Are you doomed to be a single geek for the rest of your life?

[AnyMal]

Well, my first marriage was a disaster, partly due to my ex-wife despizing computers and everything associated with it. She callem my fascination a "child's play" and a "lame excuse" for a career. Needless to say that could not go on and we got divorced in '98. At a time I was still in school and working part-time struggling to pay rent and support my son.

Fast forward to 2001; I met a wonderful girl who is extremely respectful of my career and hobby. Nothing makes a geek feel better about themselves more then when their mate says "when we move, I want you to have an office in our new house so you can work and study in peace" I am happily married now and we expect a little girl in November.

Bottom line is, your mate does not have to be a geek, just someone who understands and appreciates the passions of others.

 

[oLLie]

Originally posted by: NutBucket
Oddly enough, I was at a concert last Sunday and there were these two chicks sitting next to us. My friend struck up a conversation and to my shock the cuter of the two (quite good looking) is a 5th year EE @ CPP.:Q:Q Course, she had a ring on her finger which made me not act on it, but we'll see what happens in the fall

5th year ha!

*edit* At this point I'd say yes, I'm pretty doomed. Hopefully that'll change (somehow... magically... on it's own)

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: Soybomb

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt
<-- getting-married geek

Whoa! How long have you guys been dating? I though you were "fresh"!

Uh... we've been dating since January 19th, 2000.

nik

 

[clicknext]

Geeks don't have to go with geeks... believe it or not, geek guys and no-geek girls can get along. Just don't scare her away with your talk about how many times you reformat your computer every day.

 

[Spagina]

I think I'm doomed because I'm a horrible, horrible, HORRIBLE sign reader. I can look back two years from now and distinctly remembers times when girls were severly flirting with me or ASKING ME OUT!! And I was completely oblivious to it at the time, it's like a curse.

 

[datalink7]

Just turned 20.

Never been on a date.

Yes I have tried.

No, I don't see hope to rectify the situation.

I have become so jaded that I don't even complain anymore

You don't get to choose the cards you are delt. Only the way in which you play them. The cards I was delt = I can't interest women. This saddens me, but I just have to do the best that I can with my good cards to lead a happy life.

In the immoralt words of Eric Idle (from Monty Pythons "The Life Of Brian):

"Life's a pice of sh!t,
when you look at it.
Life's a laugh
and deaths a joke it's true.
You'll see it's all a show,
keep em laughing as you go,
just remember that the last laugh
is on you!

And always look on the bright side of life!"

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: clicknext
Geeks don't have to go with geeks... believe it or not, geek guys and no-geek girls can get along. Just don't scare her away with your talk about how many times you reformat your computer every day.

Mine's a "no-geek girl"

nik

 

[SinnerWolf]

i've dated a dozen or so women...usually about a year apart from eachother unless it's a short lived fling/vacation thing. Only been serious about 2 of them, and thank goodness neither of those worked out since one is now 2 times divorced and the other got way too into pot and bisexuality. I don't actively pursue women, which i think is the tragic fault within most of us geeks. For me, it's not a matter of being anti-social, not wanting someone, or being too afraid to take a risk. It's a matter of not feeling worthy, not knowing exactly what i want, or getting stuck in the friend zone. Ironically, after they get a serious BF or married they always want me...lol..go figure. Anyhow...I won't approach a woman unless i know without a doubt she's interested or attracted to me. And of course i can never tell when a woman is hitting on me until it's too late or someone points it out to me.
self dooming yes, but not without some small measure of hope.

 

[clicknext]

Originally posted by: ffmcobalt

Originally posted by: clicknext
Geeks don't have to go with geeks... believe it or not, geek guys and no-geek girls can get along. Just don't scare her away with your talk about how many times you reformat your computer every day.

Mine's a "no-geek girl"

nik

That was a spelling mistake, by the way. Supposed to be non-geek girl. And as is mine.

