ATOT Consensus needed! Cheating neighbor with a deployed spouse

[theprodigalrebel]

Normally, I would but the fact that you don't even know the guy's name kinda throws this situation off. You don't know anything about the family, maybe the hand-holding guy is a relative or a loyal friend. Maybe he's her gay pal from college. You really don't know for certain...

You need to see them stick their tongues down each others throats while eeling up each others asses to know that they are cheating. Not holding hands, a peck or a hug....something concrete.

I would want a friend to tell me even the smallest detail...but a stranger better come up with something much more concrete.

 

[Perknose]

Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel
I would want a friend to tell me even the smallest detail...but a stranger better come up with something much more concrete.

And there you have it. :thumbsup:

 

[SirStev0]

Originally posted by: Safeway
Tell him. That bitch deserves the street.

Sorry I have to agree. This is absolute shtif for the poor guy off getting shot at.

 

[RgrPark]

I'd let the guy know anonymously. Take a picture of them holding hands or something and mail it.

 

[jjones]

I love the guilty until proven innocent attitude here. There's no concrete evidence she's even cheating and most everyone here wants to butt in where they're not wanted. Unless there's some undeniable evidence she's cheating, keep your suspicions to yourself. Even then, you hardly know this guy at all and who knows what arrangements he may have with his wife. Leave it for someone who knows them better.

 

[MrDudeMan]

you people saying he should MHOB are missing something else. if he got a picture of them holding hands, that is basically emotional cheating already, regardless of if they are having sex. i would want to know if my wife was holding hands with another guy because she is going to end up having sex with him if she already hasnt by that time, and holding another mans hand really isnt something a married woman with good intentions should do.

taking a picture of the hand-holding and leaving it on the doorstep for him is telling him the truth and not guessing anything. you told him you saw her holding another guys hand and he can do what he wants from there. i dont believe for 1 second that its her brother, cousin, or anyone else related to her because people dont hold peoples hands like that. it sounds stupid, but no one does that.

tell him.

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: crt1530
OK. It seems as though many people here have a problem because he is an outside observer. I understand this point of view.

To the people who say MYOB: Would you tell a friend if you found out their girlfriend/wife was cheating on them? What about a coworker?

Certainly. That's entirely different. If you knew that your close friend's wife was cheating on him, then you'd probably (should) know enough about the situation to be able to decide whether to get involved or not. In this case, there's no way the OP could know enough to make that call, and he would probably be butting in where he's not wanted by anyone affected.

 

[OS]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Yeah that way you won't have to face the consequences if you are wrong. You sound more like a cowardly POS and any kind of "MAN".

I'll tell you the kind of MAN I am. I'll show up at your door to let you know that *I* have been screwing your wife, and I'd hand you the pictures to prove it.

Sorry, she's not into skeevy little Nerds.

And I'm not into leather bags.

lol,weak,very weak

Oh, come on!

Right about now you're probably *wishing* that someone would come over to have a fling with you, nosy neighbor or not. You can be my sugar momma, and I'll be your Louis Vitton.

I'll dress Red up in a gimp outfit and let him hold the MiniDV camcorder.

you're totally out of line here and I expect an apology.

I'd prefer to see how powerful he becomes:laugh:

:Q

 

[BoomerD]

Jody comes to call again...happens all the time...and yes, it sux. HOWEVER, since they're not friends, you'd be well adviese to MYOB...getting in the middle of this will only cause you headaches down the line. YES, you COULD drop a dime on her with some of the other Security personel, but odds are, they already know...and MAYBE Jody is one of them...

 

[IronWing]

Cheating or not is a secondary issue, even MYOB, while certainly a valid approach, is secondary. There is a young man responsible for keeping himself and his unit members alive in Bush's War and the last thing he or his comrades need is for him to find out that his wife might be cheating while he's gone. That kind of news can wait for a time when he ain't busy.

 

[Eeezee]

Seriously, I would tell him, even though you don't know him. Make sure you have proof, the photograph is a good idea. I'd want to know. He should want to know too, even if it angers him. He'll be better off with someone that can remain faithful. Who knows, maybe he already knows and just doesn't care. In any case, tell him what you've seen. I can't believe so many people on ATOT would do nothing about this... but that's the same reason why most people won't call the cops if they witness someone being mugged or raped.

