ATOT Consensus needed! Cheating neighbor with a deployed spouse

[sao123]

Originally posted by: mercanucaribe
This sounds like 2/3 of an episode of The Unit. The other 1/3, involving killing, will occur when the wife finds out you ratted her out and mows down your family with an M16.


I say you tell him. If I was that guy, I'd want to be told.

Then again, what if he kills her? Or what if he abuses her and gives her an extra hard beating that day? Then I'd wish I didn't say anything...

or most of ATOT would at this point say "karma's a b1tch, aint it."

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade
so you'd tell then?

i'm probably teh most outspoken against telling in this whole thread. i'm not satisfied with saying i wouldn't say anything... i like to take it one step further and chirp the tattlers.

but what if the shoe was on your foot? what if you were overseas and your wife had this guy at your apartment steadily with her, and was holding hands with him in public. your neighbor, whom you are friends with, sees it but doesn't say a word to you.

eventually after coming down with genital herpes you confront your wife and she admits it all and you find out your neighbor knew about it a year ago but didn't say a word to you.

i'm betting most people would be pissed the neighbor didn't tell them and probably break off friendship with him.

if i'm friends with my neighbour then maybe he tells me. i'f i'm not (which is the case with the OP) - then he can mind his own damn business. btw there is a common theme with you when you refer to cheaters. they all end up with a venereal disease of some sort...

i've mentioned STDs being passed only twice previously in this thread. it's not a long shot that if she's fvcking this guy she could catch something to pass on to her unknowing husband is it?

if it were me that witnessed your wife doing this i would tell you in a heartbeat. as far as a neighbor telling me i'd appreciate that they were looking out for me.

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: rbV5
I don't want my neighbors spying on me, however........ if my wife walks out my driveway, in public, holding some dude's hand, some guy that regularly visits while I'm away on deployment.....I better hear about it, and I'm quite sure I would understand if it were something like my brother, or cousin for crying out loud.

Thats how I'd want it to go down for me, and thats my standard for how I would treat it if it were someone else.

I agree. I'd want to know. And I'd like to know that I have neighbors that notice these things, and think enough to let me know.

Would you rather your neighbors not notice anything? What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: Safeway
Tell him. That bitch deserves the street.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

 

[Turin39789]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

How's that? Several people have said that it is no business of the OP what he and his wife see going on in their neighbors front yard. He and his wife have been accused of being stalkers for paying any attention to what happens at their neighbors house, and that if he acts on anything he sees he is being a noisy snoopy ratbastard.

I'll admit that the rapist scenario is a hyperbole, but the basic gist is if you see something bad happening at your neighbors house, you do what you can to help. If you hear your neighbor in an apartment beating their spouse, you damn well call the police and it's not being a snoop.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Turin39789

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

How's that? Several people have said that it is no business of the OP what he and his wife see going on in their neighbors front yard. He and his wife have been accused of being stalkers for paying any attention to what happens at their neighbors house, and that if he acts on anything he sees he is being a noisy snoopy ratbastard.

I'll admit that the rapist scenario is a hyperbole, but the basic gist is if you see something bad happening at your neighbors house, you do what you can to help. If you hear your neighbor in an apartment beating their spouse, you damn well call the police and it's not being a snoop.

If I see someone breaking in to my neighbours house, I call the cops. That's a no-brainer. All of the ALLEGED extra-marital crap and spouse-beating is none of my business. How do I know they're not just having a rough roll in the hay? The bottom line is when you draw conclusions and jump off the deep end, you get owned. Sooner or later, when you gain a bit of wisdom in life, you learn not to do it.

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

I don't see how it's irrelevant. Most of the responses were "MYOB" if you saw something going on out of the ordinary.

I have kids, and if my wife were doing anything that may be out of line, I'd prefer someone told me. But then, we're good with our neighbors - we have a good neighborhood...

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: gwrober

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

I don't see how it's irrelevant. Most of the responses were "MYOB" if you saw something going on out of the ordinary.

I have kids, and if my wife were doing anything that may be out of line, I'd prefer someone told me. But then, we're good with our neighbors - we have a good neighborhood...

Yeah, you're right. Someone climbing in the window is the same as someone holding hands on the front porch. My bad.

 

[animalia]

Do whatever you want. If you feel it is right to tell him, then do it. If not, take up a hobby.

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

I don't see how it's irrelevant. Most of the responses were "MYOB" if you saw something going on out of the ordinary.

I have kids, and if my wife were doing anything that may be out of line, I'd prefer someone told me. But then, we're good with our neighbors - we have a good neighborhood...

Yeah, you're right. Someone climbing in the window is the same as someone holding hands on the front porch. My bad.

That's not what I'm saying - what I'm saying is the OP has the right, and some are arguing the responsibility to let his neighbor know what they've seen. It may be something, it may not be.

