At what point do you kick your kid out?

[nutxo]

How far do you let a 19 year old push before you feel it's better if they just go?

 

[KLin]

Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

 

[pontifex]

i guess its time for our weekly "those who still live at home past 18" bashing thread

 

[IceBergSLiM]

if they are not in school at 19 they should at least be working and paying rent.

 

[waggy]

well if my children are going to college then thats fine. IF they are 20+ and not in school then they better get out.

My SIL stayed at home until she was 30. she was working (nearly full time) and not paying rent. My MIL tried to get her to move out but she just would not move. only reason she got her own place is she got married (and her parents moved).

 

[zebano]

ding dineg ding Iceberg wins. My 23 year old brother just graduated and moved back home. He works pays rent every month, it's just cheaper than an apartment. In fact the only concession he has gotten is that my parents don't force him to go to church since he is paying rent.

 

[nutxo]

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

parents need to give him a deadline. but good luck.

 

[Riverhound777]

Give em the "My house, my rules, or else get out" speech.

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

i would have my kid arrested if they did that
and i would get a restraining order against them coming near my house

 

[moshquerade]

he has no respect for his parents. time for him to find a place of his own now.

 

[Queasy]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

Yeah, I love my son and all but I'd kick him out for the first two alone.

 

[RightIsWrong]

There's a reason locksmiths are in business.

 

[Miramonti]

Noone is going to know when the time is right but you. Every kid and every situation is different.

Do I think its ok to kick a 19 year old out of the house for legitimate reasons? Yes. Tough love is the only way to go sometimes. (and tough sh!t is the only thing to say sometimes.)

 

[CaptnKirk]

If they're 27 & still breastfeeding . . . .

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: FoBoT

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

i would have my kid arrested if they did that
and i would get a restraining order against them coming near my house

He said "druggies" as opposed to drugs. I'm assuming he meant others known to do drugs, no?

 

[Bryophyte]

If the kid is in school and the parents can afford it, no problem. If the kid isn't in school and is working and paying for his/her own stuff, no problem. If the kid isn't in school and isn't paying for his/her own stuff, just sponging off the parents, that's a problem. If the kid is in his 50s and living with mommy and mommy has to make his lunch and stuff, that's a problem.

 

[Molondo]

So lets see. You kick the kid out, now what. What have you accomplished? Are you a better parent now?

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

That would be enough for me. I'd put him on a deadline to get a job, go to school or move out.

Being unemployed and hanging out with losers is no way to live. (Unless you're retired. )

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Originally posted by: Molondo
So lets see. You kick the kid out, now what. What have you accomplished? Are you a better parent now?

No. But now he's his own problem.

 

[Greenman]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

Thats the limit, toss his ass out the door.

 

[rh71]

Originally posted by: waggy
well if my children are going to college then thats fine. IF they are 20+ and not in school then they better get out.

my opinion too. I should also add that if they are done with college (~22yo), I don't mind if they stay home afterward to save money till they can afford a house. Renting is a waste of money - and I don't want that for my children. If they're going to do that, they may as well just give it to me.

 

[Horus]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

Yeah, it's called being a teenager. A real parent always lets a child come home. Only the weak ones kick them out.

I crashed my dad's fvcking car with my learner's permit, caused thousands of dollars worth of damage to both cars...all he did was look at me, and say "I'm dissapointed", and it made my mom cry. Worst punishment I've ever recieved.

 

[Philippine Mango]

Originally posted by: CaptnKirk
If they're 27 & still breastfeeding . . . .

So, what does that mean for me? What happenes if my parents find this thread!!?!??! Damn...

 

[Syrch]

Originally posted by: CaptnKirk
If they're 27 & still breastfeeding . . . .

You spying on me?