"Islam is based on a culture of abusing women"..... interesting.
Shortly before Islam, at the time of social darkness, baby girls were buried alive. Women were cast away from all sorts of social life. They were beaten, enslaved, denied any rights in their lives and were always regarded as being lower than men. However, Islam came and totally changed all of these retarded perceptions in a record time.
For a starter, Islam was
the first ideology that gave the women the right to vote and elect. A right given in the west as late as in 1920 in the USA, 1928 in the UK, and 1945 in Switzerland. Women were given the right to choose who to marry and when to divorce. In Islam, the women invaded all sorts of professional lives. There were muslim doctors, traders, nurses, scholars and tutors. Islam prevented a man from forcing his wife to work to support the family, as the total economic responsibility falls on the shoulders of the man in Islam, as Women are to be served by men as prophet Muhammad said.
Here's what prophet Muhammad has to say about treating women:
'"None but a noble man treats women in an honorable manner. And none but an ignoble treats women disgracefully"..... Who is the best one of us? Here's how Prophet Muhammad answered this question:
"The best of you is one who is best towards his family and I am best towards the family". .... One of prophet Muhammad’s companions asked him "What do you say (command) about our wives?" He replied: "Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and
do not beat them, and do not revile them." .... Words like "Give them food what you have for yourself" may sound degrading in 2011, but 1500 years ago, it was a statement of equality -a concept not "popular" back then, to say the least.
Not a single Ideology in History has raised women's value more than Islam and I bargain you to prove otherwise. Who is the most wicked one of us? This was prophet Muhammad’s answer:
"The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the man who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret." To that extent must a husband keep the Privacy of his Wife. These are the morals of Islam.
Islam has shown extraordinarily noble attitude that husbands must abide to towards their wives. One of prophet Muhammad’s companions, Umar ibn al-Khattab said that a man came to his house to complain about his wife. On reaching the door of his house, he hears 'Umar's wife shouting at him and reviling him. Seeing this, he was about to go back, thinking that 'Umar himself was in the same position and, therefore, could hardly suggest any solution for his problem. 'Umar (RA) saw the man turn back, so he called him and enquired about the purpose of his visit. He said that he had come with a complaint against his wife, but turned back on seeing the Caliph in the same position. 'Umar told him that he tolerated the excesses of his wife for she had certain rights against him. He said,
"Is it not true that she prepares food for me, washes clothes for me and suckles my children, thus saving me the expense of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse, though she is not legally obliged in any way to do any of these things? Besides, I enjoy peace of mind because of her and am kept away from indecent acts on account of her. I therefore tolerate all her excesses on account of these benefits. It is right that you should also adopt the same attitude."
Islam has given women the absolute right of proper education, a right given to the women in the west only 2 centuries ago and later than that in other regions. Prophet Muhammed says:
"Seeking Knowledge (science) is an obligation to every muslim man and woman"
In many cultures, a woman needs to possess money -or even pay it- in order to get married. in Islam, this is the duty of the man. Woman in Islam -even after marriage- keep their own name and have the free will of handling their possessions. A right given late in the west and not given in other cultures without a pre-marital agreement. All Narrations and teachings of Islam have only showed compassion and love towards women, even rules were put for sex between the married couple to guarantee the rights of the woman.
Useful links:
http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/humanrelations/womeninislam/womenquransunnah.html
http://shams.za.org/itppaper.htm
http://www.afghan-web.com/articles/womenrights.html
http://www.islamfortoday.com/womensrightsbadawi.htm
http://www.islamfortoday.com/shatteringillusions.htm
http://www.islamfortoday.com/womensliberation.htm
I can go on and on about the sexual rights of women in Islam.... how the first Muslim physician was a woman.... how women were allowed to join the army.... how the world's first university was founded by a woman (Um Al-Qura University)....etc.