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Boss said I'm not invited to company holiday party

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Originally posted by: ahurtt
So have you decided to man up to it and just FREAKIN ASK HIM!?? That's all you need to do. . .go up to him face to face and ask him. Am I the only person who is not invited to the party? If his answer is yes, ask him why you were singled out. If his answer is no, ask him why adequate planning wasn't made to be able to accomodate everybody. Stop being such a limp noodle-dick about it and whining on the forums and go face up to him. Maybe he thinks he can push you around and you won't do squat. Maybe he thinks you have no backbone. Well guess what. . .unless you go confront him about this, you are proving him right! Stop going through the gossip mill and building up hostility and pent up anger and just go ask the man! Don't let it fester. Get it off your chest. "We don't have room for you" is not an adequate answer. If that is the case, why YOU?! He obviously has some kind of problem with you and you need to find out what it is in no uncertain terms.
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😕 I'm not whining about it here, I shared what happened and I asked everyone for advice.

Trust me, I will take yours and what was a lot of other people's advice and ask him about why I wasn't invited. Before I do that, I want to talk with my co-workers for their opinion.
 
Originally posted by: phreakah
Originally posted by: ahurtt
So have you decided to man up to it and just FREAKIN ASK HIM!?? That's all you need to do. . .go up to him face to face and ask him. Am I the only person who is not invited to the party? If his answer is yes, ask him why you were singled out. If his answer is no, ask him why adequate planning wasn't made to be able to accomodate everybody. Stop being such a limp noodle-dick about it and whining on the forums and go face up to him. Maybe he thinks he can push you around and you won't do squat. Maybe he thinks you have no backbone. Well guess what. . .unless you go confront him about this, you are proving him right! Stop going through the gossip mill and building up hostility and pent up anger and just go ask the man! Don't let it fester. Get it off your chest. "We don't have room for you" is not an adequate answer. If that is the case, why YOU?! He obviously has some kind of problem with you and you need to find out what it is in no uncertain terms.
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😕 I'm not whining about it here, I shared what happened and I asked everyone for advice.

Trust me, I will take yours and what was a lot of other people's advice and ask him about why I wasn't invited. Before I do that, I want to talk with my co-workers for their opinion.
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well, don't go stewing about it too much and gettin too many preconceived notions in your head. Go ahead and do it. Strike while the iron is hot! (Besides, I've been following this thread since yesterday and I am really curious to know what kind of a-hole excuse the a-hole will come up with when you confront him.)
 
I would like to know what the a-hole boss will say too. Watch him bust out a financial paper with proof that one extra person exceeds the holiday party budget. 😀
 
Go over his head. Once upper management finds out what a weasel he is he will be promoted and you will get a new boss.
 
Originally posted by: HBalzer
Originally posted by: phreakah
Originally posted by: flexy
what BS is this ? What is your position there ?
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My position is IT and Operations.. pretty important role for the company.. he relies on me pretty much on a daily basis and I do my job just fine.
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You are the It guy you need to teach him never mess with the IT guy. At the very least create some backdoors and such so you can easily hack into the network. Or my favorite write little programs that randomly delete stuff at random times if you don't log in for say a week.
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Welcome to BofH
 
Originally posted by: daniel49
Go over his head.
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Yeah. With your first shot, at least. Then aim at his nads. It's an argument clincher! :laugh:

 
Time to leave and take the customer database with you.

Newsflash: Your boss is an assh0le. If he doesn't think you're worth inviting to the party, he should have fired you. Instead, he's trying to force you out so he doesn't have to pay unemployment, etc. You might even have a case for a hostile work environment, depending on all of the circumstances.

You need to quit, but don't make it easy on the guy.
 
Originally posted by: phreakah
Originally posted by: daniel49
Go over his head. Once upper management finds out what a weasel he is he will be promoted and you will get a new boss.
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my boss is the owner
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So did you go confront him yet? What did he say? When are you going to ask him?
 
Thats a absolutely crappy thing to do. Holiday parties are supposed be for everyone, even those who have differences. Not inviting one or more person(s) defeats the WHOLE FRICKING purpose.

I would definitely talk to your boss in a very calm and non-confrontational way.



 
Originally posted by: ahurtt
Originally posted by: phreakah
Originally posted by: daniel49
Go over his head. Once upper management finds out what a weasel he is he will be promoted and you will get a new boss.
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my boss is the owner
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So did you go confront him yet? What did he say? When are you going to ask him?
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He's out for the day. I'll have to talk to him tomorrow
 
Originally posted by: phreakah
Originally posted by: ahurtt
Originally posted by: phreakah
Originally posted by: daniel49
Go over his head. Once upper management finds out what a weasel he is he will be promoted and you will get a new boss.
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my boss is the owner
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So did you go confront him yet? What did he say? When are you going to ask him?
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He's out for the day. I'll have to talk to him tomorrow
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must have been a helluva party!
 
Originally posted by: eakers
Could it be possible that your boss doesn't want you speaking to other companies at the party because he is worried about you switching companies?
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If that was the case then he would just have them sign an agreement not to work for a competitor. I've had to do it before (couldn't work with a competitor within a 100 mile radius within one year of leaving the company, etc).
 
Anyways, obviously your assessment of the situation between you and your boss was a little off-base.

What did you do when he told you?
 
Originally posted by: phreakah
so my boss just told me that there is no room for me at this year's company holiday party and I am not invited.

WTF.....


Some of you may remember from my previous threads that my boss and I didn't have a great relationship and he had anger/attitude/ego problems, but we worked them out about a month ago and I figured that everything was okay with us..

Then he tells me this?

Any ideas on what I should do? Should I just forget about it or should I talk to him about it?

As far as I know I'm the only one that is not invited. 😕
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Start asking EVERYONE if they were invited. Tehn point out you were specifically told you are NOT invited. That will make him feel like the big man at the party! Or maybe no one will go.
 
Well, after you ask everybody, you may be the cooties guy no one wants to hang around with for fear of being on the do not invite list or worse, the do not increase salary/promote list.
 
Originally posted by: phreakah
so my boss just told me that there is no room for me at this year's company holiday party and I am not invited.

WTF.....


Some of you may remember from my previous threads that my boss and I didn't have a great relationship and he had anger/attitude/ego problems, but we worked them out about a month ago and I figured that everything was okay with us..

Then he tells me this?

Any ideas on what I should do? Should I just forget about it or should I talk to him about it?

As far as I know I'm the only one that is not invited. 😕
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Are you still getting a Christmas bonus? Fsck it then. Company Christmas parties are always about as fun as a gang fight busting out at a funeral. IMO.
 
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