" one day. They end with a breakup, or going out.
2) they eat dinner together, alone. That imo constitutes a date. I wouldn't do that sh!t to her (or wouldn't have before this.)
3) wtf else is happening I don't know about. I just found out last night they've been eating alone for awhile.
4) He is banging her so hard that she is too loose for me

Fixed your post.

You might trust her, but no way in hell I would trust him. 5 bucks says he gets her liquored up and tries to score if he isn't already tapping it..

 

[EvilYoda]

The part that sucks about this situation is that you have a chance that it's really bad (she's cheating on you) or you're blowing it way out of proportion. Sure, she "hid" the dinner situation from you, but did that ever really come up in conversation? Being the best friend in that situation (but not nearly as bad as you have it), it's still a good chance that he's a good guy. Do you know his dating history? Does he currently have a g/f or is seeing someone?

Best of luck man...don't let all these people that don't know you get you all paranoid...it'll probably fvck things up even more between you and her, and it won't affect the population of ATOT in the slightest.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: se7enty7
I im'ed her this thread.


she's saying my opinon is very biased, and everyone here is biased ( I think because you are "all my friends?")

little does she know most of you hate me 😛


edit:

she's im'ing me her opinion to post

:camera:?

<Butthead>Hey, baby. Wanna, you know?


j/k if you are reading this, most people on this board are very sarcastic and vicious(present company excluded of course) It is rare to get a consensus opinion that agrees with the original poster, especially when they are complaining about their girlfriends

 

[amcdonald]

Here's a simple way to gauge her honesty/true feelings.
How was it brought up that she has been eating with this guy?

Did she mention it casually, like saying "so, blah blah blah, I was eating dinner with paul, and blah blah blah"

or did you have to drag it out of her?

If she didn't treat it like a big deal then it probably isn't... but if she's secretive I'd be more concerned.
Of course she might have been hiding it because she knew you'd freak out and post IM conversations no ATOT.

 

[weezergirl]

Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: se7enty7
Jenn&#509;: what can i do?
Jenn&#509;: stop eating with paul?
Jenn&#509;: cause ill do that if thats what it will take
Jacob: maybe we need relationship counseling
Jacob: I think that one guy makes a good point
Jacob: paul's probably not eating earlier so he can eat w/ you
Jenn&#509;: he eats at 5 with his "family" every day
Jenn&#509;: hes always done that
Jenn&#509;: and he is hungry later and always comments on fish tacos

He's only doing it to befriend you, gain your trust and then get in your panties. Men only have female "friends" that are either ugly, your best friends mate, or girls that he hasn't figured out how to score with yet.

 

[Asharus]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: Asharus

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

If given the opportunity to move from your hole in the wall dorm with a a guy with smelly feet to an apartment with 3 hot babes, which would you choose?

 

[zixxer]

Originally posted by: Asharus

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

He lives in a dorm. His family could afford to rent him his own house; or whatever he wanted. He is choosing to live w/ the girls.


Also, at first, it was just her and him. Alone, renting an apt together. I was like wtf no and her resolution was to find two other girls to live with (along w/ him)

apparently it is a townhouse style apartment, with 3 bedrooms upstairs, and one downstairs. He's living in the downstairs bedroom.

 

[Asharus]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: Asharus

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

If given the opportunity to move from your hole in the wall dorm with a a guy with smelly feet to an apartment with 3 hot babes, which would you choose?

If I lived in a dorm, I'd definitely wanna bunk w/ 3 other chicks instead, that's why I asked if he lived in a dorm or w/ his parents....

 

[Kelvrick]

Interesting...

I was in that situation once, except I was the best friend. Luckily I was moving away in 4 months and so I kept it plutonic (it was hard to resist when you're a virgin and in high school). I would say that because you two are together in a commited relationship, she should respect that you're not comfortable with the situation and stop seeing the guy on such a personal matter.

The otehr time I was in that situation, I was the bf and the best friend was a girl (stop thinking sexual stuff you bastards!). Sufice to say, she knows better then to see her now.

 

[Asharus]

Originally posted by: se7enty7

Originally posted by: Asharus

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

He lives in a dorm. His family could afford to rent him his own house; or whatever he wanted. He is choosing to live w/ the girls.


Also, at first, it was just her and him. Alone, renting an apt together. I was like wtf no and her resolution was to find two other girls to live with (along w/ him)

apparently it is a townhouse style apartment, with 3 bedrooms upstairs, and one downstairs. He's living in the downstairs bedroom.

