At what point do you kick your kid out?

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

lol.. how about.. duh -> kick him out IMMEDIATELY!

Obviousman to the scene

We say this and it's really easy to think that's how it'll be when it gets really bad. Then we find that we love a child so much that even doing what's best for the whole family becomes difficult.

Why do your parents still love him after he;'s been such a d1ck who doesnt show any respect towards them?

 

[Buck Armstrong]

Originally posted by: Lithium381
My brother and I still live at home. 22 yrs old. We both have jobs and pay (discounted) rent to our mom. We're both also set to graduate soon. No trouble with the law, and we try and respect our mother......she lets us stay.

I don't even think its necessarily mandatory to make the kid pay rent or buy his own food, detergent, soap, etc. But it IS mandatory that they be either working or going to school, regardless of age. If one of those two things are true, then the parent is just "helping" the child (instead of enabling), and there's no shame in that for either party.

 

[nutxo]

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

lol.. how about.. duh -> kick him out IMMEDIATELY!

Obviousman to the scene

We say this and it's really easy to think that's how it'll be when it gets really bad. Then we find that we love a child so much that even doing what's best for the whole family becomes difficult.

Why do your parents still love him after he;'s been such a d1ck who doesnt show any respect towards them?

Unconditional love. It's what most parents have for thier children. You can dislike a childs actions but still love the child. No one ever said it was rational.

 

[CarlKillerMiller]

Once again, ATOT shows that if its members were an actual representation of the real world's population, we'd be fvcked.


You can't just kick out your kid. From what you've said, Op, it seems that this kid has developed these habits from not being disciplined enough and not building character. I would lay down an ultimatum that either all of this sh!t stops, or he's out on his own.

Chances are that it won't, in which case you sit him down, strongly suggest a job but drop it if he resists too much, maybe help him look for an apartment, tell him that he's on his own for rent, then kick him out.

You can't just kick him out straightaway. He's your kid, for god's sake.

 

[ViviTheMage]

im a full time student , and i am 19, almost 20 (in december), second year of college....im living at home, id like to move out, but it is pretty spendy.

 

[BigJ]

Originally posted by: CarlKillerMiller
Once again, ATOT shows that if its members were an actual representation of the real world's population, we'd be fvcked.


You can't just kick out your kid. From what you've said, Op, it seems that this kid has developed these habits from not being disciplined enough and not building character. I would lay down an ultimatum that either all of this sh!t stops, or he's out on his own.

Chances are that it won't, in which case you sit him down, strongly suggest a job but drop it if he resists too much, maybe help him look for an apartment, tell him that he's on his own for rent, then kick him out.

You can't just kick him out straightaway. He's your kid, for god's sake.

And the pussification of America continues.

No amount of coddling by his parents is going to get the kid to change his ways. Only a reality call is going to change things.

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: JEDI

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: KLin
Depends on what kind of "pushing" he's doing.

Bringing druggies to the house

Refusing to look for work

Will not even follow the most basic household rules

Lies

Goes directly against what a parent says

lol.. how about.. duh -> kick him out IMMEDIATELY!

Obviousman to the scene

We say this and it's really easy to think that's how it'll be when it gets really bad. Then we find that we love a child so much that even doing what's best for the whole family becomes difficult.

Why do your parents still love him after he;'s been such a d1ck who doesnt show any respect towards them?

Sounds like you're going to make a great parent.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: BigJ

Originally posted by: CarlKillerMiller
Once again, ATOT shows that if its members were an actual representation of the real world's population, we'd be fvcked.


You can't just kick out your kid. From what you've said, Op, it seems that this kid has developed these habits from not being disciplined enough and not building character. I would lay down an ultimatum that either all of this sh!t stops, or he's out on his own.

Chances are that it won't, in which case you sit him down, strongly suggest a job but drop it if he resists too much, maybe help him look for an apartment, tell him that he's on his own for rent, then kick him out.

You can't just kick him out straightaway. He's your kid, for god's sake.

And the pussification of America continues.

