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Attention Whores: A Serious Discussion

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Isla

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First, let me preface this by saying I do not want to know who is or is not an attention whore. I simply do not care and I don't want this thread to be anything other than what it is intended to be: A discussion on what criteria earns a person this particular label by society.

What I would like is to hear what an attention whore is, by your definitions. Is it a good thing? A bad thing? I have been called an attention whore before, and it wasn't by people who like me. I don't see myself as one, because it seems that any attention one gets could be turned around and used against you. I've actually learned to keep a much lower profile around here because just starting a thread can get you labeled an attention whore! And of course I am confused now, not knowing whether it is a good or bad thing. 😛

To me, an attention whore is someone who consistently exhibits symptoms of Histrionic Personality Disorder. I don't see it as a good or bad thing, just a pattern of behavior that becomes obvious and annoying. Transparent, even. Usually I feel sorry for them but I also avoid them because they are tiring.

Just curious. Flame me if you feel the need, but I really hope to get some intelligent and reasonable feedback. I think we all could learn a thing or two concerning this topic.
 
Isla, I'm not calling you or anyone an "attention whore," but I feel an AH is someone who makes a post that is 100% guranteed to get a rise out of the forum, even though he/she states that he/she is not out for attention.
 
Whore
3. A person considered as having compromised principles for personal gain.
Attention
3: a general interest that leads people to want to know more; "She was the center of attention"

I think an attention whore is just someone who will do anything just to get people to realize that they exist, whether what they do is good or bad. They just want a reaction/interest.......any reaction/interest.

Everyone is an attention whore, but there's different levels......
 
What struck me out of that article is that Histrionic Personality Disorder is rarely found in men. Since it is likely that this dicussion may at some point involve gender I found it necessary to make this clear.
 
The whole issue of being an attention whore confuses me. 😕

Anyhow, anyone who wants my PIC please (please!) PM me.
 
frankly, i dont give a crap what a buncha 'geeks' on this forum want to label me as, what i do care is what i want them to label me as

maybe being an attention whore is to make up something you lack? 😉
 
Originally posted by: fatbaby
frankly, i dont give a crap what a buncha 'geeks' on this forum want to label me as, what i do care is what i want them to label me as maybe being an attention whore is to make up something you lack? 😉
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You're so vain, you think the song is about you, don't you? don't you?..... 😉
 
Hi Isla 🙂

If you're using the DSM - IV, then first we have to see if we even agree on whether this has an adequate system for classification of personality disorders based on symptoms. I, for one, think it is very very lacking. So while Histrionic disorder is defined by the DSM, it's not enough of a basis for diagnosis. It's a tough call sometimes.

An attention whore is anyone who seeks to appease the need for recognition. That means virtually everyone since most people require approbation as an external motivator, lacking the necessary training to motivate self through internal systems. The problem arises when attention whoring takes dramatic shapes and is observable in a society but the person is unawares of it. This is what makes it a disorder: maladaptation and deviance from the magic 68% point of normalcy.

An attention whore, alternately a person affected by histrionic disorder is still difficult to classify accurately because different behaviors manifest differently and in certain cases, may take other shapes not included in the DSM- IV.

In the end though, since we need some resolution and common ground, an attention whore really is a person suffering from histrionic personality disorder but it may also be a teenager experiementing with roles to find a fit and thus seeing into that aspect of human interaction. Highly variable and context-dependent. Thanks 🙂


Cheers ! 🙂
 
A discussion on what criteria earns a person this particular label by society.

"People come on [online forums] to hear themselves talk."

Now that's not a huge problem if the person is an interesting fellow. If they've got a wealth of knowledge/stories/jokes pertaining to whatever's being said, that's not attention whoring - that's contributing to a discussion, even if it is in the form of personal anecdotes. Attention whoring begins when a topic is steered by a person onto the subject of themselves on their own with little real relevancy, usually in a provocative manner in order to get immediately replies on the subject of themselves and not the discussion.

There seems to be a fine line between being able to talk about yourself in a relevant manner and hijacking the discussion to make it a personal matter. I can't decide whether women have a harder time with this balancing act because they naturally get more focused attention or because they naturally tend to talk about themselves more often than males. A little bit of both is my best guess.
 
Isla - Settle down and relax while I play you "Spanish Romance" followed by "A Farewell to Kings" on my classical guitar 😛. I prefer blending in the background, so the attention whore never flys my way... Some people require attention, not sure why but it's just the way they are I guess... I am glad I am not that way 🙂
 
Originally posted by: jjsole
Originally posted by: fatbaby
frankly, i dont give a crap what a buncha 'geeks' on this forum want to label me as, what i do care is what i want them to label me as maybe being an attention whore is to make up something you lack? 😉
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You're so vain, you think the song is about you, don't you? don't you?..... 😉
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omg i love myself [/kisses self]

muah! [/kisses self again]

f@p f@p f@p (fap is forbidden now?)
 
Originally posted by: jjsole
Originally posted by: fatbaby
frankly, i dont give a crap what a buncha 'geeks' on this forum want to label me as, what i do care is what i want them to label me as maybe being an attention whore is to make up something you lack? 😉
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You're so vain, you think the song is about you, don't you? don't you?..... 😉
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Good Song🙂

And youre also a Attention Whore because your post made me respond
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Originally posted by: linuxboy
An attention whore is anyone who seeks to appease the need for recognition.
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I would add to it:

An attention whore is anyone who seeks to appease for the need for recognition (often to the opposite sex to pacify a low self-esteem of oneself)

/EDIT.... I wouldn't say thats necessarily a "whore", but someone who does that "excessively" I'd label as one, whatever excessive is on any given day. 😉

 
IT'S ANYBODY GETTING MORE ATTENTION THAN ME.

Look, isn't an attention whore two things. It's what an attention whore is and what you call an attention whore. What we see in others is a projection of our own psychic content. The accusation we make of others is what we feel about ourtselves. We were told over and over that we were looking for attention. But of course we were. We never got any. It's bad to seek attention because it makes Mommy and Daddy realize how empty they are. They don't want you to do that. They make YOU feel bad to make you stop. Now YOU in turn hate anybody who openly seeks attention, and especially anybody who actually gets it. And don't forget that the need for attention is so powerfully ape like that any attention is better than none. Negative attention is better than none.
 
i am just here to hug isla

*hugs isla*

smack yakko witha trout

/me smacks yakko witha trout.

 
Originally posted by: Adul
i am just here to hug isla

*hugs isla*

smack yakko witha trout

/me smacks yakko witha trout.
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baffled2 is gonna be mad that you are smacking people with trout without getting permission first.
 
Originally posted by: yakko
Originally posted by: Adul
i am just here to hug isla

*hugs isla*

smack yakko witha trout

/me smacks yakko witha trout.
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baffled2 is gonna be mad that you are smacking people with trout without getting permission first.
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yeah. she better not see this thread....or it will be battle of the sexes! wait. its against adul. that cant be right...can it?
 
Just as society has come to place a colloquial label of "whore" on those who think any sex is good sex (as opposed to the classical definition), the attention whore is one who thinks any attention is good attention, regardless of the reactions it may cause.
 
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