ATOT Consensus needed! Cheating neighbor with a deployed spouse

[kedlav]

Wouldn't you want to know?

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[AlienCraft]

Originally posted by: doze
Unless this guy is a real good friend this is not your business.

MYOB QFT

 

[preslove]

Only spill the beans if you know that he doesn't cheat on her.

 

[apologetic]

In all seriousness, this is a crime under military law. It needs to be reported and dealt with before any more damage is done to the soldier.

 

[kamikaze27]

Originally posted by: AndrewR
All right, we live in a military housing community, and our next door neighbor is a Security Forces officer (military police for the Air Force). That career field is deployed as often as they are home, and he was deployed from about March through August or so. I was deployed for some of that time, but when I came home, I noticed (and my wife told me it was going on while I was gone) that there was another guy there with this other officer's wife. Now, there were other cars and some women as well so it was hard to tell what was going on.

So, the Security Forces guy comes back, and the other cars for the most part disappear with an occasional female around at times. We're not friends with these people as they have never been particularly welcoming (when they moved in, my wife and another neighbor's wife went over to say hello, and they were essentially ignored by the woman).

Fast forward a few months, and it appears the guy has been deployed again -- their ops tempo is horrible. Now, we've noticed that the same "other guy" we saw before is over quite frequently, and we haven't seen any others over (female friends) like we did last time. Today, the wife appeared with the "other guy" leaving the house holding hands. My daughter's room overlooks their driveway so it's easy to see by happenstance.

[/b]CLIFF'S[/b]:
1) Wife of military officer who is deployed appears to be cheating.
2) What would you do?

Anyway, would you do anything? I had a buddy who was deployed to Saudi Arabia for the start of OIF, and his wife cheated on him when he was out there. They subsequently divorced (he found out from a guy who was in the same unit as the bastard that was shacking up with his wife).

I'm tempted to take a photo and wait for the guy to return and hand it over. I also know some folks in Security Forces that I could talk to about this other officer (to get his name and contact info, nothing else). I don't even know the guy's name. No, it's not really my business, but if it were me out in the desert, I'd want to know if my wife were sleeping around in the house that I provide for her.

What do you think?

MYOB? fvck that...
round up ATOT crew, beat the living crap out of this dude for parking where its reserved. Oh... and then... get ALL ATOT women to bvtch-slap the woman silly for removing the no parking sign.

Doing the right thing and doing whats right are two different things.
shame on you all.

 

[imported_Mike]

You don't even have proof, and your wife might not be the best judge since she was offended by this chick when the first moved in.

 

[Aquaman]

Do what you want to do.......... you don't need advice from a message board.

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[deepinya]

Tape the act and send it my way....errr I mean send it to the guy in an unmarked box.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

My best friend's ex-husband cheated on her while he was away with the military years ago. (I think she was about 8 months pregnant.) It might not be your "business", but I'd want to know if my spouse was cheating on me. Better that way than finding out by getting some VD from him if the my spouse wasn't careful.

 

[huberm]

This guy is overseas giving up his complete effort to make this country a better place. He definitely doesn't deserve to be getting disrespected like that from his wife, I would tell her.

However, as a military member that has been deployed overseas, I would wait until he gets back. Don't bother him with this while he's over there, it would make his stay much more difficult. Also, wait a good few months when he gets back home to let him know, so he has a chance to readjust to civilian life.

 

[theprodigalrebel]

Holy crap!
The poll is at 71-70.

Who's taking bets?

 

[I Saw OJ]

All these amateur private investigators in this thread make me laugh.

"Get a picture of them holding hands"
"Video tape him arriving and leaving the house"
"Bug the house and record their conversations"
ect...


Give me a freaking break, mind your own damn business, this in no way affects the life of the OP or his wife, so just drop it.

 

[Cadop]

Integrity is one of the Air Force's core vaules. Telling on someone for doing something wrong is not a bad thing.

I would tell him.

 

[Bateluer]

I would probably let the SF know what his wife is up to, but I'd do it anonymously. I would definitely want to know if my spouse was cheating on me.

 

[Gooberlx2]

Originally posted by: Turin39789

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: compuwiz1
I think it would be hilarious, if it turns out, to be a relative, her brother, or someone else like that, and there is no affair going on at all. Now how you gonna feel for medling? :shocked:

that's the same thing I was thinking

That would be a "no harm" sitatution. The same if they are swingers, he will get the note, not give a crap and move on. If it's a cousin, same thing happens. Honestly the two nightmare situations the MYOB crowd have posted basically have the consequences of making the OP look a little silly. Big freaking whoop.

