If this means that you are forced to use your hardware RAID controller, you should look for another solution instead of ZFS. A Windows-based system with NTFS is an alternative. But since your disks do not have TLER (they have CCTL which is volatile), the disks may not work well with hardware RAID either. TLER is something that works on all controllers because the controller doesn't have to do something. But CCTL and ERC have to be activated on every boot or power cycle. If your controller doesn't do this, this equals running non-TLER disks on hardware RAID.
In either case, despite the amount of money you put into this box, I cannot see how you can provide reliable storage without making at least some changes. I would also argue that one should seek advice before buying the hardware. First the choice should be made what software solution you will be running. The hardware should reflect that choice, not the other way around.
I didn't just purchase this hardware, I've had it. I purchased new hardware for a different purpose and I'm left with these parts to make a NAS as I don't currently have one. I was just using these parts as a Windows fileserver with RAID10 volumes on my Perc 6i controller.
Are you saying that using my hardware RAID controller ONLY as a means of connecting the drives (by configuring it for IT/single mode) but not to actually configure them still is a problem? How is that any different than simply connecting the drives to on-board SATA slots for example?
What exactly is bad about connecting my drives through the RAID controller but then using something like FlexRAID or UnRAID to configure my drives in an array?