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moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
once a guy commits wimmenz turn off the sex
all relationships/marriages are sexless eventually? cannot be true.

sex while dating = good and plenty

sex while in a monogamous relationship = good and frequent

sex while living together or engaged = good but seldom

sex while married = *crickets, tumbleweed*
alright...maybe for some, but for all? no married people are having sex??Q?!!@#!
 

Amused

Elite Member
Apr 14, 2001
57,453
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There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.
 

nakedfrog

No Lifer
Apr 3, 2001
63,075
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Do they think it's inheritable?
My dad seems to have a problem with it, but I don't.
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
61,504
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Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Do they think it's inheritable?
My dad seems to have a problem with it, but I don't.

if it's genetic it must be inheritable, right?

maybe you have your mom's committing gene. :laugh:
 

Amused

Elite Member
Apr 14, 2001
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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.

Well, there are more masculine men, and more effeminate men too. Maybe there is a correlation?
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
61,504
12
56
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.

Well, there are more masculine men, and more effeminate men too. Maybe there is a correlation?
what are you saying... you have commitment probs don't you? :p
 

Amused

Elite Member
Apr 14, 2001
57,453
19,913
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Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.

Well, there are more masculine men, and more effeminate men too. Maybe there is a correlation?
what are you saying... you have commitment probs don't you? :p

I was faithful in my marriage... but that had to end.
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
61,504
12
56
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.

Well, there are more masculine men, and more effeminate men too. Maybe there is a correlation?
what are you saying... you have commitment probs don't you? :p

I was faithful in my marriage... but that had to end.
did that prove what i just said?
 

Amused

Elite Member
Apr 14, 2001
57,453
19,913
146
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.

Well, there are more masculine men, and more effeminate men too. Maybe there is a correlation?
what are you saying... you have commitment probs don't you? :p

I was faithful in my marriage... but that had to end.
did that prove what i just said?

Hey, at least I ended the marriage before... :p
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
61,504
12
56
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Amused
There is a good and natural reason men have a natural tendency to stray: Monogamy does not promote genetic diversity.

There is a good and natural reason women are more monogamous than men: Because human children require years of care, women need a provider.

Now I know this sounds "unenlightened" but sometimes one must just face the facts of evolution and realize a constructed society will not change someone's natural urges.

all well put and understood, but according to this not all men have the non-committing gene.
some are programed to remain monogamous.

Well, there are more masculine men, and more effeminate men too. Maybe there is a correlation?
what are you saying... you have commitment probs don't you? :p

I was faithful in my marriage... but that had to end.
did that prove what i just said?

Hey, at least I ended the marriage before... :p
:thumbsup:
 

Nitemare

Lifer
Feb 8, 2001
35,461
4
81
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
once a guy commits wimmenz turn off the sex
all relationships/marriages are sexless eventually? cannot be true.

sex while dating = good and plenty

sex while in a monogamous relationship = good and frequent

sex while living together or engaged = good but seldom

sex while married = *crickets, tumbleweed*
alright...maybe for some, but for all? no married people are having sex??Q?!!@#!

I take it you have never been married?

Marriage and monogamy is mostly a woman thing. It's nearly unheard of in the animal kingdom and goes against all mother nature's teachings.
 

moshquerade

No Lifer
Nov 1, 2001
61,504
12
56
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
once a guy commits wimmenz turn off the sex
all relationships/marriages are sexless eventually? cannot be true.

sex while dating = good and plenty

sex while in a monogamous relationship = good and frequent

sex while living together or engaged = good but seldom

sex while married = *crickets, tumbleweed*
alright...maybe for some, but for all? no married people are having sex??Q?!!@#!

I take it you have never been married?

Marriage and monogamy is mostly a woman thing. It's nearly unheard of in the animal kingdom and goes against all mother nature's teachings.
all i was asking is if you thought that was an absolute. i thought the stats were more 50-50.
 

nakedfrog

No Lifer
Apr 3, 2001
63,075
19,395
136
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
once a guy commits wimmenz turn off the sex
all relationships/marriages are sexless eventually? cannot be true.

sex while dating = good and plenty

sex while in a monogamous relationship = good and frequent

sex while living together or engaged = good but seldom

sex while married = *crickets, tumbleweed*
alright...maybe for some, but for all? no married people are having sex??Q?!!@#!

I take it you have never been married?

Marriage and monogamy is mostly a woman thing. It's nearly unheard of in the animal kingdom and goes against all mother nature's teachings.
all i was asking is if you thought that was an absolute. i thought the stats were more 50-50.

Based on the poll in L&R, 33% are satisfied.
 

destrekor

Lifer
Nov 18, 2005
28,799
359
126
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
ummm I thought the desire to spread your dna as much as possible was born into all straight men.

you must be one of those GUCs. :laugh:

according to the article only some men feel that way.

I don't buy that the instinct for proliferation of our species is only 1 in 5 men. We wouldn't have made it this far if that was the case.

I completely agree with that. And I think when it became unacceptable in society to not become monogamous, I think that gene may have been 'bred out' of our civilization, for the most part. Like all genetic mutations, it still exists, and since the concept is relatively new to mankind in terms of its history, it'll take some more time. That, and since some men can overcome the genetic influence, they still spread the DNA and thus it gets passed on. That, and more and more unwed mothers from those very same guys... hell, the gene may have been on its way out for all we know.

I refuse to believe it's a new 'gene mutation', not when that very concept was born into all men and women so that the species could survive. Monogamous relationships would have killed the species early on, and is still far from natural.

And no mosh, before you ask: I don't have commitment problems. :p
 

Nitemare

Lifer
Feb 8, 2001
35,461
4
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: Nitemare
once a guy commits wimmenz turn off the sex
all relationships/marriages are sexless eventually? cannot be true.

sex while dating = good and plenty

sex while in a monogamous relationship = good and frequent

sex while living together or engaged = good but seldom

sex while married = *crickets, tumbleweed*
alright...maybe for some, but for all? no married people are having sex??Q?!!@#!

I take it you have never been married?

Marriage and monogamy is mostly a woman thing. It's nearly unheard of in the animal kingdom and goes against all mother nature's teachings.
all i was asking is if you thought that was an absolute. i thought the stats were more 50-50.

Based on the poll in L&R, 33% are satisfied.

keep in mind that L&R has the largest female presence on Anandtech and they most likely are satisfied.
 

manowar821

Diamond Member
Mar 1, 2007
6,063
0
0
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
ummm I thought the desire to spread your dna as much as possible was born into all straight men.

you must be one of those GUCs. :laugh:

according to the article only some men feel that way.

Well... In this case, it's not a matter of believing it or not, we really are born with the desire to spread out genes. Some of us are just better at controlling those animal instincts.
 

IceBergSLiM

Lifer
Jul 11, 2000
29,932
3
81
Originally posted by: manowar821
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
ummm I thought the desire to spread your dna as much as possible was born into all straight men.

you must be one of those GUCs. :laugh:

according to the article only some men feel that way.

Well... In this case, it's not a matter of believing it or not, we really are born with the desire to spread out genes. Some of us are just better at controlling those animal instincts.

yes I am not condoning acting like a scumbag and then blaming science. Don't commit if you aren't going to be legit with it.
 

Fritzo

Lifer
Jan 3, 2001
41,920
2,161
126
The problem with these men is not that it's in their genes, it's that it's always out of their jeans.