Now, this information is key... this is why I asked if he lived at home. He's apparently inherently rich, and can rely on mommy and daddy to rent him his own private apartment. Who suggested that they live together, alone? Well actually it doesn't matter. It's obvious that he suggested it, but if your girl was the one who suggested it, like somebody said earlier, you're SOL. Good luck man...

 

[DeafeningSilence]

I think your concerns are very reasonable.

I don't know what you should do, but I do know what she should do. She should avoid doing things that would easily raise doubts in your mind. And when you do voice those concerns, she should resist the customary female urge to make the b/f feel like an overprotective jacka**.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: se7enty7

Originally posted by: Asharus

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

He lives in a dorm. His family could afford to rent him his own house; or whatever he wanted. He is choosing to live w/ the girls.


Also, at first, it was just her and him. Alone, renting an apt together. I was like wtf no and her resolution was to find two other girls to live with (along w/ him)

apparently it is a townhouse style apartment, with 3 bedrooms upstairs, and one downstairs. He's living in the downstairs bedroom.

Rent a room with her female bestfriend, see if she minds

LOL, trying to get an apartment with someone that has the hots for her...she likes him and wanted to see if they were compatible.

 

[Asharus]

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: se7enty7

Originally posted by: Asharus

Originally posted by: weezergirl
Guys and girls can be JUST friends. I eat alone with guys all the time and my bf does not mind. But as for living with one?? That can be kind of weird...and that's expecting a lot out of your bf to understand that. But at least it's with 2 other girls.

I'd say if your gf really cared about you then she would just live with the 2 girls. Is it that big of a problem for the guy to find his own friends to live with? That's a small price to pay to keep your bf happy I say. At least he's not one of those types that are like DONT TALK TO ANY GUY WHATSOEVER! ya know?

This got me thinking. Why does this dude want to move out in the first place? Is he dorming on-campus? If he's w/ his parents and is moving out just to be with your girl, there's something definitely wrong here.

He lives in a dorm. His family could afford to rent him his own house; or whatever he wanted. He is choosing to live w/ the girls.


Also, at first, it was just her and him. Alone, renting an apt together. I was like wtf no and her resolution was to find two other girls to live with (along w/ him)

apparently it is a townhouse style apartment, with 3 bedrooms upstairs, and one downstairs. He's living in the downstairs bedroom.

Rent a room with her female bestfriend, see if she minds

LOL, trying to get an apartment with someone that has the hots for her...she likes him and wanted to see if they were compatible.

I really hope not... I really don't know what you should do. I think I would just talk to her about it in person this weekend, and ask her if she values your relationship. Ask her if she would be with this guy if you were not around, and if she's just wasting your time.

Hopefully she will realize that she loves you so much that she won't jeoperdize your relationship by even thinking about moving in w/ this guy.

If the S hits the fan, I think you're probably better off w/o her, and in that case she will be the one who will regret it. It sounds like this guy is just a worthless POS anyway.

 

[Giscardo]

I've been the "male best friend" before, so I'll give you my opinion.

It was accidental on my part, the girl initiated most of the contact, and I was pretty naive and hungry for female attention back then, so I went along along with it and was happy. We were both in college, our dorms were a few blocks apart, she was still with her highschool bf, who lived an hour's drive away. They spoke every night at 8pm. I spoke to her on the phone at least a couple hours a day, if not more. Got to the point where we'd talk on the phone, she'd get off to call the bf for an hour, and then call me back later and talk till she fell asleep.

Anyways, we hung out, studied together, ate together and all that, but I never made a move or directly expressed interest, i was just playing along (so the difference between my and your situation is I was aloof but playing along with the situation because I was so shy and loved the attention from even a single girl, whereas in your situation the guy is also a goober, but was telling people he likes her. He still does).

I'm not sure but I think she was lying to her bf, and telling him that she'd go to bed at 9pm or soon after the got off the phone, when she was really talking to me, or hanging out with me. We eventually sort of got together but I know for sure she didn't tell him while it was going on. She didn't want to tell him or break up with him because she was afraid (to hurt him? just afraid to do it in general? I dunno). Irrelevant to this thread, but if you want to know, I wised up and snapped out of my stupor really soon after we became "more than friends". I ditched her and she broke up with him thinking that I would get together with her, but I just cut off all contact with her after that.

My chick was/is pretty emotional and infatuated with me so she made the first move, she told me she liked me and it escalated from there. So find out how much they hang out, how much do they talk on the phone, online, etc. If they are talking more than you talk to her, then you have a problem.

 

[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: se7enty7
Her excuse is that "him liking her is in the past"

They've known each other a long time, since middle school iirc..

Take it from someone who still carries a torch....... He would hit it if she'ld let him. Flesh is weak.
Bad Ju Ju there