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Locut0s

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My angry alcoholic father ruined my psyche. I didnt want to admit that but two summers ago I finally realized I'm not just a weird little dude with a quirky personality. I have some serious anger management issues that were not getting resolved and probably standing in my way of being a happy human being as well as productive member of society. Saw a shrink and we finally reached the conclusion is was his drinking and anger and self-esteem bashing that made me what I am today. Didnt want to admit that. Its such a cliche and I was hoping it would be deeper or more complex.
It isnt.
The shit that happens to kids is considerably more influential because they dont have much world experience and everything is very significant. Victories are more glorious, defeats (mental and physical) are more disheartening.
So, like many other gen-x kids with fathers who came back scarred from Vietnam, I grew up in an angry, hateful household which is why I wan an angry hateful little kid and since I never dealt with the core issue, grew up into an angry hateful adult.

Since discovering the real problem and learning how to deal with it I have become a shitload happier with myself, and am much easier for other people to like, so I have more friends.
Luckily I never picked up drinking as a habit cuz I seriously think that would have destroyed me before I left the Navy.

Oh, and doubt I have more successes than you. Being happy hasnt changed the fact I been outta work 3 years with no job in sight. No real girlfriend for 4 years. No sex with easy sluts in just under 3 years. No real friends (trust in life and death) since I left the Navy 5 years ago.

Thanks for the insightful post! I know I've posted my story more than once but for whatever it's worth:

The family I come from couldn't be more different really. Extremely supportive and loving for the most part. Though my mother and father are polar opposites, father is a white softy intellectual liberal, mother is down to earth hard working penny pinching Chinese lady. If I think far enough back I realize that my emotional problems go way way back to early childhood. When I was young and we were living in China I was EXTREMELY shy and never had any friends. This carried over to my later childhood living here in NA, never had any friends to speak of growing up and intensely disliked socializing. Over time this rather profound form of emotional isolation has turned into a deep rooted depression and anxiety problem. I've been in and out of University 5 or 6 time usually dropping out mid semester which shredded my 4.0 GPA coming out of HS. Still got As in most of the courses I finished though. In the past 6 years or so I've mostly worked retail jobs (actually only 2 jobs). I've spent long stretches of time, right now being one, just staying at home with no job or school doing nothing. Alcohol has been a problem for me though I seem to be able to control this right now. There was a point where I was drinking close to 2 bottles of vodka a week at home by myself. I'm 29, never had a GF, never even kissed a girl actually, live at home with the parents, currently have no job. A few positives I guess. I have $65k+ saved up in the bank from when I was working. I'm very smart, A+ student in a lot of things when I can keep my emotions out of the picture and I seem to soak up knowledge about everything and anything I take an interest in.

I have an appointment with a shrink coming up and I'm hopping to be able to work out my problems. I've been on medication in the past as well, which helped. Those meds kind of lost their effectiveness over time so I'll probably be prescribed something else in addition to talking with the shrink.
 
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alfa147x

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A turn table is really just an amplifier hooked up to a needle.

BTW obviously you know this but just in case, don't do that to a record you want to keep. It'll ruin it.

Well my turntable doesn't even have a pre amp :D

But yeah I know not to do it; ;)
 

alfa147x

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alfa147x

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Just received another one. A good friend in Afghanistan wanted me to take care of his collection. Same for another one. But that's japan