Can a fairly long distance relationship work?

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jsbush

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Do you guys/gals think a relationship between two people who live a couple hours of driving away work? We would only be able to see each other on some weekends, till July comes, then I'm moving to in the same city as her for school.

Is it worth the trouble we would be giving ourselves, even if there is definitely a spark between us? Or like I've heard so many times, there are of other fish in the sea.
 
TallBill

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no, no it wont. i asked the same question and ignored the answers, but NO.. it didnt work. there is a small chance that it could have
 
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It's possible, but it would be tough. Your phone and gas bills would be expensive, and you'd have issues when the both of you pursue separate social interests.
 
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yowolabi

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It could work, especially when you know that 6 months from now you will definitely be in the same city. The problem comes when you don't know when you're going to be living in the same place again or if you can't see each other at all for the whole time you're away. Plenty of people in the same city only see each other on weekends.
 
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jsbush

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We will be going to the same school in six months, so we will be seeing each other quite a bit.


Still worth the effort? Or at our age it's just not worth giving each other the trouble? (Where both 17)
 
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If you're both committed and genuinely interested in each other then yes it can work.

My wife and I met on the internet back in late 1996, she visited the US summer 97, 98, 99 when the clocked turned 2000 I proposed to her she said yes, we wet in Canberra, Australia on 8/14/01 .... 95% of the time we were half a planet away from each other physically which is really difficult. Was it worth it? Definitely but a long distance relationship won't work for everyone, I wouldn't have it any other way.
 
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MomAndSkoorbaby

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As long as it is a temporary thing.

Our first year of marriage, Skoorb and I lived in different countries (not planned and unavoidable). There was an end in sight however, and we were obviously committed to each other! :)
 
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yes, it can work, but most of the time it fails. why? because of commitment. no one in the relationship is committed enough to go on w/o being tempted by someone who lives closer.
 
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it worked for two years for me. sometimes I think long distance is good for a while because

1. you learn to be your own person in the relationship (i.e. you don't become lilFajita and Enrique instead of being lilFajita)
2. you learn more about each other, in a non physical sense...you end up talking alot more that you might if you are in the same town, because in the same town, you do alot of things with other people, and things like watching movies when you are together. Long distance time is quality time.

like MrsSkoorb said, you do have to have plans to be together again, becuse otherwise, it seems endless.
 
Muadib

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At 17 no. Remain friends, date other people, then see how you feel in July.
 
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I guess if were both willing to give it a try the only thing we got to lose is time, and some money, right?

Edit: It's just under a 100miles away.
 
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My girlfriend of 4 years studied in Italy for this past fall semester, came home for christmas, and I just dropped her back off at the airport to go back for another 4 months. Those 4 months apart and the 8 total have been great for us because it makes us appreciate each other just that much more. If you like the girl, try it. It's not like you're getting engaged.
 
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DeafeningSilence

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Can it work? Yes.

Will it work? Possibly. Six months isn't that long, and you're only 17... so the relationship is likely to be just as meaningful as anything else you'd be doing with your time.
 
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Yes... My girlfriend/fiance and I lived 60 miles apart for the three years before we were married. We never lived closer to each other.
 
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kt

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A couple of hours drive? That's it? I wouldn't even consider that a long distance relationship. Now, if there's an ocean between you then I would call it a long distance relationship.

Oh, and no. It doesn't work no matter how some people will come in here and tell of their success stories. That's like 1 in maybe 100 will have a success story to tell.
 
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Originally posted by: kt
A couple of hours drive? That's it? I wouldn't even consider that a long distance relationship. Now, if there's an ocean between you then I would call it a long distance relationship.

Oh, and no. It doesn't work no matter how some people will come in here and tell of their success stories. That's like 1 in maybe 100 will have a success story to tell.
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But the experience builds character and wisdom:) Trust me.
 
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Originally posted by: radioouman
Yes... My girlfriend/fiance and I lived 60 miles apart for the three years before we were married. We never lived closer to each other.
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OK, I guess I'm 1 in 100 then....

:confused:
 
Muadib

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Originally posted by: jsbush
I guess if were both willing to give it a try the only thing we got to lose is time, and some money, right?

Edit: It's just under a 100miles away.
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As long as it's your money, and not your parents, then go ahead and give it a shot. Don't let me see a thread from you about your mom being mad about the phone bill being $2000 in a month though.:p
 
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tcsenter

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Do you guys/gals think a relationship between two people who live a couple hours of driving away work? We would only be able to see each other on some weekends, till July comes, then I'm moving to in the same city as her for school.
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I did this for two years, 110 miles apart.

It is difficult, I'll say that. Especially when you're gf is lonely and wants you to come home, so you drive 110 miles in a blizzard to be with her, then drive back in the morning for work.

Its even better when you do this for her, white knuckling the steering wheel the whole way there, sick to your stomach the weather is so inclement it is stressing you the hell out, and when you arrive, exhausted from the drive, she complains that it took you so long.

Women...
 
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jsbush

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Haha, no I pay for all my expenses except for food, and clothing. I work 40 hours a week, so I have no reason to bum money off my parents.
 
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Viper GTS

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The phone bills don't need to be a problem. Between Bigzoo & cell phones there is NO excuse for phone bills over $100 a month.

Viper GTS
 
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