Originally posted by: Dear Summer
which is more important for becoming successful?
Confidence by far. You can be confident that you will do the job properly, but still have low self-esteem. Or, you can have a very high self-esteem but still not be confident that you can flap your arms and fly to the moon. They are NOT the same thing.
America has just raised millions of kids with self-esteem building programs. For the most part, we have kids with high self-esteem, but few problem solving skills and few real-world skills.
Heck, do a google search for "self-esteem success" and you'll get a bunch of inspriational websites all spouting the same nonsense. When you look at real studies
like this, you see that self-esteem and success are only barely linked. "Objective evidence sometimes paints a much different picture, and many of the ostensible (selfreported) advantages claimed by people with high self-esteem are clearly disconfirmed". When there is a link, it is ususally the opposite: success makes high self-esteem and NOT the other way around like the inspriational websites claim.
Confidence means you tackle difficult problems, get the job done, and you look like a success to other people (even if you failed while trying). Confidence, in my experience, leads to promotions. But I haven't looked up studies on that issue.