 

[SubZeroX]

*sigh* I've been stuck in the "friends zone" since forever. I think I'm doing something wrong. Every girl I've gotten close to just wants to be friends. Fvck! I'm pretty god damn frustrated right now.

 

[quirky]

heres a tip: when talking to a girl you like DONT THINK! just be yourself and let your words flow! then everything will be ok. please just trust me on that one.

 

[AlphaWolf829]

Ehh... doesn't bother me that people find me weird and geeky :| :disgust: . But hey Im 17 so I still have time to find that special girl . Honestly it doesn't bother me though.... I've done quite well on my own .... Though it would be nice to meet a nice girl my age.....

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: dirtboy

Originally posted by: HotChic
Worse - I'm doomed to be a single wannabe-geek for the rest of my life.

I don't know what's worse, being a single geek or wanting to be a single geek! :Q

No, I guess I'm doomed to be single, and I'm only a wannabe geek.

 

[PsychoAndy]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: dirtboy

Originally posted by: HotChic
Worse - I'm doomed to be a single wannabe-geek for the rest of my life.

I don't know what's worse, being a single geek or wanting to be a single geek! :Q

No, I guess I'm doomed to be single, and I'm only a wannabe geek.

I'm sure the GH forum could fix the latter rather than the former.

-PAB

 

[Dragnov]

Damn, depressing.

I'm a 100% full fledge geek. I am anti-social (I like to go out only with certain select ppl) and I don't go out of my greeting strangers because I don't really want to. I sit at the computer most the day, gaming and doing other geeky stuff. I go out maybe once a week if I feel like it, but I'd rather play Warcraft III most of the time. I'd rather not plan events because people are unreliable and never seem to give a yes or no answer and I'm not going to waste my time w/ that. I don't really look like a geek (at least thats what I've been told) and I've ben todl I'm pretty nice and dress well, but that I'm just simply anti-social. Problem is, I hold very high standards in regards to morales and personality, and I'm pretty with looks. No I don't go for the hottest girls and get shot down, but I look for a certain uniquness in them. I'm turning 20 in a few days, haven't had a gf since junior high, never encountered someone I would ask out as in looking for farther than friends yet since.

 

[Orsorum]

In response to weezergirl's original post, I doubt I'll remain single for the rest of my life. I like kids too much, and women, for my own good.

That being said, I tend to be quiet, antisocial, and very shy. For some reason, though, I seem to make friends fairly easily... I'm a good listener, I tend to add a bit of attitude in my comments, and I tend to be patient with people who need to talk. Actually... as I read my original post, I should add that I tend to be temperamental in the way I deal with people. One day I can be completely at ease, quiet but direct; the next, I just avoid people altogether.

I've been in a few serious relationships, but I've had the opportunity for many more. I'm one of those guys who'll miss signals left and right. I literally need a sledgehammer to the forehead to get it through to me in most cases. This little fact notwithstanding, I've remained single for a while, by choice. Too many things to worry about, too many issues I have to work out in my own life before I want to involve someone else in it.

Hehe... one of my favorite things to do is to spend time with my cousins... between four and ten years old. Kids are just fun to hang around, be goofy, blow raspberries, laugh... try and answer the existentialist questions that all little kids have. It's humbling, and yet, it's so fulfilling.

Hmm.

 

[AdamDuritz99]

Originally posted by: Gr1mL0cK
Damn, depressing.

I'm a 100% full fledge geek. I am anti-social (I like to go out only with certain select ppl) and I don't go out of my greeting strangers because I don't really want to. I sit at the computer most the day, gaming and doing other geeky stuff. I go out maybe once a week if I feel like it, but I'd rather play Warcraft III most of the time. I'd rather not plan events because people are unreliable and never seem to give a yes or no answer and I'm not going to waste my time w/ that. I don't really look like a geek (at least thats what I've been told) and I've ben todl I'm pretty nice and dress well, but that I'm just simply anti-social. Problem is, I hold very high standards in regards to morales and personality, and I'm pretty with looks. No I don't go for the hottest girls and get shot down, but I look for a certain uniquness in them. I'm turning 20 in a few days, haven't had a gf since junior high, never encountered someone I would ask out as in looking for farther than friends yet since.

