Anyone "fall" for a girl you know you can't have?

[Zenmervolt]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
See if you still feel that way almost four years later. If you do, and if in that time you have realised that the two of you could never work in a relationship but you're still stuck on her anyway, then we'll talk.

ZV <-- taking a brief wallow in mild depression. I'll be better in a few minutes.

My situation is about the same. I realize it just won't work...but i still pine over her every day of my life. I talk to her on the phone once in a while and email once in a while, but i feel empty after i do..it hurts.

been 3 years for me.

Life's fun, ain't it. bleh.

ZV

 

[Storm]

To RagingBITCH

There are many fish in the sea 🙂, Why not keep her as a friend? You can never have too many of them.

 

[Angrymarshmello]

Originally posted by: Storm
To RagingBITCH

There are many fish in the sea 🙂, Why not keep her as a friend? You can never have too many of them.

Well she's pretty busy so we'd probably never see each other except at school. I'm over it now, just needed a little time to clear my head 🙂

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: pyonir

Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
See if you still feel that way almost four years later. If you do, and if in that time you have realised that the two of you could never work in a relationship but you're still stuck on her anyway, then we'll talk.

ZV <-- taking a brief wallow in mild depression. I'll be better in a few minutes.

My situation is about the same. I realize it just won't work...but i still pine over her every day of my life. I talk to her on the phone once in a while and email once in a while, but i feel empty after i do..it hurts.

been 3 years for me.

look at my response!~

 

[RegaPlanet]

goin through something similar myself right now. really i'm better off not dating this girl but we click and have been intimate which makes it all that much harder. just better for us not to be together but want it so bad.

 

[Atrail]

Anyone "fall" for a girl you know you can't have?

No, I don't guess I have.

 

[pyonir]

How would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some dude was all over her? Also, why torture yourself? I'm sure there are plenty o fish in the sea just beggin you to take them home~

saw your post. The girl in my situation doesn't have a boyfriend. As for plenty of fish...beggin? hardly. I was lucky enought to get one bite, let alone reach my limit.

 

[SOSTrooper]

You shouldnt be sad, you should be happy. You have potential for girls like that. Imagine when your luck kicks in with a single girl. Me, on the other hand, wish to be you.

 

[slikmunks]

yeah, it does suck, but... don't worry... plenty of fish in the sea... just gotta keep fishin'...

there's this really really cute chick, great smile, body, and nice personality to match... last quarter, i talked to her a couple times, not really more than acquaintances... we used to talk just about random stuff... now this quarter, she's dissapeared. I'll spend like an extra hour on campus just hangin' around to see if she'll pass by, but she doesn't... oh wellz... that's when i realize, taht there are a LOT more girls walking around 😉

 

[Angrymarshmello]

Originally posted by: pyonir

How would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some dude was all over her? Also, why torture yourself? I'm sure there are plenty o fish in the sea just beggin you to take them home~

saw your post. The girl in my situation doesn't have a boyfriend. As for plenty of fish...beggin? hardly. I was lucky enought to get one bite, let alone reach my limit.

*looks into his cooler - is empty*

Yea he's right - I probably wouldn't like it either. I know if I had a GF I wouldn't be giving my phone number to people who asked me out though. I know like I'm trying to spread blame - but this is my fault period, I'm just gullible in terms of my feelings towards women 🙁

 

[slikmunks]

Originally posted by: RagingBITCH

Originally posted by: pyonir

How would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some dude was all over her? Also, why torture yourself? I'm sure there are plenty o fish in the sea just beggin you to take them home~

saw your post. The girl in my situation doesn't have a boyfriend. As for plenty of fish...beggin? hardly. I was lucky enought to get one bite, let alone reach my limit.

*looks into his cooler - is empty*

Yea he's right - I probably wouldn't like it either. I know if I had a GF I wouldn't be giving my phone number to people who asked me out though. I know like I'm trying to spread blame - but this is my fault period, I'm just gullible in terms of my feelings towards women 🙁

aren't almost all guys? with the exceptions of the super-playas and pimps...

 

[bleeb]

Originally posted by: pyonir

How would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some dude was all over her? Also, why torture yourself? I'm sure there are plenty o fish in the sea just beggin you to take them home~

saw your post. The girl in my situation doesn't have a boyfriend. As for plenty of fish...beggin? hardly. I was lucky enought to get one bite, let alone reach my limit.

