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Originally posted by: weezergirl
Do you feel that you will go through your life without finding anyone ever?

Yep. I do feel like this. I'm almost 23 and I never had a GF. I'm not saying that I never got kissed b/c it's not true. And I'm not a geek.


 

weezergirl

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ok, first off. I'd just like to apologize for this thread. i didn't know it would get so depressing! anyways, to offer some light at the end of the tunnel....

I am a geek. and my bf is a total geek too.

me: EE major (CS option), plays video games, likes to read, hates dancing or clubbing, doens't party much, hates huge crowds, not good with new people, generally very shy, quiet, goes on AT, spends way too much time on the computer in general, etc.

my bf: plays video games, loves his computer, spends countless amount of dollars on the next cool electronic gadget, loves upgrading his computer, hates dancing, clubbing, downloads the newest release of a software (even if he doesn't use it, just needs to have it!), etc.

anyways, us super geeks somehow met each other and fell in love. it's been 2+ years now! gosh, if we can find somebody you can too. and people are right it doens't have to be a fellow geek but with the rising amount of chicks going into engineering it might be easier to find one. ;)

I think my #1 way to get with a fellow geek chick is to start getting to know them in class. most females in classes are forced to hang out with guys cuz there's just not that many girls to study with or whatevers so they'll be happy some guy is there and wants to talk to them! it's sometimes scary being the only girl in the class!!! but anyways, a lot of you guys are scared to be in the "friend zone". well that's ok, maybe you are in the friend zone with this girl...but this girl has many OTHER female friends that u could possibly get hooked up with. it doesn't hurt to widen the pool!!! anyways, the more females u get to know and meet the better chances u will have of hooking up with one. and just so u know, there ARE girls out there who liek shy and quiet guys. and for every guy who thinks he's too boring for a girl to like him, there is a girl out there who feels the same way. how sad is that? so yes, please go out there and find yourself a nice geek girl :) it can happen. dont' lose hope and don't give up so soon. most of u guys are still so young.
 

Chaotic42

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Originally posted by: roncarter


dood, how are you ever going to find a girl if you dont try to talk.. who cares.. rejection is part of life..

No, no, you get me wrong. I have no problem talking to people. That's not the problem at all. I just can't ask girls out. All 3 dates I've been on, I've been asked out by the girl.

 

tontod

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Hate to admit this, but I'm 24 (25 in a month) and havent been kissed yet. :Q:eek:

Hoping I'll be there soon, was out on a date recently.
 

SubZeroX

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Originally posted by: weezergirl
ok, first off. I'd just like to apologize for this thread. i didn't know it would get so depressing! anyways, to offer some light at the end of the tunnel....

I am a geek. and my bf is a total geek too.

me: EE major (CS option), plays video games, likes to read, hates dancing or clubbing, doens't party much, hates huge crowds, not good with new people, generally very shy, quiet, goes on AT, spends way too much time on the computer in general, etc.

my bf: plays video games, loves his computer, spends countless amount of dollars on the next cool electronic gadget, loves upgrading his computer, hates dancing, clubbing, downloads the newest release of a software (even if he doesn't use it, just needs to have it!), etc.

anyways, us super geeks somehow met each other and fell in love. it's been 2+ years now! gosh, if we can find somebody you can too. and people are right it doens't have to be a fellow geek but with the rising amount of chicks going into engineering it might be easier to find one. ;)

I think my #1 way to get with a fellow geek chick is to start getting to know them in class. most females in classes are forced to hang out with guys cuz there's just not that many girls to study with or whatevers so they'll be happy some guy is there and wants to talk to them! it's sometimes scary being the only girl in the class!!! but anyways, a lot of you guys are scared to be in the "friend zone". well that's ok, maybe you are in the friend zone with this girl...but this girl has many OTHER female friends that u could possibly get hooked up with. it doesn't hurt to widen the pool!!! anyways, the more females u get to know and meet the better chances u will have of hooking up with one. and just so u know, there ARE girls out there who liek shy and quiet guys. and for every guy who thinks he's too boring for a girl to like him, there is a girl out there who feels the same way. how sad is that? so yes, please go out there and find yourself a nice geek girl :) it can happen. dont' lose hope and don't give up so soon. most of u guys are still so young.


weezergirl, u seem like my dream girl. Too bad I graduated a few years earlier than you and you already have a bf...
 

BD2003

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Originally posted by: weezergirl
ok, first off. I'd just like to apologize for this thread. i didn't know it would get so depressing! anyways, to offer some light at the end of the tunnel.... I am a geek. and my bf is a total geek too. me: EE major (CS option), plays video games, likes to read, hates dancing or clubbing, doens't party much, hates huge crowds, not good with new people, generally very shy, quiet, goes on AT, spends way too much time on the computer in general, etc. my bf: plays video games, loves his computer, spends countless amount of dollars on the next cool electronic gadget, loves upgrading his computer, hates dancing, clubbing, downloads the newest release of a software (even if he doesn't use it, just needs to have it!), etc. anyways, us super geeks somehow met each other and fell in love. it's been 2+ years now! gosh, if we can find somebody you can too. and people are right it doens't have to be a fellow geek but with the rising amount of chicks going into engineering it might be easier to find one. ;) I think my #1 way to get with a fellow geek chick is to start getting to know them in class. most females in classes are forced to hang out with guys cuz there's just not that many girls to study with or whatevers so they'll be happy some guy is there and wants to talk to them! it's sometimes scary being the only girl in the class!!! but anyways, a lot of you guys are scared to be in the "friend zone". well that's ok, maybe you are in the friend zone with this girl...but this girl has many OTHER female friends that u could possibly get hooked up with. it doesn't hurt to widen the pool!!! anyways, the more females u get to know and meet the better chances u will have of hooking up with one. and just so u know, there ARE girls out there who liek shy and quiet guys. and for every guy who thinks he's too boring for a girl to like him, there is a girl out there who feels the same way. how sad is that? so yes, please go out there and find yourself a nice geek girl :) it can happen. dont' lose hope and don't give up so soon. most of u guys are still so young.


Hehehe, sounds exactly like me and my gf. Met her through a friend of a friend...that was 2 years ago.

I think that the biggest problem most geeks here are having is that they go immediately for the hot girl, not the girl that they would actually get along with well. Its funny how in the end, they could be standing next to their perfect girl but they dont give them a second look because theyre not a maxim model.

Geez, this is a really depressing thread.
 

Red Dawn

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[QI think that the biggest problem most geeks here are having is that they go immediately for the hot girl, not the girl that they would actually get along with well. Its funny how in the end, they could be standing next to their perfect girl but they dont give them a second look because theyre not a maxim model.
[/quote]Exactly. Hey who wants a girl with an eating disorder anyways?
 

Geekbabe

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think that the biggest problem most geeks here are having is that they go immediately for the hot girl, not the girl that they would actually get along with well. Its funny how in the end, they could be standing next to their perfect girl but they dont give them a second look because theyre not a maxim model.


That's part of the problem with living most of your life in 2D,your expectations become unrealistic.Btw,while very good looking I bet most of the Maxim models don't look like Maxim models without the efforts of hairstylists,makeup people,great lighting,wonderful photographers etc

The other problem I think is that many here haven't gotten to the place in life where they are truly comfortable with themselves and able to view being alone as a pleasurable thing that is a requirement for every healthy adult.I not only enjoy my time alone,I crave it and guard it closely,for me having somebody is a nice bonus to an already pretty content,happy life.


Enjoy your life,do the things that inspire and excite you,fill your own well and before you know it others will be flocking to you..let go of need and to you much will be given ! :)
 

PsychoAndy

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Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: LordMaul
As soon as I'm ready, I'll put on my "Single and Looking" Hat and they'll flock to me.

I'm first in line, Maul. *blows kiss*

So what am I? Chopped liver? Hmmph.

On a related note....Maul and women? Buhahahhahah. :D :D :D Thats like....well words cant descirbe it.

-PAB
 

Orsorum

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Originally posted by: PsychoAndy

So what am I? Chopped liver? Hmmph.

On a related note....Maul and women? Buhahahhahah. :D :D :D Thats like....well words cant descirbe it.

-PAB

Peanut butter and soy sauce?
 

LordMaul

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Nov 16, 2000
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Originally posted by: PsychoAndy
Originally posted by: HotChic
Originally posted by: LordMaul
As soon as I'm ready, I'll put on my "Single and Looking" Hat and they'll flock to me.

I'm first in line, Maul. *blows kiss*

So what am I? Chopped liver? Hmmph.

On a related note....Maul and women? Buhahahhahah. :D :D :D Thats like....well words cant descirbe it.

-PAB

Descirbe it? That sounds painful.
 

Noriaki

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I'll be 22 on October 12.

I've never really kissed a girl (a couple on the cheek, and one or two on a forehead, and those were female friends not "girl" friends).

I've never really had a date, in my grade 12 high school senior prom deal I took one of my female friends, so that's sort of a "date". But it was really just taking my friend with me, not a "date".

Never had a real girlfriend at all (though I have had at least a half dozen really close female friends, just not girl friends, and the person I would probably call my "best" friend is female).

Are there some 21+ out there who have never even been kissed? (I know you exist!!!!)
So there you go, we do exist ;)

Do you feel that you will go through your life without finding anyone ever? Not really...though it could easily happen.
How does that make you feel? *shrugs* The thought of being single forever doesn't bother me. I like being single, and I'm a happy person. There is the occasional day where it'd be nice to have a special someone...but mostly I'm happy being single.
 

kami

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think that the biggest problem most geeks here are having is that they go immediately for the hot girl, not the girl that they would actually get along with well. Its funny how in the end, they could be standing next to their perfect girl but they dont give them a second look because theyre not a maxim model.
Yup...

Read this guys: YOU CAN'T BE PICKY!

I'm not saying go out with someone you find disgusting, but lower the standards a bit. No offense to any textbook "knockouts" that might be reading this, but most of them have about as much depth to their personality as a monkey, with a few rare exceptions. 95% of the time, the average looking girls are where it's at. Good looks can go to a person's head I guess.

I've found as I get older that girls get less and less hung up on looks. Guys are a lot more superficial than girls. Actually, WAY WAY more superficial...i absolutely HATE IT when I am talking to someone and they use that as an excuse why they can't get a girl "i'm too ugly and girls only care about looks"...it's just total BS and a damn weak excuse.

A little confidence and making her laugh will go a lot further than a buff body and a perfect face. From my experiences, if you get her genuinely laughing it's hook line and sinker if you want it. Oh and be yourself: don't hide your geekiness but don't make it the topic of every conversation!!

Good luck my geek brethren! :D
 

Orsorum

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Kami nailed it on the head. Whatever it is.

Very, very few women look like maxim or playboy models. I have a tip for y'all - look really, really closely at the maxim pictures - that's right! They're airbrushed! Fixed so that the little stretch marks, the infetisemal (sp) bits of pudge, etc... all the little things that every woman (and man) have don't appear. They're completely fake!

Good words, Kami.
 

kami

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They're completely fake!
Yep.

Don't get me wrong, I love looking at babe pics as much as any other guy, but it's a lot different in real life folks.
 

Noriaki

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Hahah
Yeah Kami's probably right.

I guess I have "low standards" when it comes to looks. I find a great deal of women quite attractive phsycially. A nice smile and warm eyes go a LONG way with physical attractiveness for me. And any woman can have that, doesn't even require a lot of effort in the gym or complicated diets.

One thing I'd like to add though, about going out and being social. I don't like clubs and dance bar kinda things. If I met a girl there, she would probably not be the kind of girl I'd want to spend time with.
I don't mind going to a pub and having a beer, some wings, and a chat with my friends, but dance bars and the people that frequent them aren't really my kind of thing. So going out and being social in that sense won't really help me find a girl.

Just food for thought, not a complaint. I don't make any effort to find girls, I'm not sure I want one. But I'm just saying, if you are going to look for one, make sure you look in the place you'd find the kind you'd like. Not saying that she has to be a computer geek (though a little respect for your field might be nice), but if you are a quiet intellectual type, the loud outgoing dance-club type of girl might not be the sort you want. You know? On the other hand, maybe that is just the kind of girl you want. Just make sure you are going after the type of girl you want, and not the type of girl you think other people want.

Remember the old saying, "Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it."
If you go "chick hunting" at a dance bar, just make sure what'd you get is what you actually want.
 

Koing

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Originally posted by: Noriaki
Hahah
Yeah Kami's probably right.

I guess I have "low standards" when it comes to looks. I find a great deal of women quite attractive phsycially. A nice smile and warm eyes go a LONG way with physical attractiveness for me. And any woman can have that, doesn't even require a lot of effort in the gym or complicated diets.

One thing I'd like to add though, about going out and being social. I don't like clubs and dance bar kinda things. If I met a girl there, she would probably not be the kind of girl I'd want to spend time with.
I don't mind going to a pub and having a beer, some wings, and a chat with my friends, but dance bars and the people that frequent them aren't really my kind of thing. So going out and being social in that sense won't really help me find a girl.

Just food for thought, not a complaint. I don't make any effort to find girls, I'm not sure I want one. But I'm just saying, if you are going to look for one, make sure you look in the place you'd find the kind you'd like. Not saying that she has to be a computer geek (though a little respect for your field might be nice), but if you are a quiet intellectual type, the loud outgoing dance-club type of girl might not be the sort you want. You know? On the other hand, maybe that is just the kind of girl you want. Just make sure you are going after the type of girl you want, and not the type of girl you think other people want.

Remember the old saying, "Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it."
If you go "chick hunting" at a dance bar, just make sure what'd you get is what you actually want.

Good words.

I love to club and go to bars. Didn't meet my girlfriend there though.

People say that looks aren't everything but they do play quite a part though. It may be shallow but I wouldn't go out with a girl that I didn't think was gorgeous for me. Not anyone elses definition but for me shes got to be gorgeous and have a personality. If I have a girl thats not so attractive and shes got a great pesonality then shes my *friend* as I don't fancy her and there will not be any more feelings towards each other. In the same way I wouldn't expect a girl to go out with me if she didn't think I was attractive also.

Work out guys! Get some back bone and confidence and the women will see this and it makes life and work much easier! If you think your ugly then its going to be harder to meet girls with that sort of talk. But I bet most of you guys look alright and if you think that then you'll have a greater chance of meeting girls.
 

kami

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Noriaki,

I'm not into clubbing either...I hate it in fact, but I still go to bars/pubs/pool halls/etc. I wouldn't want a girl who goes clubbing every single weekend either. But just because a girl will do some dancing doesn't mean she's a total party person. Some people just like to let go when they have a few drinks :) I prefer to just chill out, but sometimes I will dance (would never do it sober - ever!). I had a girl once tell me that it's actually attractive even if you can't dance to save your life -- shows confidence (don't give a rats ass what others think).