But sometimes, esp. in the military, your only friend is the other guy in uniform watching your back. Whether you're both on the sand or at home. I, along with the other military folks here, see it too much. When your pal, and possibly the guy who may be providing cover fire you is getting screwed over, you watch his back. Period.

 

[FreshPrince]

what if it's her brother?

what if the man abuses his wife and you telling him might cause him to do something crazy?

are there any children involved?

MYOB

 

[Turin39789]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: gwrober
What if they didn't notice a would-be rapist climbing in your window while you were gone? What if there were kids in the house? You'd prefer no one mentioned anything, because what that criminal does in your house is 'private'???

Completely irrelevant to the situation. Thanks for chiming in though.

I don't see how it's irrelevant. Most of the responses were "MYOB" if you saw something going on out of the ordinary.

I have kids, and if my wife were doing anything that may be out of line, I'd prefer someone told me. But then, we're good with our neighbors - we have a good neighborhood...

Yeah, you're right. Someone climbing in the window is the same as someone holding hands on the front porch. My bad.

Meh, I've been locked out of my house, and had to climb a tree and jump onto the roof and crawl into a window to get into my apartment before. And it was at night so a neighbor wouldn't have recognized me. I've had to jimmy the locks on my sisters windows when she has locked herself out before, I did that one in broad daylight without her with me. What you saw was someone allegedly breaking into the house.

Then again I wouldn't have cared if you'd called the cops, I would have answered the door and explained the situation.

We're getting sidetracked on side issues. Are you saying you don't think the OP has enough evidence to reasonably suspect his neighbor is cheating on her husband, or that the evidence does suggest that but even if he knows that is what is going on, he should keep his nose out?

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: sao123
wow... the ignorance in this thread is...well ignorant.

First of all... theres this group of morons who ill call the you dont know if she's actually cheating camp...

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and swims around in the pond in the back yard... well it might be a german shepard... but I really doubt it.

It isnt hard to tell if 2 people are having some type of relationship. If a husband is away, and all of a sudden a guy is now hanging around, someone sees the wife holding hands walking around with him, then when the husband comes back the guy mysteriously disappears... Obviously something fishy is going on... thats reason enough for concern.


Secondly, there this camp of people who say he might just be a family member... well a simple viewing of the picture by the gentleman will confirm or deny that. Which will either erase the alarm or raise it.


Thirdly, theres this mind your own business camp. Most people are appreciative of someone looking out for them. If you can save someone the embarrassment of being the butt end of a lie and a joke for several years especially when the sanctity of marriage is involved... your information will be appreciated, especially if it exposes a lying cheating whore.


Finally, even if they have an open marriage, where he passes her off to some other guy to keep her warm while he's away... he will still most likely have the same reaction as in my second point.




MYOB/MYOFB is the easy way out... its the pvssy way out... because your all a bunch of cowards.

Put your money where your mouth is. I challenge you to get in touch with OP's buddy (with OP's help of course) and "break the news" to him. Somehow, I get the feeling that you'll take the "pvssy way out".

 

[Aimster]

next time you see the officer around, leave a note on his car.
that is it

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Turin39789
We're getting sidetracked on side issues. Are you saying you don't think the OP has enough evidence to reasonably suspect his neighbor is cheating on her husband, or that the evidence does suggest that but even if he knows that is what is going on, he should keep his nose out?

I'm saying that there is not enough evidence, but even if he saw the neighbour catching a huge load of spooge with her face that he should mind his own business.

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
This might be a little out there, but if I had an otherwise good relationship with my wife, and she was enjoying a little extra curricular activities, I don't think I'd really want to even know about it.

Originally posted by: AndrewR

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: AndrewR
[/b]CLIFF'S[/b]:
1) Wife of military officer who is deployed appears to be cheating.
2) What would you do?

What do you think?

I'd like her number :thumbsup:

No, you wouldn't. Trust me: :thumbsdown:

What's with the thumbsdown? I bet you are jealous you're not sharing in the fun.

Like Compu said above maybe that is what she was is supposed to be doing.

In fact maybe she details her fun activities to her husband.

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
This might be a little out there, but if I had an otherwise good relationship with my wife, and she was enjoying a little extra curricular activities, I don't think I'd really want to even know about it.

Originally posted by: AndrewR

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: AndrewR
[/b]CLIFF'S[/b]:
1) Wife of military officer who is deployed appears to be cheating.
2) What would you do?

What do you think?

I'd like her number :thumbsup:

No, you wouldn't. Trust me: :thumbsdown:

What's with the thumbsdown? I bet you are jealous you're not sharing in the fun.

Like Compu said above maybe that is what she was is supposed to be doing.

In fact maybe she details her fun activities to her husband.

