ATOT Consensus needed! Cheating neighbor with a deployed spouse

[eojinlim]

Tell THE GUY OFF!!!! Everyone has a right to know whether their spouse is cheating on them....

 

[OutHouse]

Being a former AF Security Forces SSgt (1987-1997) this is a bad situation. A military guy boning other military guys a wife is bad all around. Nothing good can come from this and can undermine the authority of the officer(s)

If the other guy is an officer he needs to be booted out, period, end of story.

If the other guy is enlisted then he needs article-15 paper work started immediately. Period, end of story.

 

[jakedeez]

Your asking for drama man, just stay out of it.

 

[tooltime]

leave em be

 

[ShotgunSteven]

Originally posted by: 40Hands

Originally posted by: ShotgunSteven
The amusing thing is that 40Hands accuses me of trolling, when all I did was make a humorous post using various threads posted by desperate ATOT males as source material.

Religion has nothing to do with my choice as to what I would do in that situation, but I do thank you for identifying yourself as a bigot. We will be sure to add you to the list.

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor Try this genius. Ask 100 guys if they'd rather get punched in the face a few times or have their wives cheat on them. Will you disagree that all 100 of them would take the punches? Golly gee, why is that do you think? Because the betrayal of trust (I haven't once mentioned the sanctity of marriage) is exceedingly more painful and damaging long term.

Originally posted by: 40HandsYou're really grasping for straws now buddy. Yeah ill go ask 100 guys. You lose the arugment but I don't expect anything to come of it other then more of this BS from you. I already know enough about you from reading through a few P&N threads.

People have voted overwhelmingly that they would want to know if their spouse or significant other was cheating on them.

There is a difference between being a bigot and not wanting others moral beliefs imposed upon yourself.

The thread you mentioned has nothing to do with the topic. Read what classy said. You lose. /thread

I know this isn't the end of the thread because people will come back with their tired old argument and this will start from the beginning.

The thread I mentioned has nothing to do with the topic? Did I link the wrong thread by mistake or something?

I made no reply to Classy, so I am not sure what you're talking about there. The fact that you seem to think he might actually be credible on any topic pretty much marks you for a brain-dead git, though. :laugh: His reputation is such that if he said the sky was blue, I would go outside to see if it had actually turned green.

 

[montypythizzle]

Originally posted by: AndrewR
All right, we live in a military housing community, and our next door neighbor is a Security Forces officer (military police for the Air Force). That career field is deployed as often as they are home, and he was deployed from about March through August or so. I was deployed for some of that time, but when I came home, I noticed (and my wife told me it was going on while I was gone) that there was another guy there with this other officer's wife. Now, there were other cars and some women as well so it was hard to tell what was going on.

So, the Security Forces guy comes back, and the other cars for the most part disappear with an occasional female around at times. We're not friends with these people as they have never been particularly welcoming (when they moved in, my wife and another neighbor's wife went over to say hello, and they were essentially ignored by the woman).

Fast forward a few months, and it appears the guy has been deployed again -- their ops tempo is horrible. Now, we've noticed that the same "other guy" we saw before is over quite frequently, and we haven't seen any others over (female friends) like we did last time. Today, the wife appeared with the "other guy" leaving the house holding hands. My daughter's room overlooks their driveway so it's easy to see by happenstance.

[/b]CLIFF'S[/b]:
1) Wife of military officer who is deployed appears to be cheating.
2) What would you do?

Anyway, would you do anything? I had a buddy who was deployed to Saudi Arabia for the start of OIF, and his wife cheated on him when he was out there. They subsequently divorced (he found out from a guy who was in the same unit as the bastard that was shacking up with his wife).

I'm tempted to take a photo and wait for the guy to return and hand it over. I also know some folks in Security Forces that I could talk to about this other officer (to get his name and contact info, nothing else). I don't even know the guy's name. No, it's not really my business, but if it were me out in the desert, I'd want to know if my wife were sleeping around in the house that I provide for her.

What do you think?

i would murder him and be a martyr for the serviceman
or try a threesome

 

[saymyname]

Note on the door: "If you're cheating on your husband you need to stop now or get a divorce and let him find a better spouse"

 

[saymyname]

BTW, I didn't read this whole thread but how do you know that it isn't her brother? The operative word here is "if", if she's been cheating.

 

[40Hands]

Originally posted by: ShotgunSteven

Originally posted by: 40Hands

Originally posted by: ShotgunSteven
The amusing thing is that 40Hands accuses me of trolling, when all I did was make a humorous post using various threads posted by desperate ATOT males as source material.

Religion has nothing to do with my choice as to what I would do in that situation, but I do thank you for identifying yourself as a bigot. We will be sure to add you to the list.

Originally posted by: HeroOfPellinor Try this genius. Ask 100 guys if they'd rather get punched in the face a few times or have their wives cheat on them. Will you disagree that all 100 of them would take the punches? Golly gee, why is that do you think? Because the betrayal of trust (I haven't once mentioned the sanctity of marriage) is exceedingly more painful and damaging long term.