Stop wasting your time and your emotional well being... get out into the big wide world.. meet new people.

 

[tcsenter]

Anyone "fall" for a girl you know you can't have?

Oh man!

In college there was this girl who for an entire year was in virtually every class as I. My heart kinda did one of those funny beats the first time I saw her, like skipped a few beats. She was just walking in to class, good thing I didn't have to say anything to her at that point because it probably would have came out all tortuous and stuttering.

I had to endure this for an entire year, but I couldn't say or do anything because she wore a big fat engagement ring. Yeah, I know, that wouldn't stop some of you. But that is one of those 'hands off' situations in my view. If she wasn't already happy, she wouldn't be getting married to this guy, and I think its just a little disrespectful to be making moves on someone who is already spoken for.

Except, there is something. I was 20 ~ 21 at the time, and I wasn't all that perceptive about those 'suggestive' kinds of things that women do. I was completely oblivious to almost any kind of flirtatious behavior that fell short of the overt and unambiguous. As one might expect, this can be a problem, because a whole lot of flirtatious behavior falls somewhere short of the overt and unambiguous.

A few years later, I began to finally "pick up" on some of this 'suggestive' behavior, like one of those moments of clarity. DOH! I'm realizing there were several times this girl was really flirting with me and I was completely oblivious to it! We became friends and sat by each other after the first couple classes. But here I am, not wanting to give her the impression that I liked her "like that", because of her engagement ring, and so I kinda put blinders on when I was around her, because I didn't want to misconstrue something she said or did then end-up saying or doing something I would regret.

DUMB ASS STUPID IDIOT! She married whoever he was.

If I knew then what I know now...

 

[AreaCode707]

Originally posted by: tcsenter

If I knew then what I know now...

you'd know that some girls are just flirts and don't mean anything by it.

 

[LordMaul]

ICP - Mr. Johnson's Head


Listen to it. 😀

 

[Gillbot]

Yes, I was having a great time and what I thought was the beginning of a great relationship with a good friend, then all of a sudden she disappears for 2 weeks and returns MARRIED! I was like WTF happened. Now she refuses to talk to me or anything! Glad I moved on and found a great wife!!!!

 

[LordMaul]

No, never...it's THEM who cannot have ME. Got it?

 

[Zenmervolt]

Originally posted by: bleeb

Originally posted by: pyonir

How would you like it if you had a girlfriend and some dude was all over her? Also, why torture yourself? I'm sure there are plenty o fish in the sea just beggin you to take them home~

saw your post. The girl in my situation doesn't have a boyfriend. As for plenty of fish...beggin? hardly. I was lucky enought to get one bite, let alone reach my limit.

Stop wasting your time and your emotional well being... get out into the big wide world.. meet new people.

And sometimes even meeting (and dating) different people has no effect.

ZV

 

[tcsenter]

you'd know that some girls are just flirts and don't mean anything by it.

Sort of.

Rather, I'd KNOW some girls are just flirts and don't mean anything by it, because I've taken the chance to find out, not because I'm just 'presuming' as an article of faith they are just flirts and don't mean anything by it.

 

[bleeb]

This is where you need to take control of your feelings... tell yourself to MOVE ON. I assume you had a brief period of mourning... but you gotta move past it and start living your life. MOVE ON! =)

 

[Pastfinder]

My groin aches at times wishing for women....









Whoa......

 

[LeeTJ]

Shoot

every woman i've ever dated had a current BF when i met them. never stopped me.

don't despair. just let it happen. as long as she is willing to maintain a relationship with you, keep it going.

 

[Stark]

is she happy with her boyfriend? it isn't like she's married. sounds like she's checking out other fish in the sea.

 

[bleeb]

Guys these days are so wuss-like it ... amazes me how much power is allocated to women. The other day, I was at Red Robin and I observed what seemed like a date.... the girl was all cool & calm but the guy was all desperate in trying to please her; trying to make the date go well; trying to make conversation....(i could tell because of the body language and I over heard some of their conversation) =) Yeah I know I was snooping but its all in the name of learning about relationships and contemporary social structure.

Anyways, you could tell she had 'the power'. Us guys NEED to get the power back! hehe

 

[SilverThief]

I agree. Its sucks alright.