Not really. What would you think if someone came up to you and said all these things about your wife? Even if they're false, baseless, circumstantial, whatever...you wouldn't be thinking "oh you silly man, you've got it all wrong". You'd probably become all kinds of suspicious for no good reason.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
wow... amazing how many people want to just brush this under the carpet... like nothing is happening.

keeping your nose out of other people's lives and "brushing under the carpet" are two different things entirely.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade
wow... amazing how many people want to just brush this under the carpet... like nothing is happening.

keeping your nose out of other people's lives and "brushing under the carpet" are two different things entirely.

not really. keeping your nose out in this case would be just having to forget it's happening.

and don't break up my quotes

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade
wow... amazing how many people want to just brush this under the carpet... like nothing is happening.

keeping your nose out of other people's lives and "brushing under the carpet" are two different things entirely.

not really. keeping your nose out in this case would be just having to forget it's happening.

and don't break up my quotes

oh i'll break 'em up... i'll break 'em up all damn day!!

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade
wow... amazing how many people want to just brush this under the carpet... like nothing is happening.

keeping your nose out of other people's lives and "brushing under the carpet" are two different things entirely.

not really. keeping your nose out in this case would be just having to forget it's happening.

and don't break up my quotes

oh i'll break 'em up... i'll break 'em up all damn day!!

so you'd tell then?














:laugh:

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
so you'd tell then?

i'm probably teh most outspoken against telling in this whole thread. i'm not satisfied with saying i wouldn't say anything... i like to take it one step further and chirp the tattlers.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade
so you'd tell then?

i'm probably teh most outspoken against telling in this whole thread. i'm not satisfied with saying i wouldn't say anything... i like to take it one step further and chirp the tattlers.

but what if the shoe was on your foot? what if you were overseas and your wife had this guy at your apartment steadily with her, and was holding hands with him in public. your neighbor, whom you are friends with, sees it but doesn't say a word to you.

eventually after coming down with genital herpes you confront your wife and she admits it all and you find out your neighbor knew about it a year ago but didn't say a word to you.

i'm betting most people would be pissed the neighbor didn't tell them and probably break off friendship with him.

 

[mercanucaribe]

This sounds like 2/3 of an episode of The Unit. The other 1/3, involving killing, will occur when the wife finds out you ratted her out and mows down your family with an M16.


I say you tell him. If I was that guy, I'd want to be told.

Then again, what if he kills her? Or what if he abuses her and gives her an extra hard beating that day? Then I'd wish I didn't say anything...

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: Gooberlx2
MYOB!!

This is nothing new anyway. I think it's almost expected of military spouses to cheat.

Which is total BS, btw.

 

[sao123]

wow... the ignorance in this thread is...well ignorant.

First of all... theres this group of morons who ill call the you dont know if she's actually cheating camp...

If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and swims around in the pond in the back yard... well it might be a german shepard... but I really doubt it.

It isnt hard to tell if 2 people are having some type of relationship. If a husband is away, and all of a sudden a guy is now hanging around, someone sees the wife holding hands walking around with him, then when the husband comes back the guy mysteriously disappears... Obviously something fishy is going on... thats reason enough for concern.


Secondly, there this camp of people who say he might just be a family member... well a simple viewing of the picture by the gentleman will confirm or deny that. Which will either erase the alarm or raise it.


Thirdly, theres this mind your own business camp. Most people are appreciative of someone looking out for them. If you can save someone the embarrassment of being the butt end of a lie and a joke for several years especially when the sanctity of marriage is involved... your information will be appreciated, especially if it exposes a lying cheating whore.


Finally, even if they have an open marriage, where he passes her off to some other guy to keep her warm while he's away... he will still most likely have the same reaction as in my second point.




MYOB/MYOFB is the easy way out... its the pvssy way out... because your all a bunch of cowards.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: moshquerade
so you'd tell then?

i'm probably teh most outspoken against telling in this whole thread. i'm not satisfied with saying i wouldn't say anything... i like to take it one step further and chirp the tattlers.

but what if the shoe was on your foot? what if you were overseas and your wife had this guy at your apartment steadily with her, and was holding hands with him in public. your neighbor, whom you are friends with, sees it but doesn't say a word to you.

eventually after coming down with genital herpes you confront your wife and she admits it all and you find out your neighbor knew about it a year ago but didn't say a word to you.

i'm betting most people would be pissed the neighbor didn't tell them and probably break off friendship with him.

if i'm friends with my neighbour then maybe he tells me. i'f i'm not (which is the case with the OP) - then he can mind his own damn business. btw there is a common theme with you when you refer to cheaters. they all end up with a venereal disease of some sort...