- Nov 17, 2004
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well... i just want to throw this out there. a short story of trying to help my bro out...
back in February i let my brother move into my basement, rent and expenses-free. He had no job and no money at the time. I make a decent buck and could provide meals and a roof over his head. He was living at my Dad's place, and my Dad was pretty hard on him every day, asking him "what the hell are you doing today? how's that job search going?"... not in a supportive tone either.
So his and my Dad's relationship started to go south and I didn't want it to erode completely or have lasting negative feelings. I live alone, I am divorced, so I thought I could use the company for a while until he found a job. So I offered him my basement and eventually he took me up on it.
Now he's moving out and it seems like it's because he can't take living there. Over the past couple months, I have nagged him a few times... don't leave piss sprinkles on the toilet seat (apprently he wasn't lifting it to piss?), don't load the dishwasher like you're 5 years old, don't wash the towels if you can't do it right, etc... just normal roommate-type stuff. He also seems to be devoid of manners and / or gratitude (I cook him dinner every night and he never says thanks).
He ended up getting a job at a local factory.. it pays $20/hr which is decent enough. He is 33 and I was starting to worry that he was going to stretch my short-term stay offer into something longer. I always said to him that his goal should be getting his own place. He offered to pay me rent and I said that I'd rather him save up for his own first/last somewhere.
Last night he got home from work (he's on afternoons) and he was really loud and woke me up. I told him to try to not be super loud when he comes home late. His reply was that he's going to rent a room somewhere else.
So I kind of feel like a dick... but at the same time, I think it's important that he gets out on his own and gets his own place. Working is part of life... he should get into that routine and start being independent.
/blog, comments are welcome
back in February i let my brother move into my basement, rent and expenses-free. He had no job and no money at the time. I make a decent buck and could provide meals and a roof over his head. He was living at my Dad's place, and my Dad was pretty hard on him every day, asking him "what the hell are you doing today? how's that job search going?"... not in a supportive tone either.
So his and my Dad's relationship started to go south and I didn't want it to erode completely or have lasting negative feelings. I live alone, I am divorced, so I thought I could use the company for a while until he found a job. So I offered him my basement and eventually he took me up on it.
Now he's moving out and it seems like it's because he can't take living there. Over the past couple months, I have nagged him a few times... don't leave piss sprinkles on the toilet seat (apprently he wasn't lifting it to piss?), don't load the dishwasher like you're 5 years old, don't wash the towels if you can't do it right, etc... just normal roommate-type stuff. He also seems to be devoid of manners and / or gratitude (I cook him dinner every night and he never says thanks).
He ended up getting a job at a local factory.. it pays $20/hr which is decent enough. He is 33 and I was starting to worry that he was going to stretch my short-term stay offer into something longer. I always said to him that his goal should be getting his own place. He offered to pay me rent and I said that I'd rather him save up for his own first/last somewhere.
Last night he got home from work (he's on afternoons) and he was really loud and woke me up. I told him to try to not be super loud when he comes home late. His reply was that he's going to rent a room somewhere else.
So I kind of feel like a dick... but at the same time, I think it's important that he gets out on his own and gets his own place. Working is part of life... he should get into that routine and start being independent.
/blog, comments are welcome
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