No amount of coddling by his parents is going to get the kid to change his ways. Only a reality call is going to change things.

i have to agree

i have a friend who is about to be 29 and still lives with his mom...he holds jobs sporadically, and she even has to take care of his car payment most of the time...the car is in her name is the only reason she does it...he doesn't know i know all this, but his mom has talked to me about it

that car is his only expense and he manages to ****** that off quite often by spending his money on pot and gas to drive around pretty much aimlessly

 

[potato28]

Originally posted by: Riverhound777
Give em the "My house, my rules, or else get out" speech.

QFT. Also call the cops if he brings more druggies.

 

[nutxo]

Originally posted by: CarlKillerMiller
Once again, ATOT shows that if its members were an actual representation of the real world's population, we'd be fvcked.


You can't just kick out your kid. From what you've said, Op, it seems that this kid has developed these habits from not being disciplined enough and not building character. I would lay down an ultimatum that either all of this sh!t stops, or he's out on his own.

Chances are that it won't, in which case you sit him down, strongly suggest a job but drop it if he resists too much, maybe help him look for an apartment, tell him that he's on his own for rent, then kick him out.

You can't just kick him out straightaway. He's your kid, for god's sake.

Now you're making incorrect assumptions. The discipline doesn't work. I have the 3 children in the accelerated learning program that have no issues. My oldest son holds a job and goes to school and want to be something. As for character. How many assclowns on this forum have recieved the bronze patrick henry award?


It's not "straightaway" . There have been many warnings. It doesnt matter now anyways. She has 2 weeks.

 

[BarneyFife]

Originally posted by: BigJ

Originally posted by: CarlKillerMiller
Once again, ATOT shows that if its members were an actual representation of the real world's population, we'd be fvcked.


You can't just kick out your kid. From what you've said, Op, it seems that this kid has developed these habits from not being disciplined enough and not building character. I would lay down an ultimatum that either all of this sh!t stops, or he's out on his own.

Chances are that it won't, in which case you sit him down, strongly suggest a job but drop it if he resists too much, maybe help him look for an apartment, tell him that he's on his own for rent, then kick him out.

You can't just kick him out straightaway. He's your kid, for god's sake.

And the pussification of America continues.

No amount of coddling by his parents is going to get the kid to change his ways. Only a reality call is going to change things.

Yeah but what if he moves in with his "druggie" friends and then dies of an overdose?? I think the parent in this case has to lay the law down. Either go to school full-time or get a job and put pressure on him.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: nutxo

Originally posted by: CarlKillerMiller
Once again, ATOT shows that if its members were an actual representation of the real world's population, we'd be fvcked.


You can't just kick out your kid. From what you've said, Op, it seems that this kid has developed these habits from not being disciplined enough and not building character. I would lay down an ultimatum that either all of this sh!t stops, or he's out on his own.

Chances are that it won't, in which case you sit him down, strongly suggest a job but drop it if he resists too much, maybe help him look for an apartment, tell him that he's on his own for rent, then kick him out.

You can't just kick him out straightaway. He's your kid, for god's sake.

Now you're making incorrect assumptions. The discipline doesn't work. I have the 3 children in the accelerated learning program that have no issues. My oldest son holds a job and goes to school and want to be something. As for character. How many assclowns on this forum have recieved the bronze patrick henry award?


It's not "straightaway" . There have been many warnings. It doesnt matter now anyways. She has 2 weeks.

whats the patrick henry award?

and it's a she? oh, then thats different...

double standards, or whatever you call it?

 

[imported_sling]

Originally posted by: nutxo
How far do you let a 19 year old push before you feel it's better if they just go?

26 feet. Then it's all over.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

i got kicked out at 15

 

[BarneyFife]

Originally posted by: AznAnarchy99
i got kicked out at 15

Your parents are losers.

 

[Azraele]

As for college. Theres no hope. The kid went form being on honor roll to hanging out with losers and failing twice. Then failed summer school as well. Half a credit shy of a diploma.

That is really sad.

Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him man to man? Explaining how you watched him just slide downhill and how difficult is was to watch? Kicking him out would probably just accelerate his downward spiral. As a parent, you'd want to see him try to climb skyward once again. The problem is that allowing him to stay at home is not helping either. You have other children to worry about, and his just being there is detrimental to thir growth because they are seeing how he's behaving. I would suggest you seek some help from an experienced source on how to help your son.