:Q

Dude, that sucks!

Get out and be friendly.

peace
sean

 

[jlee75]

I don't think I'm doomed at all. If definition of 'geek' is one that enjoys computers alot (tinkering, etc) or gets a hard on when a new video card comes out... well I'm half that then. I've had successful long term relationships. I don't find it difficult to talk to girls. It's just that sometimes I'm in the mood for an aggressive one. ggrrrrrr!

Be it as it may, I am siingle now. But it always comes when you're least expecting it so no worries for me.


BTW if you thought I'm the second half of that definition.....

 

[kami]

I am a total geek, definitely not the best looking of the bunch(!!), but girls love me I'm "cute and sweet"...they even buy me drinks. So of course i have had girlfriends, etc...but it's hard for me to find the right ones, or ones that I think will be right I should say.

 

[Descartes]

I'd say I'm easily the biggest geek I've ever known. I generally abscond from overly social situations simply because I find them rather boring. Clubs are not for me. Bars are, generally, not for me. If I can't find someone to have an interesting conversation with, I'll be at home coding, reading, playing the piano, or watching all the proverbial geek television channels.

A lot of geeks have this whole "woe is me" mentality when it comes to their social situation. That's pretty pathetic. I think when my geek brethren finally accept who they are and develop some confidence, they'll see the women come around.

It's hard for those who look at women for more than physical attributes to simply go out and meet women. On average, you're probably not going to elicit interesting conversation from a woman whilst grinding in a club. You would have more luck in a bookstore's coffee bar, or something related.

Finding an intelligent woman with a quirky personality might be harder to find than the proverbial ditzy (sp?) blonde, but the resultant relationship will elicit moments of greater profundity.

I was initially attracted to the "great love" because of her physical beauty, but I loved her as much as I did because of her intelligence and quirky personality. These women are, in my experience, hard to come by...

 

[dirtboy]

Originally posted by: HotChic

Originally posted by: dirtboy

Originally posted by: HotChic
Worse - I'm doomed to be a single wannabe-geek for the rest of my life.

I don't know what's worse, being a single geek or wanting to be a single geek! :Q

No, I guess I'm doomed to be single, and I'm only a wannabe geek.

That sucks!

 

[roncarter]

Originally posted by: Chaotic42
I'm probably doomed. I have an overwhelming fear of rejection. I'd also probably screw up the relationship anyway.

Ignorance is bliss!

dood, how are you ever going to find a girl if you dont try to talk.. who cares.. rejection is part of life..

 

[Spamela]

i guess i'm a geek (professional software developer with graduate degree in comp sci).

however, i've been married over 20 years & never had a problem getting dates/gf's when i was single.

you have to get a life outside of the tech world if you're going to date a non-technical person.

 

[iamwiz82]

i'm 20 and currently live with my girlfriend I'm a full fledged geek. This includes cat5 running through the apt and more monitors than PCs .

 

[cherrytwist]

< Self-actualized geek that (used to) do well with the ladies.

Happily married to another self-actualized geek (B.S. in Anthropology...of course she's now a Credit Analyst ).

I dated a lot of women before finding one suitable for marriage. I'd get bored in most relationships after a few months. (Well, to confess, I had a 2.5 year long relationship with a woman previously whom I thought was "the one". She dumped me, I moved on and haven't looked back.)

Anyway, I don't think anybody is "doomed" to be single for the rest of their life. It's a choice.

And I'm not talking about people who get into relationships out of desperation. I know a few people like that and it's pathetic.

I genuinely believe there is somebody (actually a whole bunch of somebodys) out there for everybody.