Whats going on in today's society? We have labeled spanking or hitting in anyway, shape, or form towards our children as a sinister act that only someone who is crazy would ever commit. It makes me look back, mind you I am not that old but as someone who is in my early twenties and also someone who was "abused" as a child I think I can vouch that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.
I grew up on a street that was very diverse, my neighbors were of many backgrounds: Indians, Italians, Russians, Jamaicans etc... Our sub-division was relatively new hence there were a great abundance of children playing outside at all times of the day. Most of us children got along quite well, and our parents the same. I remember almost every children on that street getting beat by their parents. Some got slapped, spanked, hair pulled, I mean the list goes on. It wasn't anything new to us, we would laugh at each other when we saw it happen but we always knew that the same could happen to us at any point in time.
All the parents were relatively blind to the fact that there was anything wrong with what they were doing. Most of them being immigrants who probably experienced the same "abuse" as a child. I look at these children who have now grown up into adults, most of these kids that i grew up with have done relatively well in life. Almost all of them are in university and pursuing great degrees, none of them exhibit any form or psychological distress that could ever be attributed to the "abuse" that we received as children.
Why is it that today if you are seen hitting your child you are a "bad" parent, the same goes for yelling at your child. What are we suppose to do? Talk to our children as if they are mentally inclined (no offense) with a soft spoken voice, no matter what they did. I find this ridiculous, society has become so soft in every aspect. I am not saying that I am going to "abuse" my child when and if I do have some, but I am also not saying that hitting your child is wrong. There obviously is a line that defines what hitting your child is vs bruising and battering them and putting them in medical distress. Once again, I just don't understand why this practice is frowned upon, anyone care to chime in? Feel free.
I grew up on a street that was very diverse, my neighbors were of many backgrounds: Indians, Italians, Russians, Jamaicans etc... Our sub-division was relatively new hence there were a great abundance of children playing outside at all times of the day. Most of us children got along quite well, and our parents the same. I remember almost every children on that street getting beat by their parents. Some got slapped, spanked, hair pulled, I mean the list goes on. It wasn't anything new to us, we would laugh at each other when we saw it happen but we always knew that the same could happen to us at any point in time.
All the parents were relatively blind to the fact that there was anything wrong with what they were doing. Most of them being immigrants who probably experienced the same "abuse" as a child. I look at these children who have now grown up into adults, most of these kids that i grew up with have done relatively well in life. Almost all of them are in university and pursuing great degrees, none of them exhibit any form or psychological distress that could ever be attributed to the "abuse" that we received as children.
Why is it that today if you are seen hitting your child you are a "bad" parent, the same goes for yelling at your child. What are we suppose to do? Talk to our children as if they are mentally inclined (no offense) with a soft spoken voice, no matter what they did. I find this ridiculous, society has become so soft in every aspect. I am not saying that I am going to "abuse" my child when and if I do have some, but I am also not saying that hitting your child is wrong. There obviously is a line that defines what hitting your child is vs bruising and battering them and putting them in medical distress. Once again, I just don't understand why this practice is frowned upon, anyone care to chime in? Feel free.
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