Not everyone is a bottomfeeder, Dave. Don't be shocked.

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: Vic

Originally posted by: Safeway
This MYOB bullshit is just that, bullshit.

How can you tell the OP to not say anything? Would all of you 'MYOB' posters really NOT want to know if your wife or your husband was fvcking someone else behind your back? Yea right. Don't give sh!tty advice to other people.

As I said before, the OP should definitely step in and do something about the situation. He is out of the country, and his wife has totally fvcked their marriage up, and I don't think it is fair to the husband to continue on without knowing his wife is a heartless whore.

Because -- for all any of us here know -- the husband is already aware of the situation and approves. No, really... maybe he does.

Maybe he told her, go ahead, cause he plans on grabbing whatever he can overseas. We don't know. So, in the meantime, what they do is none of ours (or the OP's) fsckin' business.

MYOB. If more people did, the world would be a better place.

OMFGBBQ :shocked: Mark this day in history, I actually agree with Vic on this one.

 

[Turin39789]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Turin39789
We're getting sidetracked on side issues. Are you saying you don't think the OP has enough evidence to reasonably suspect his neighbor is cheating on her husband, or that the evidence does suggest that but even if he knows that is what is going on, he should keep his nose out?

I'm saying that there is not enough evidence, but even if he saw the neighbour catching a huge load of spooge with her face that he should mind his own business.

Cool. I respectfully disagree, though I think the evidence is a little wishy washy.

I'm heading out of the thread now, I've had my say and was starting to bicker.

 

[dmcowen674]

Originally posted by: AnyMal

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
This might be a little out there, but if I had an otherwise good relationship with my wife, and she was enjoying a little extra curricular activities, I don't think I'd really want to even know about it.

Originally posted by: AndrewR

Originally posted by: dmcowen674

Originally posted by: AndrewR
[/b]CLIFF'S[/b]:
1) Wife of military officer who is deployed appears to be cheating.
2) What would you do?

What do you think?

I'd like her number :thumbsup:

No, you wouldn't. Trust me: :thumbsdown:

What's with the thumbsdown? I bet you are jealous you're not sharing in the fun.

Like Compu said above maybe that is what she was is supposed to be doing.

In fact maybe she details her fun activities to her husband.

Not everyone is a bottomfeeder, Dave. Don't be shocked.

Awwwwwwww you're jealous too

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Turin39789

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Turin39789
We're getting sidetracked on side issues. Are you saying you don't think the OP has enough evidence to reasonably suspect his neighbor is cheating on her husband, or that the evidence does suggest that but even if he knows that is what is going on, he should keep his nose out?

I'm saying that there is not enough evidence, but even if he saw the neighbour catching a huge load of spooge with her face that he should mind his own business.

Cool. I respectfully disagree, though I think the evidence is a little wishy washy.

I'm heading out of the thread now, I've had my say and was starting to bicker.

Much respect. :beer:

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: AnyMal

Originally posted by: sao123
wow... the ignorance in this thread is...well ignorant.

First of all... theres this group of morons who ill call the you dont know if she's actually cheating camp...

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and swims around in the pond in the back yard... well it might be a german shepard... but I really doubt it.

It isnt hard to tell if 2 people are having some type of relationship. If a husband is away, and all of a sudden a guy is now hanging around, someone sees the wife holding hands walking around with him, then when the husband comes back the guy mysteriously disappears... Obviously something fishy is going on... thats reason enough for concern.


Secondly, there this camp of people who say he might just be a family member... well a simple viewing of the picture by the gentleman will confirm or deny that. Which will either erase the alarm or raise it.


Thirdly, theres this mind your own business camp. Most people are appreciative of someone looking out for them. If you can save someone the embarrassment of being the butt end of a lie and a joke for several years especially when the sanctity of marriage is involved... your information will be appreciated, especially if it exposes a lying cheating whore.


Finally, even if they have an open marriage, where he passes her off to some other guy to keep her warm while he's away... he will still most likely have the same reaction as in my second point.




MYOB/MYOFB is the easy way out... its the pvssy way out... because your all a bunch of cowards.

Put your money where your mouth is. I challenge you to get in touch with OP's buddy (with OP's help of course) and "break the news" to him. Somehow, I get the feeling that you'll take the "pvssy way out".

:roll::roll::roll::roll:
Which makes perfect sence, since I am the one who whitnessed all the evidence, and live across the street form this person.

My involvement would be illogical, only because I would be an unnecessary complication
that serves no real purpose.

If this was the person who lives across the street from me, I have done it, and would do it again...

Use common sence before making trying to challenge me, because you look like the moron not me.

 

[ultimatebob]

Take some pictures, and mail them to where he's stationed. This happens a lot, and many bases overseas have a "wall of shame" for things like this.

 

[sixone]

Even morons can spell "sense". :roll: