Are You Raising Another Man's Child?

[cirrrocco]

Andy, you are truly a wonderful person. It is such an amazing story.

 

[Zenmervolt]

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

It's not like he left for good. Besides, how the hell do you expect someone to act when that sort of realization hits? Are you suggesting that it's better to go up to the child while he was still agitated over the revalation and subject the child to the reaction as well? There's such a thing as walking away for a few moments to collect yourself rather than just walking up while still emotionally unstable. Sheesh.

ZV

 

[cirrrocco]

Read the very end of the article, it is just so damm sad....damm those biatches...

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

It's not like he left for good. Besides, how the hell do you expect someone to act when that sort of realization hits? Are you suggesting that it's better to go up to the child while he was still agitated over the revalation and subject the child to the reaction as well? There's such a thing as walking away for a few moments to collect yourself rather than just walking up while still emotionally unstable. Sheesh.

ZV

Sorry, I expect him to act like a DAD. I realize that's a lot to ask, but who else is supposed to be the adult here?

 

[Andy22]

Originally posted by: cirrrocco
Andy, you are truly a wonderful person. It is such an amazing story.

Thanks but the fact that this was the result of an open marriage will definitely rub most people the wrong way...as is expected.

 

[BrokenVisage]

Heaven forbid they use the kid's real first name in the article, even after referring to the Dad by his full name thereby identifying the kid's family.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Andy22

Originally posted by: cirrrocco
Andy, you are truly a wonderful person. It is such an amazing story.

Thanks but the fact that this was the result of an open marriage will definitely rub most people the wrong way...as is expected.

It rubs me the wrong way. But you've put all that aside to be a good dad, and that far outweighs anything else.

 

[child of wonder]

lol My son looks exactly like me and even has many of my quirks.

 

[BrokenVisage]

Originally posted by: child of wonder
lol My son looks exactly like me and even has many of my quirks.

The child of the child of wonder? :Q

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

Yeah, what an asshole. After having his heart ripped out and his world turned upside down he really should have pulled it together and played through the pain. :roll:

Cut the guy a little slack, I think he's entitled to take a 5 minute breather after undergoing such a massive deception. He's not a fvcking robot.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

It's not like he left for good. Besides, how the hell do you expect someone to act when that sort of realization hits? Are you suggesting that it's better to go up to the child while he was still agitated over the revalation and subject the child to the reaction as well? There's such a thing as walking away for a few moments to collect yourself rather than just walking up while still emotionally unstable. Sheesh.

ZV

Sorry, I expect him to act like a DAD. I realize that's a lot to ask, but who else is supposed to be the adult here?

:roll:

a guy is watching a sons baseball game, someone drops a hammer on his toe, he is taken to the emergency room and sixone is going to criticize him for not being there for his son. :roll:

just because someone is a DAD it doesn't NOT MEAN they are not human.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Andy22

Originally posted by: cirrrocco
Andy, you are truly a wonderful person. It is such an amazing story.

Thanks but the fact that this was the result of an open marriage will definitely rub most people the wrong way...as is expected.

The open marriage part is your business, and if you don't want to give details we'll just have to wonder why it's ok with you.

but it's not like something like that wasn't going to inevitably happen.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

It's not like he left for good. Besides, how the hell do you expect someone to act when that sort of realization hits? Are you suggesting that it's better to go up to the child while he was still agitated over the revalation and subject the child to the reaction as well? There's such a thing as walking away for a few moments to collect yourself rather than just walking up while still emotionally unstable. Sheesh.

ZV

Sorry, I expect him to act like a DAD. I realize that's a lot to ask, but who else is supposed to be the adult here?

I don't think you can make that judgement unless you know exactly what the guy was going through. I wouldn't at all blame that guy for being so upset.

 

[ryan256]

Originally posted by: Andy22

Originally posted by: cirrrocco
Andy, you are truly a wonderful person. It is such an amazing story.

Thanks but the fact that this was the result of an open marriage will definitely rub most people the wrong way...as is expected.

That is a good story. Fortunately yours is not the horror story other men have faced. There was no deception. You and your wife have chosen to have an open marriage. You both know about it and are honest with each other. She even admitted to you she thought it might not be yours before the child was even born.

 

[PlatinumGold]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

It's not like he left for good. Besides, how the hell do you expect someone to act when that sort of realization hits? Are you suggesting that it's better to go up to the child while he was still agitated over the revalation and subject the child to the reaction as well? There's such a thing as walking away for a few moments to collect yourself rather than just walking up while still emotionally unstable. Sheesh.

ZV

Sorry, I expect him to act like a DAD. I realize that's a lot to ask, but who else is supposed to be the adult here?

I don't think you can make that judgement unless you know exactly what the guy was going through. I wouldn't at all blame that guy for being so upset.

ya, but frankly, this is a typical sixone response.

 

[CKent]

Originally posted by: BrokenVisage
Heaven forbid they use the kid's real first name in the article, even after referring to the Dad by his full name thereby identifying the kid's family.

Lol yep

Anyway, Satan, thine name is Woman.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

It's not like he left for good. Besides, how the hell do you expect someone to act when that sort of realization hits? Are you suggesting that it's better to go up to the child while he was still agitated over the revalation and subject the child to the reaction as well? There's such a thing as walking away for a few moments to collect yourself rather than just walking up while still emotionally unstable. Sheesh.

ZV

Sorry, I expect him to act like a DAD. I realize that's a lot to ask, but who else is supposed to be the adult here?

I don't think you can make that judgement unless you know exactly what the guy was going through. I wouldn't at all blame that guy for being so upset.

I wouldn't either. But he thought the kid needed a hug and some "fatherly consolation", and all the kid got was a view of his dad's back as he walked away. I'd think much more highly of him if he'd taken care of his kid first, and then handled his own problems.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: Luthien

Originally posted by: leftyman
That explains the nappy hair...

oh, ooh the racist police are comming. Al sharp****** is going to sue your butt off.

People have been banned for using that word here.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

You're right. The wife was a selfish bastard.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: mugs

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

You're right. The wife was a selfish bastard.

Of course she was. I'm dying to know the story on the sperm donor, and what the hell he was doing at a ball game being obvious about it. He certainly knew the truth when he showed up there.

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: Andy22
Long story...

My wife and I had an open marriage. The only rules were she had to tell me about it and she had to be careful. There's obviously a lot of details in there I am leaving out but really the wherefore and the why of our open marriage is another story entirely.

She calls me one day crying saying she just took a pregnancy test and she was pregnant. I left work and on the way home was trying to figure out why she was so upset since we had been trying for going on 4 years with no success. At first her explanation was that she was worried about the health of the baby because she had unknowingly gone to the tanning bed and had some alcohol. However, the level at which she was upset far exceeded that. Finally the lightbulb went off and I said "You don't think it's mine do you" and that is of course why she was so upset. We looked back at the time of conception it could have been either of us as the father. I was really anxious to be a father but definitely wanted it to be my blood. However, it was our bed we made so we had to lie in it and make the best of it. I decided regardless of the outcome I would raise the child as if it was my own.

When she was born there was a connection as if she was indeed my own. There was of course that doubt during the first year as we both tried to determine if she looked at all like me. Most people who saw pictures would say..."she must look like her mother" which always made me cringe. At about a year we had a paternity test done and a few weeks later I got a call with the results over the phone...they verified who I was and then said "99.9% chance you are not the biological father". My heart sank. But I had already built such an intense closeness to her that it did not affect the way I felt...she was my daughter. Our two closest friends are the only two that know us that know about our secret. Everyone else just assumes she looks more like her mother. An odd coincidence is that we are both left handed so that helps. We had our second daughter 3 years later and she is a spitting image of me, especially when I was her age and she looks almost nothing like her sister.

So far it has all turned out ok...I have two daughters that I love with all my heart but one day I am going to have to explain the situation and that will be hard on all of us I am sure.

Cliff Notes:

Not Available...read the whole story.

I have sometimes wondered why my brothers both look like my father, and I don't. Looking at pictures of my older brother as a child, you could only distinguish him from my younger brother because the pictures were taken in the 80s and not the 90s.

 

[Patt]

Well, if my daughter isn't mine ... my long-lost identical twin nailed my wife, because that kid is a spitting image of me right now. I'm hoping she grows out of it soon ... the chubby cheeks and lack of hair only enhance he similarities

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: Patt
Well, if my daughter isn't mine ... my long-lost identical twin nailed my wife, because that kid is a spitting image of me right now. I'm hoping she grows out of it soon ... the chubby cheeks and lack of hair only enhance he similarities

lol

 

[Mojoed]

According to a 1992 study in the Journal of Genetic Counseling, nearly 100 percent of 199 counselors felt that the confidentiality of the mother outweighed the presumed father's right to know.

Wtf. I mean REALLY, wtf. :disgust:

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: sixone
From the article:

To this day he remembers that game with a kind of nightmarish clarity. Matthew struck out. Connaro had planned on going over and giving him a hug, along with a few words of fatherly consolation, but when he heard the other guy yelling, he just stood up and walked away.

What a selfish bastard. Maybe the kid would be better off with another father.

Because if the kid doesn't get a hug after every strikeout than somehow his life is lessened? Give me a frickin break. Like a guy isn't allowed to be in shock after getting one the biggest shock that a man can get, only behind "you have a terminal illness". Taking some time to himself is a lot better than going up to his kid in the obviously agitated condition he was in.