Can a fairly long distance relationship work?

[RossMAN]

If you guys are talking on the phone you should definitely:

1) Most cell phone plans offer FREE LONG DISTANCE, use it. Some even offer free nighttime and weekend minutes, again use it.
2) Screw AT&T, Sprint & MCI use BigZoo.com (just ask Skoorb or Viper GTS).

 

[jsbush]

Only problem with BigZoo.com is that they require a credit card.

The cell phone planes with free long distance are really expensive. It's about $40 (canadian) for 250minutes. And that isn't a lot of minutes.

 

[dethman]

depends on the people...both have to be committed to making it work. a few hours isn't too bad.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: jsbush
I guess if were both willing to give it a try the only thing we got to lose is time, and some money, right?

Edit: It's just under a 100miles away.

100 miles? Sheeesh, that's about how far it is from my house to the store for milk. 100 miles aint SQUAT. Um...I just realized something...by the tone of your post, you seem to feel it's "so far away". You DO have car, right?

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: jsbush
Only problem with BigZoo.com is that they require a credit card.

The cell phone planes with free long distance are really expensive. It's about $40 (canadian) for 250minutes. And that isn't a lot of minutes.

$40 a month CDN is pocket change, I spend $45 a month US on my phone. 3000 evening/weekend + 600 anytime with free LD.

And bigzoo is 2.9 cents a minute with their local dial-up numbers.

Viper GTS

 

[jsbush]

Of course I have a car, and I enjoy driving a lot.

 

[RossMAN]

$40/mo CDN for cell phone service is CHEAP!

Most people in the US who have 300 or more weekday minutes pay at least $39.99 plus taxes.

I didn't realize at first that you're a Canuck, not sure if you can access BigZoo.com from Canada or not.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: jsbush
Of course I have a car, and I enjoy driving a lot.

Well, then you're set. 100 miles is doable in 2 hours, easily. That's two CDs. I'd imagine that you're both living at home, so there's no place to "go crash" up by her, unless you get the Notel Motel. But then again, her Dad might not be soooooo happy with that.

So, you have the car, which is the Mobile Notel Motel and there you go. I've been in your shoes. Enjoy it while you can b/c later on, you'll be cohabitating or MARRIED at which point your life is null and void.

Good luck, Mr. Driving Man.

 

[jsbush]

She goes to college in ottawa and rents out a room, so no worries about parents.

 

[StinkyMeat]

You're fine. If you love her.

 

[Rob9874]

It can work. My wife and I met through a mutual friend, and the only problem being that she lived in PA and I lived in AZ. I talked with her every now and then, not expecting much, just a conversation with a single girl. I thought people who did the long distance thing were either weird or desperate. Well, we talked more and more, until my long distance bills were in the hundreds! The highest was $800. We scheduled a few trips every once and a while, which got longer and longer each time. She stayed for 6 weeks one time, and it just strengthened our relationship. It proved that it could work. After a year and a half, she moved in, and we got engaged. A year later we were married. So it can work. You will have expensive phone bills, but this was before I had a good cell phone plan. With free LD on most cell plans, it shouldn't be too bad. Just buy a plan with unlimited nights and weekends. There's no reason you should have to choose your mate from the few girls who live nearby. Expand your choices, and you'll find a much more compatible person.

 

[weezergirl]

If you have to ask, then I would say it prolly won't work. If you have doubts, they will mulitiply times 10 when your significant other is away from you. I think when it comes down to it, it depends on the people involved in the relationship. You each have to be very trusting of each other and committed to the relationship. How long have you guys been going out? Or has it just been a spark you've felt recently?

I say most long distance relationships work if they started out as long distance. As in you both fell for each other from the internet. That's usually easier than having gone out and hung out every day with each other and then to have them leave.

My BF is currently in NY while I'm in LA and we've been doing it for over a year now (but he's coming back in april finally!!) and we made it work so it DOES happen. Don't let the people who say it doesn't work bring you down. I actually know quite a few relationships who have lasted, but yes, I also know a lot who don't. If you think it's worth a try, you should at least try it. No regrets!

 

[RSMemphis]

<- Made it work...

Basically 5 1/2 years, with long and short intermissions, at least 300 miles, sometimes 5000 miles apart.

It is tough as nails, but possible. Depends on how dedicated you are.

 

[jsbush]

Originally posted by: weezergirl
If you have to ask, then I would say it prolly won't work. If you have doubts, they will mulitiply times 10 when your significant other is away from you. I think when it comes down to it, it depends on the people involved in the relationship. You each have to be very trusting of each other and committed to the relationship. How long have you guys been going out? Or has it just been a spark you've felt recently?

I say most long distance relationships work if they started out as long distance. As in you both fell for each other from the internet. That's usually easier than having gone out and hung out every day with each other and then to have them leave.

My BF is currently in NY while I'm in LA and we've been doing it for over a year now (but he's coming back in april finally!!) and we made it work so it DOES happen. Don't let the people who say it doesn't work bring you down. I actually know quite a few relationships who have lasted, but yes, I also know a lot who don't. If you think it's worth a try, you should at least try it. No regrets!

I asked because I don't want to get attachted to her if it was not doable. But it seems to be. What I'm affraid of mostly is time going by slowly durring the week waiting for the weekend to come so I can see her. But since it's only temperary it might be fine.

Acutally we went to highschool together, we lost contact for a couple months and then I got her email address from a friend and we started talking on the net for a while, but now we talk on the phone at least once a week. I went to see her the other day because she was down for the holidays, but not much happened because of her parents. But we had a lot of fun together and we both enjoyed our night quite a bit.

Edit: We never talked in highschool, well hardly. We got to know each other over the net and the phone mostly.

 

[rgwalt]

I'd say give it a shot, but recognize the risks and possible outcomes of the situation.

Good luck.

Ryan

 

[nitsuj3580]

I've been on both ends of the long distance deal.

Went to college and my ex was still a senior in high school. We were only 70 miles away and I came home like every weekend and we still only lasted my first semester freshman year. She had no plans of going to the same school as I did so that I think was a big deciding factor. You guys are going to the same school so I say go for it there.

My junior year of college I met my current girlfriend we've been together ever since. However, we have now graduated and she still lives in NYC and I live in Washington DC. She has plans of moving down here so and we're crazy about each other so I know it'll work We've been together two years now and still going strong despite the distance (5 hours driving).

Good luck!

 

[jsbush]

Originally posted by: nitsuj3580
I've been on both ends of the long distance deal.

Went to college and my ex was still a senior in high school. We were only 70 miles away and I came home like every weekend and we still only lasted my first semester freshman year. She had no plans of going to the same school as I did so that I think was a big deciding factor. You guys are going to the same school so I say go for it there.

My junior year of college I met my current girlfriend we've been together ever since. However, we have now graduated and she still lives in NYC and I live in Washington DC. She has plans of moving down here so and we're crazy about each other so I know it'll work We've been together two years now and still going strong despite the distance (5 hours driving).

Good luck!

I could see how the highschool relationship didn't work out. Glad to hear that your currently relationship is working out, and 5 hour drive :Q, thats crazy!


I've looked at the rate planes for long distance and it would come out a lot cheaper if I used a lan based phone instead of a cell phone, because cell phones don't offer enough minutes. Say the 250 minute a month plan for $40. On a lan based phone I could talk for the same amount of time for $25.

Thanks for all your opinions