Originally posted by: 40HandsYou're really grasping for straws now buddy. Yeah ill go ask 100 guys. You lose the arugment but I don't expect anything to come of it other then more of this BS from you. I already know enough about you from reading through a few P&N threads.

People have voted overwhelmingly that they would want to know if their spouse or significant other was cheating on them.

There is a difference between being a bigot and not wanting others moral beliefs imposed upon yourself.

The thread you mentioned has nothing to do with the topic. Read what classy said. You lose. /thread

I know this isn't the end of the thread because people will come back with their tired old argument and this will start from the beginning.

The thread I mentioned has nothing to do with the topic? Did I link the wrong thread by mistake or something?

I made no reply to Classy, so I am not sure what you're talking about there. The fact that you seem to think he might actually be credible on any topic pretty much marks you for a brain-dead git, though. :laugh: His reputation is such that if he said the sky was blue, I would go outside to see if it had actually turned green.

I never said you responded to classy, I merely told you to read his post. Dismissing an argument based on the poster and insulting him? Sounds like a cop-out to me.

If you cannot understand the difference between the linked thread and this one then you're an idiot. Plain and simple. Make no mistake though, I see who the "brain-dead git" is here and this will be my last post arguing with him.

 

[classy]

Originally posted by: ShotgunSteven
I made no reply to Classy, so I am not sure what you're talking about there. The fact that you seem to think he might actually be credible on any topic pretty much marks you for a brain-dead git, though. :laugh: His reputation is such that if he said the sky was blue, I would go outside to see if it had actually turned green.

Now thats a laugh. Credible? Who in the hell on a forum board full of strangers is credible? Hey look I could care less that you a few others don't like the fact I am outspoken againt the bs slung out here. I tell it straight. Period.

Now these are Andy R's quotes, not mine

We're not friends with these people as they have never been particularly welcoming (when they moved in, my wife and another neighbor's wife went over to say hello, and they were essentially ignored by the woman).

Well if thats true why doesn't he mind his own business.

Today, the wife appeared with the "other guy" leaving the house holding hands. My daughter's room overlooks their driveway so it's easy to see by happenstance.

Now I could see if he walks outside or looking outside his livingroom wondow, but it is clear this dude is hanging out in his daughter's room no less, :laugh: lol, spying on and looking at this woman.

His whole reads like he has went undercover or something. Now me and little Andy don't like each other, but from his posts I expected he was better than this. I don't even care if she is cheating, it doesn't excuse his behavior. It makes you wonder if he didn't get turned and wants a little revenge himself. Heck I could even see if he knew the people, but he doesn't.

 

[bluemax]

I think most of the folks voting MYOB are horny little piggies hoping to keep their options open with "married chicks".

If you see it blatantly like last time, take the picture. Show the husband. They may be "liberal" and allow swinging while he's away - or he may be finding out his wife's a cheating bag of disease-infected pond scum.

Because people do nothing, more $hit happens. Get involved, don't be a weasel like the rest of the world is so rapidly degenerating into.

 

[40Hands]

Originally posted by: bluemax
I think most of the folks voting MYOB are horny little piggies hoping to keep their options open with "married chicks".

If you see it blatantly like last time, take the picture. Show the husband. They may be "liberal" and allow swinging while he's away - or he may be finding out his wife's a cheating bag of disease-infected pond scum.

Because people do nothing, more $hit happens. Get involved, don't be a weasel like the rest of the world is so rapidly degenerating into.

I think the non-MYOB folks are just worried old married folk who can't satisfy their wife enough to keep her from moving along. They want everyone in their neighborhood to keep an eye on their wife for them. Wasn't hard to turn that around was it? :roll:

I see. Taking pictures of your neighbors is considered normal and minding your own business is being a weasel? I thought the busybody crowd couldn't get anymore idiotic.

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: bluemax
I think most of the folks voting MYOB are horny little piggies hoping to keep their options open with "married chicks".

If you see it blatantly like last time, take the picture. Show the husband. They may be "liberal" and allow swinging while he's away - or he may be finding out his wife's a cheating bag of disease-infected pond scum.

Because people do nothing, more $hit happens. Get involved, don't be a weasel like the rest of the world is so rapidly degenerating into.

1. I voted MYOB. I don't agree with cheating or pursuing 'married chicks'
2. My vote is based on past experience. In the past I spoke up. The result? I lost friends and there was a ton of drama.
3. $hit doesn't happen because people do nothing in these situations. It happens because people CHOOSE it to happen. Your tattling on someone is not going to prevent people from cheating. What it will do is introduce drama into your life and give you a reputation of being someone to avoid.

Choose your actions for yourself. Attempting to control other people is only going to get you into more trouble.

 

[KB24]

Put it this way , she probably won't live next to you anymore . I would like to know if my wife was cheating . I say screw it and snitch .

 

[UDT89]

its all fine and dandy till she contracts an STD and gives it to her husband.

id rat the b!tch out.......friggen animal.

 

[bluemax]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
1. I voted MYOB. I don't agree with cheating or pursuing 'married chicks'
2. My vote is based on past experience. In the past I spoke up. The result? I lost friends and there was a ton of drama.
3. $hit doesn't happen because people do nothing in these situations. It happens because people CHOOSE it to happen. Your tattling on someone is not going to prevent people from cheating. What it will do is introduce drama into your life and give you a reputation of being someone to avoid.

Choose your actions for yourself. Attempting to control other people is only going to get you into more trouble.

You've got a really warped way of looking at things - purely Cover Your Arse. Selfish.

Regarding #2, do you really want "friends" who you can't share truth with? You have to swallow the fact she's a cheating whore in order to keep that friendship? Yeah, it'll result in drama - because scum-beings don't like it when people do the right thing. Makes 'em look bad.

And #3, the more you do nothing, the more selfish turds will take advantage of their freedom to be scum. If noone's going to stop them, why not? And the reputation of "someone to avoid" is only from the crowd of scummies who want to get away with crap like this. You're not controlling anyone - you're giving THEM control of the situation! Hubby deserves to know the problem so he can deal with it.

Dealing with the problem may create drama, but it's a whole lot better than a festering wound left from NOT dealing with it!

 

[bleeb]

I say don't get involved, when the husband returns be prepared to enjoy the free show.

 

[Looney]

Unless you know 100%, i say MYOB. If you absolutely do know 100%, then i said rat her out. Assuming i was married, i would definitely want to know if my wife was cheating on me.

 

[bluemax]

Originally posted by: bleeb
I say don't get involved, when the husband returns be prepared to enjoy the free show.

It's that kind of attitude that makes America such a great place. :roll:

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: Citrix
Being a former AF Security Forces SSgt (1987-1997) this is a bad situation. A military guy boning other military guys a wife is bad all around. Nothing good can come from this and can undermine the authority of the officer(s)

If the other guy is an officer he needs to be booted out, period, end of story.

If the other guy is enlisted then he needs article-15 paper work started immediately. Period, end of story.

Well put. But you forgot the good ol' wall-to-wall counseling.

 

[gwrober]

Originally posted by: bluemax
I think most of the folks voting MYOB are horny little piggies hoping to keep their options open with "married chicks".

If you see it blatantly like last time, take the picture. Show the husband. They may be "liberal" and allow swinging while he's away - or he may be finding out his wife's a cheating bag of disease-infected pond scum.

Because people do nothing, more $hit happens. Get involved, don't be a weasel like the rest of the world is so rapidly degenerating into.

:thumbsup:
This is true for so many things.....

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: bluemax

Originally posted by: DAGTA
1. I voted MYOB. I don't agree with cheating or pursuing 'married chicks'
2. My vote is based on past experience. In the past I spoke up. The result? I lost friends and there was a ton of drama.
3. $hit doesn't happen because people do nothing in these situations. It happens because people CHOOSE it to happen. Your tattling on someone is not going to prevent people from cheating. What it will do is introduce drama into your life and give you a reputation of being someone to avoid.

Choose your actions for yourself. Attempting to control other people is only going to get you into more trouble.

You've got a really warped way of looking at things - purely Cover Your Arse. Selfish.

Regarding #2, do you really want "friends" who you can't share truth with? You have to swallow the fact she's a cheating whore in order to keep that friendship? Yeah, it'll result in drama - because scum-beings don't like it when people do the right thing. Makes 'em look bad.

And #3, the more you do nothing, the more selfish turds will take advantage of their freedom to be scum. If noone's going to stop them, why not? And the reputation of "someone to avoid" is only from the crowd of scummies who want to get away with crap like this. You're not controlling anyone - you're giving THEM control of the situation! Hubby deserves to know the problem so he can deal with it.

Dealing with the problem may create drama, but it's a whole lot better than a festering wound left from NOT dealing with it!

Regarding #2. Let's say a woman is cheating on her boyfriend/husband and that guy is your friend. You approach him and tell him what is going on. He confronts her. They go through a few months of issues, during which time she hates you and he isn't in much contact. After the few months, they decide to work things out and give it another chance... they're chum happy again but now they want nothing to do with you.

#3. It isn't my job to police the world. I very much agree with Ghandhi's words, "You must be the change you want to see in the world." Rather than going around pointing out other people's problems, it's better to focus on your own, make yourself a better person, and live the example.

 

[rh71]

perhaps anonymously, and wipe your hands of it.

Originally posted by: Looney
Unless you know 100%, i say MYOB. If you absolutely do know 100%, then i said rat her out. Assuming i was married, i would definitely want to know if my wife was cheating on me.

yup.

 

[mcveigh]

Kill the mofo.

or at least tell the husband, when he gets back.

 

[Fern]

Still waiting for andrewR to post back about what he's going to do, or already did.

Fern