Boston: yes or no?

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manlymatt83

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Hey all,

I'm having a bit of a dilemma right now. Maybe someone can help me out who has more experience than me.

I live in South Jersey and have lived here for about 4 years .... part of me always debates that its kinda dull down here and as soon as I graduate college this May or shortly after I was considering moving back to North Jersey, which is where I grew up.

Anyway, I dated a girl for about 2.5 years who went to school in Boston. I went to visit her ALL the time. We broke up about 2 months ago, but still constantly talk. Anyway, shes really the only person I know in Boston. While visiting her, I really grew to LOVE the city. I loved going up there. I'm going up there in March for a conference even though she won't be there (shes currently studying elsewhere for a semester).

Anyway, part of me wants to move to Boston instead of North Jersey because of how much I like it. I really only want to move north... my options are to stay in south jersey, move to north jersey and work there or in new york, or move to boston and work there... those are the areas I like.

I'm having trouble deciding whether I like Boston only because the girl I love right now is there, or if i really like the city. Or maybe I like the city because I have memories of her tied to that city, and if I lived there WITHOUT dating her or seeing her, I might realize its not my favorite place to be.... but I don't know. Deep down inside my heart yearns to be up there to be happy (or at least in that area), but at the same time, without her in my life, part of me thinks I might not like it as much.... I associate her to boston and that might be one of the main reasons I enjoy it so much.

Anyway, some people are saying I probably like it and should just go if I want to. Others are saying to move up to North Jersey, get a place (I have a decent amount of friends all over North Jersey because its where I grew up), and then see where I am a year or two from now....my family is in North jersey so I know I woudln't be bored! Most people agree that I should get out of South Jersey, which part of me feels is necessary in the next year or so (not right away).

So.... what do you think? Do I like Boston, should I pick up, go there (no matter what happens with the girl), and see what happens? Of course this would mean I would need to get a job there, but I could send out resumes. OR, should I chill in South Jersey a bit, and eventually move to North Jersey and spend some time there (hey, its about 1/3 of the way to Boston anyway!)... then see what I want to do once I'm over the girl?

The girl should be left out of this anyway. I LOVE her a lot .... but .... this decision to move to Boston / North Jersey or not move to Boston / North Jersey should only be based on my life, and not really her at all ... in case we don't ever get back together, etc.

Thanks for the advice!

-Matt
 
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gopunk

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i'm not quite sure what kind of advice you want from us... for us to tell you whether or not you like boston on its merits?
 
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gotsmack

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I'm from north jersey too. What school did you go to in south jersey. If you say Rutgers-Camden you're going to have to provide a reason.

I vote for going to Boston because I believe the girls in Boston are more attractive and the people there are more friendly too. I'd move there if it wasn't so cold, maybe I'll see if I can get a time share there when I save up some money.
 
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Adica

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Boston is a really nice city. Trust me I live here. Boston is also very expensive and, I would not make the move unless you have a job already. It's laid back and friendly here and I think it would be easy for you to make friends and feel at home. On the other note, you need to decide if it's for the girl or not. No one here can tell you that. I say find a job and go for it, but don't have any expectations with this girl.
 
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manlymatt83

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Thanks :)

I like Boston too... especially a fan of the transportation system. Heck, I've got an Amtrak credit card. hehe.

Anyway, another thing is .... I only have a couple thousand in the bank and I've got a SMALL amount of credit card debt remaining (been working to pay it off). This is why part me thinks it might be good to wait until September or sometime next year .... get $10K in the bank and have no credit card debt. Then find a job... then I can move and move comforatably with money to spare ... instead of rushing into things.....

FTW? FTL? Opinions?
 
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stan394

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but seriously, I think Boston is a good city. I lived there for 4 years. nice and historical. Winter is not too harsh. Things are old definitely but it got taste. living standard is high. drivers are maniac. nice restaurants.
 
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manlymatt83

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Well I already sent my resume to a bunch of places in new york AND boston. We'll see what happens.
 
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Adica

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Thanks :)

I like Boston too... especially a fan of the transportation system. Heck, I've got an Amtrak credit card. hehe.

Anyway, another thing is .... I only have a couple thousand in the bank and I've got a SMALL amount of credit card debt remaining (been working to pay it off). This is why part me thinks it might be good to wait until September or sometime next year .... get $10K in the bank and have no credit card debt. Then find a job... then I can move and move comforatably with money to spare ... instead of rushing into things.....

FTW? FTL? Opinions?
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Sounds like a plan! Go for it. Boston is not the last stop, if it doesn't work out, go somewhere else. Take it all with ease. Good luck!
 
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Adica

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
> Take it all with ease

You mean slowly? :)
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I mean although moving is a big deal, Just relax and hope that it works out. Don't stress to hard ya know. If you like it, Great! If not, it's ok because there are 49 other states out there for you to try. You're young, no family and no commited job, so have fun while you can. ;)
 
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