 

[mugs]

I wouldn't really want to get involved, but I might leave an anonymous note for the wife telling her to cut it out or the husband will find out.

 

[BoomerD]

One fellow I knew back in the early 70's, (USAF geek-type) found out his wife had been cheating,came home from Vietnam, walked up to the front door, rang the bell, when she opened it, he shot her between the eyes, then called the cops and waited for them. In court, it was considered a crime of passion, and he got 1 yr. in jail, and 10 yrs probation.

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: Eeezee
Seriously, I would tell him, even though you don't know him. Make sure you have proof, the photograph is a good idea. I'd want to know. He should want to know too, even if it angers him. He'll be better off with someone that can remain faithful. Who knows, maybe he already knows and just doesn't care. In any case, tell him what you've seen. I can't believe so many people on ATOT would do nothing about this... but that's the same reason why most people won't call the cops if they witness someone being mugged or raped.

Telling him would accomplish what? He is not in any position to do anything about it. It would distract him from his job.

Your comparison to reporting crimes is not valid. When one calls the cops it is because, in theory, the cops can do something to mitigate the crime. In this case, the soldier would just have to sit and stew over this news.

 

[IronWing]

Originally posted by: BoomerD
One fellow I knew back in the early 70's, (USAF geek-type) found out his wife had been cheating,came home from Vietnam, walked up to the front door, rang the bell, when she opened it, he shot her between the eyes, then called the cops and waited for them. In court, it was considered a crime of passion, and he got 1 yr. in jail, and 10 yrs probation.

A bad outcome all around. I might be wrong but I doubt many folks believe that infidelity warrants the death penalty.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
i would want to know if my wife was holding hands with another guy because she is going to end up having sex with him if she already hasnt by that time, and holding another mans hand really isnt something a married woman with good intentions should do.

No offense, dude/man ... but is your wife really that easy?

- M4H

 

[Conky]

Did anyone tell you to mind your own business?

 

[meltdown75]

The nosy nancy tattlers are making a comeback in the poll.

edit: btw it's funny how the topic title and poll question claim the neighbour to be cheating when it is in fact nothing but speculation and the OP jumping to conclusions.

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
MYOB
Get a life. I guess between posting on AT and spying on your neighbors, you must have a full schedule.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan
i would want to know if my wife was holding hands with another guy because she is going to end up having sex with him if she already hasnt by that time, and holding another mans hand really isnt something a married woman with good intentions should do.

No offense, dude/man ... but is your wife really that easy?

- M4H

i worded that a little strangely. sorry about that. honestly though, what adult woman holds hands with another man in an intimate fashion without an agenda? maybe its just where im from, but people dont do that. ive never seen people holding hands who i knew were not together/married. and no, she is not easy. if you can show me an example of when it would be appropriate for someones wife to walk around outside holding another mans hand for no reason at all, then i will retract my statement. to me that is somewhat of an intimate gesture that would reveal a more serious intent if that line has already been crossed. cheating to me has already been committed before the sex was had if there is intent to do it at some point. if someone wants go cheat and knows it will definitely not be ok with their spouse, there is already something wrong. acting on it physically in any way is not the first step...its a second or third. if your definition is different, then that might be where you didnt understand me.

 

[essasin]

If they are horrible neighbors and you don't even know them...I wouldn't care enough to say anything.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: waggy
MYOB

... or ...

MYOFB.

 

[moshquerade]

wow... amazing how many people want to just brush this under the carpet... like nothing is happening.

if i were a military spouse overseas and had a husband that was entertaining another woman while i was gone, and holding her hand in public, someone damn well better tell me. anyone who witnessed this cheating and looked the other way did NOT do me a favor by letting me look like a fool.

 

[dartworth]

Maybe the guy is tagging someone overseas...they swing like that....

They have an arrangement...

WTF...is it so hard to keep your nose out of other peoples' business...


MYOFBC

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: MX2times

Originally posted by: waggy
MYOB

FTW, stop looking out the window Cleavers.