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Originally posted by: sandorski
Originally posted by: Hafen
As far as the nature/nurture arguement goes, I see it as this:
Children have little interest in the opposite sex, then suddenly something turns on at puberty, and they are all the world. Normally, little boys start to like little girls (and vice versa.) Now what causes this? Presumably some hormone comes on, flips a switch and causes this change. Now what if for gays, there is some variation and causes the opposite switch to be turned on? All the genes to make a woman are present in a man, so why cannot this be so?
The arguement that homosexuality is just choice, and not a deep seating feeling or desire brings some disturbing consequences. To say that one's sexual inclinations are just a product of social conditioning, as a means to invalidate them, falsifies not only homesexual behavior, but heterosexual behavior as well.
You would then have to say the love I have for my wife is not real, but the outcome of this same conditioning that I have chose not to rebel against.
In the end, where does my love for her (woman) really come from? I do not know, I just feel it as a fiber of my being, just as my my need for food and drink. I can only guess the feelings of a gay person, I do not understand them. But I can empathize their feelings are just as integral to their being as my love for woman is to mine.
I personally feel that Homosexuality is a little of both. Some, as you say, are hardwired that way. Some choose to be that way or learn it.
Some may chose it, due to abuse, social trends (like now, much of the pop lezzie stuff right now is an act *cough, Britney, cough,*) whatever, but I think overall this is rare. I knew this kid in HS that ended up hanging himself because he couldn't deal with the fact that was attracted to men. No one knew he was gay before it happened. He hid it from everybody and was quite ashamed of it (obviously.) This kid didn't chose to be they way he was, no matter how hard he had tried to fight it. He didn't come from an abusive family (religously conservative, but a good family,) molestation, mental illness, etc etc or any of the other reasons people attribute to "turning" someone gay.
These are the people I feel bad for. They are something that their families/friends will never accept beacuse they are seen as defective or perverse.
As far as evolution goes; I don't think you can look at it so simply. Evolution often takes directions that on face value seem illogical or counterproductive, yet they exist. Take the plume of a peacock or the cheeks of an orangutan for example. Our inability to to find meaning does not speak to the abscence of fact, but to our lack of imagination.